Depression - Lake Worth, FL

It's never easy to get through depression. I think that if you haven't sought professional help, it wouldn't be a bad idea. I think a lot of people have a stigma of seeking out a counsellor, but a lot of the times, all you need is someone that is outside of the situation to really see things clearly and help you find peace.

The important thing is that you find someone that knows what they are doing, they might suggest some great ideas on how to make these situations easier for you. Life throws a lot of negative stuff at us, and sometimes you need someone to help sort all of that out. Good luck.

I would say to you, don't rush "getting over it". Don't know if you ever do. My mom passed away 16 years ago and I still think of her everyday and still have moments when I cry because I miss her so. Allow yourself time to grieve. There is no set time or time limit for grieving. Take care! Be encourage!

losing a loved one takes time to get over if one ever really does. It's never easy especially if you really loved that person and spent quality time together. Try finding something you really like to do to distract yourself from thinking about it and getting depressed. I'm sure your daughter can use some support from you right now.
Talk to someone...therapist, friend, dr etc.

Depression is serious. You have let it go long enough. I am glad I read your request. SSRI's are selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors that replenish the natural serotonin that serves to cushion us against life's ups and downs. Get to a doctor and tell him exactly how you feel. If one of these drugs doesn't help you maybe another one will. Find the one that you and your doctor agrees is setting you straight. We all deserve and need to be healthy and happy. With your mother's passing you became an orphan for a while. You are now your own mother. Remember what you were told. Eat 3 healthy meals a day filled with fresh ingredients. Get out of bed and off the couch and exercise you muscles and brain. Meet people. At first you might not be able to be committed to the task but keep at it. You were happy once and maybe you even saw your mother happy, so you know how it goes. Beware of over functioning . You must be responsible FOR your self only. You will continue to be responsible TO others. I know you will do it. It's time.

It is a blessing to love someone so much that you miss them when they are gone and it is perfectly natural to grieve, especially around holiday time. The same is true over the breakup of a family. It should help to know that your mom is with you still in thought and spirit and does not want you to be sad, but to cherish the loving memories she gave you.

Your daughter separated from her husband because they mutually determined that it was in their best interest to part. You do the same when a job doesn't work out, or you decide to relocate for financial or other reasons. Of course such dislocations are painful, but a voluntary separation can be a positive thing, especially if they are mature about working things out. You can be a great comfort to your daughter and grandchild just now by remaining in their lives and maintaining family traditions.

It sounds as though you would benefit from a support group and possibly therapy to help with the healing. Hugs to you and your family!

Depression takes place when we focus our attention on ourselves and what we don't have. Believe it or not it's a choice we make...we can either stay still in the moment or get up and do something. Instead of feeling sad about your mothers passing, laugh about the good times and the great memories. Think of all the advice she gave and whatever she did to have a positive impact on your life.
Do you know how many people never knew their mother? Never heard her laugh or felt her hug? Re-focus your thoughts to what you and your mother had; no one, not even death can take away the memories or the moments!
Now, all you can do is be there for your daughter...be honest with her if she is not trying hard enough to fight for her marriage and love her enough so she knows you support whatever choice she makes for her life. We all whant the best for our children but we alos have to allow them to make their choices and live with their outcomes.
If you have faith pray about these things and have a dinner party. There is still life to be lived and moping around produces nothing of worth! have a dinner party in honor of your mother...put togehter a private candlelit dinner for your daughter and son in law to talk about their problems.
Volunteer your time and talents so that you will be too busy to be depressed.
God Bless...

A lot of people find themselves missing loved ones moreso around the Holidays, this is a known fact. For me, it isn't Christmas, I seem to miss those who have passed on New Year's Day - I start thinking "Wow, another year gone by...so and so would have loved to see cars park themselves now", etc.

You had mentioned that your mother passed 6 years ago and why would you still be depressed. I am just throwing this out there, but death is eternal. I recently lost both my paternal and maternal grandfathers...within 3 weeks of each other. Of course I was sad and upset when they passed...and as time goes by it does get easier, BUT at the same time I am missing them more because with time I am SEEING death is forever - I am having a hard time explaining what I mean. Like this; I wake up and wow, it's March 1, 2008...and Grandpa G is still dead. I miss those who have passed more and more, rather than less and less because each day makes it more permanent.

I would think in your case, Christmas...it may just be the simple fact that you miss spending time with your mom on Christmas. Did you have things the two of you did "traditionally" on Christmas or even just getting ready for the Holidays? Things like that would easily make someone depressed.

Sorry about your daughter & son-in-law. It is always sad when people separate...only the couple knows what is best for them and you have to be a bystander hoping it all works out for the best.

Hi K.

Not having your mom should be very sad. But, don't you belive that now, more than ever she's near you? Do you think she's happy seeing you depressed? No, don't even think about it! You have to believe that your mom is now where she belongs, with GOD. And as long as you remember her, and love her, she'll be alive. She's only in a trip, that you and me, and everyone, will take someday, then, you two will be back together.

Take care, and just remember the good times you had, and that she needs you happy. Life keeps going, and so you.

God bless you

As far as your missing your mother let me tell you that I loss mine 8 years ago on new years day (1999) and I still miss her. I try not to get sad, I just think of the good times we shared and try to think of her as if she were in another state and I don't get to see her often. Someday I will again. You will always miss her but remember that she truly is in a better life now. If you think of the good times you won't have as much time to be sad!

You may have a repressed anger with your Mom over dying and leaving you through death at such a happy time of the year. I have found that many people suffer and angust over deaths occurring at this time . As far as your daughter and son in law separation --well we have very little control over that situation since I am the same age as you and my daughter is also thinking of leaving her husband . The younger generation looks at things very differently from our generation.. Read the book "a new Earth " by Tolle. You can find it at Target.Good luck and above all PRAY for peace within yourself . Keep your mind where your body is . You may want to consider going to counseling. Exercise and walking helps the serotin in your brain which may be low and also adding to your depression.

I am going to be honest with you, noone here is going to be able to help you with this....BELIEVE ME I am not belittling your depression, it is VERY real.......but I highly recommend you go "talk" to someone.....a therapist and/or your church/temple? You need to get help to get through this or it will only get worse. All the best