Daycare Concern - Belton,MO

You should mention it, it could be that they don't normally burp her until the end, or could be that you were there and they were trying to do it faster so you could go home. If you don't let them know it a concern, how will they know?? Daycare providers are not mind readers and all babies are different. You also didn't mention the age of your baby, that can make a big difference. As a home daycare provider, parents must speak up with questions or concerns, we can't change things if we know you normally do it different or if it is a concern for you.

I see why it might be a concern, but its not a big deal. How old is the baby? I probably only needed to burp my daughter til she was maybe 6 months old or so, after that she would just burp on her own. If you want her burped, then just nicely say so--she's your baby. But sheesh---I don't think there is any reason to blame the woman for a gassy baby (if you daughter is young, they are all gassy!) or get all worked up over this. Small potatoes IMHO.

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yes by all means say something! Just tell them that you noticed she got her full feeding with no burping timeouts and you think that is why she is gassy and fussy when you bring her home. Just tell them that you would like them to stop for a burp-break after 1-2 oz.

Just say it matter of factly and respectfully with full expectation that they will do as you ask. It's like any business relationship - sometimes adjustments need to be made.

i really like your provider for volunteering to perform this duty and allow you to observe. since she is so open and honest, why not return the courtesy? obviously she's open to suggestions or she wouldn't have made this nice offer to you. she's not psychic, and she doesn't know your baby as well as you. tell her what you want, plainly and politely.
khairete
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From looking at your past question, I gather that your daughter is around 3 months. I would burp mine half way through the bottle at that age. Just politely ask the provider to do that.

If you want them to burp her you need to be specific...How old is she? I am sure they will accomodate..plus it is the end of the day. Give them the benefit of the doubt.

There is no real reason that babys need to be burped until the end of a feeding, but you know your child best and if you think she is fussy in the evening because she needs to be burped more often then you should definately let the daycare know that you would like them to please burp her during her feedings.

Depends on her age as to how often she should be burped. She could need to be burped more often but every 1-2 oz seems a bit much if she is old enough to be in daycare. I would say every 4 oz should be sufficient (some may need more often and others less).

Her age isnt stated here. My son is 14 months still gets about 6 oz with no burping. I will assume if your burping every 1-2 oz she is probably under 4 months and if the burping would be needed and if not being burped would very well cause gas and fussiness.

Everyone has different expectations and they do not know what your are untill you politly let them know what they are.

Age is also a factor. A newborn should always have the feeding split in half for a burping but a 10 month old may not need it, but again the needs of every child are different and the expectations of the parents are equally different.

My Children were only 3 months old when they ate 6 oz and were not old enough to burp on their our yet and needed the feeding broken up.

Please tell them, and see how they respond to that.

I do agree with the others but just thought that I'd add that so many babies are fussy during the evenings! It's just the time of day and whatnot...sadly, most don't grow out of that either! ;) You will have a toddler who is fussy during that time too! If you're concerned talk with them, but don't stress.

Definitely say something. As the parent you have the right to tell any daycare provider how you want your daughter to be taken care of.

Let us know how it goes.
D. H
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Just ask them politely to burp her, let them know of after school issues of it..i wouldn't make a big fuss over it

Absolutely say something... because the majority of babies *I know* (as in not a stat)... don't get burped during a feeding. They get burped afterward.

Some babies absolutely need to be (gerd, air gulpers, etc.), but the majority I have known don't... and it's a trick (burping in the middle) for gassy or colicy babies. BUT the flipside is that many babies will refuse to eat more after burping, and some react *abominably* to being interrupted (inconsolable screaming to the point of vomiting).

If your DCP is more used to non-colicky babies and babies who get *ticked* about being interupted, it may not even be on her radar. Especially if it takes a whole day's worth of feeding for any gassy crankiness to appear in the evening when the DCP doesn't have her, but you do.

I've taken care of lots of babies. My son was unique in all of them that he was a "marathon" burper. Meaning that I had to pat his back for nearly an hour after feeding each and every feeding. (I got good at reading a book one handed). First burp in the "normal" minute or two, and then monster burp after 45-60 minutes. The kind one can say a whole sentence in "burp". Seriously, crazy long burps, after seriously crazy long burping pats. But after a month of 24/7 care it was just "normal". I know most babies aren't like this, but even still, I would completely forget to mention it to a sitter or familiy member and then be shocked if they didn't do it. Even though it's totally "weird", for me it was normal. The whole "All babies are different, and we become experts only in our own" thing.

You definitely should say something. I would speak to whoever is in charge - not the actual ppl watching your child (at first). Just let her know that you prefer her to be burped during her feeding as she has gas problems. You are paying them so they should do what you want. GOod luck.

How old is your baby? If she's just a couple of months, then yes, I'd advise them to burp her after 1 or 2 ounces. If she's older than that, maybe halfway through the bottle - usually by the time they are taking 6 ounces of breastmilk or formula, they don't need burping by the ounce, but you can feel free to request that her caregivers burp her according to your preference.

I don't have a whole lot to add on to the other responses. It depends a lot on your baby and how old she is too..We used to burp our son couple of times during a 4 oz bottle when he was 3-4 months old but after the 6-8 month mark he can easily go through a bottle without burping in between. He is also a gassy child and he burps great when I sit him up after a bottle feed or nursing.
When he started daycare at 8 months I sat down and had a one-on-one with the care provider on every little detail - they won't know until you tell them because each child is different.
I pump at work and I consider my breast milk the same way as most other nursing moms do - liquid gold. I have specifically asked the daycare not to throw away leftover milk and they usually combine it with his next feeding. If it's important to you, by all means say it. No red flags here:)

If she is cool enough to let you watch I'm sure she will change to do things your way. Explain to her that she gets fussy with all the gas and NEEDS to be burped for your sake at night.

I would ask them to burb her at least half way through her bottle. That could very well be the reason she is fussy. What you are asking is not unreasonable and if they think it is, take your baby somewhere else.

How old is your daughter? This is probably normal practice for them but you might want to talk to the director or teacher and express your concerns.

You don't mention how old your daughter is. If she is taking 6 oz I would think she's at least 5 months old. Most little ones do not need to be burped in the middle of a bottle after they are about 3 or 4 months old. Now, if you are having spitting up issues I would suggest that they try and burp half-way through the bottle. Some babies get so mad when you take the bottle away that they end up swallowing even more air!!

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You don't mention how old your daughter is. If she is taking 6 oz I would think she's at least 5 months old. Most little ones do not need to be burped in the middle of a bottle after they are about 3 or 4 months old. Now, if you are having spitting up issues I would suggest that they try and burp half-way through the bottle. Some babies get so mad when you take the bottle away that they end up swallowing even more air!!

It is normal not to burp a child during the bottle feeding time. But if she didn't burp her afterwards then I would be concerned. If she is under 8/9 or over 5 months old then she needs to be burp after her bottle. If they aren't doing that, then I would certainly ask why and then ask that they burp her after her bottle. You care provider seems like she is okay with you talking with her, especially if she let you watch her give her her bottle. Hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless.