Dad's View on Breastfeeding

My husband was never overtly jealous, but looking back on it now, I imagine he did miss his "skin" time. Men need touching even if it isn't sexual. Maybe that will help.

I helped him get over the jealousy, by making him get a little involved. Even though I didn't really need to pump, I would say "please help me, my other breast is so full, and I can't pump while feeding her" So my husband would take the breast pump and "help me out" I thought it was so funny, but he thought he was really helping. But now my baby's six months so he is better now. And I would just leave my bra on during sex for the first couple of months. For some reason they don't really leak as much anymore.

My husband was the same way. I breastfed my daughter for 13 months. I think he was mostly jealous of the bond my daughter and I were forming. To this day, my daughter is now 3, he is still jealous of that. And it's normal during breastfeeding to not want anyone else to touch you or to even want to take your shirt off during sex. Those feelings do go away a short time after you stop breastfeeding. The best thing you can do for your husband is to keep reassuring him and encourage one on one time with him and the baby and try to get some one on one time for the two of you.

A.,

In confiding with a female friend, (who thought I should respond to your situation), my question to you is simple. Is dad getting his little bit of attention? Often times we find ourselves so overwhelmed with trying to raise children and career that we often forget to set time aside for our partner. Look at this as an opportunity to rejuvenate yourself as well.

Warmly,
D. P.
Birth Doula &
Massage Therapist

Mine wasn't so much jealous of the attention that the baby was getting, but missed being able to feed our 2nd child (1st one was bottle fed). I did pump occasionally so he could give her the bottle.

It did take a while after I weaned for me to feel like they (the breast) wern't the baby's anymore. It won't last for long (it's not like they'll still be nursing in kindergarten!)

Enjoy this time of motherhood, it passes real quick!

yes!!! mostly b/c after having a baby latched onto me all day i have no desire for anyone ELSE to touch me there, know what i mean? i don't even like to take my shirt off during sex anymore b/c i'm afraid i'm going to leak all over the place! plus, my breasts are so sensitive now, especially the nipples, that even the slightest touch can be uncomfortable for me. if anyone has any suggestions for me i'd love to hear them!

My Husband actually told me that he was jealous of the baby getting so much attention, and that included breastfeeding. It got better as time went on. I weaned my son at 13 months (he is 19 months now) and we are expecting our second in December.

Yes, I noticed a little jealousy from my husband while breastfeeding. He felt like I was cutting into "our" time and didnt like the fact that it was such a bonding experience without him. He felt left out on both sides... with me and my daughter. I had to learn how to give him a little one on one attention so he didnt feel alienated.

Yes but it had very little to do with my boobs. It had way more to do with no one on one time with eachother (mom & dad), it may be time to schedule a date and take a night out with the hubbie. But he also needs to know that this isnt forever and eventualy he will get the attention he used to get again.

Kudos, on breastfeeding this long. I have two awesome kids but nursing was something that I did, but didnt do very well. But even after suplementing the resentment was there because babies need and require your full involvement no matter what.

Good luck with kids, hubbie, job and dogs.