For our child who has Inattentive ADHD, Focalin did much better than Ritalin, as it has fewer side effects. It did what it needed to do. We saw the problems in mostly 2nd grade. So at the end of 2nd grade, the Dx was confirmed by a child psychiatrist which also helped us get Special Ed services too at the school. The school is happy with offering the service for our child to succeed in their ability. We also did do LearningRX, an intensive kid-friendly after school almost daily structured program for phonics and concentration skills with the idea of reducing the effect of distractions and the brain. This is to help them dealing better with situations. It helped our child immensely with Spelling Tests though the child only has to test on half the words, due to accomodation. The child recently child got a perfect score on test, after test. The schools idea is the success with tests will build the child's confidence and learn more of the things due to lowered stress. The child comes home now beaming from school in 4th Grade. She usually has done the HOMEWORK, even before getting home being good at Math. I am sure the LearningRX.com program has helped! We are very very glad it did! We also were and are lowering the dosage of the medicine some too! I wonder is she really needs it anymore! I want to put her on a even lower dose and the Psychiatrist said, we could experiment with lowering it. But Focalin has helped so much too, that am afraid to reduce it! Just the help of LearningRX, which may have created new brain pathways around the over busy regions, that kids with ADDHD have been proven to have issues with. It is called the Executive Function, they need help with. That is exactly what your child is describing, Self-Control issues. I feel much more hopeful for our child now. The School is also is wondering about high level autism, called Aspergers, but kids with ADDHD has so many similarities to those very bright kids, like not picking up social cues. Those skills as readily picked up normally by non-ADDHD kids, that just pick it up naturally, over the few years of their lives. So our child is also getting social learning skills, and what they are and practicing them in school even. They also have few friends but wants some more. One is ADDHD hyperactive who is even in the Advanced School learning program now! Was a very good reader younger. So who knows! It is pretty complex so your husband should check out books in the library. One we know of but for older kids is "Driven to Distraction" that a bright young adult told my husband he should read and it helped too. If only they knew what they know Now! His father was even a very good, but Adult Psychiatrist and did not know much to help, his youngest child 45 years ago with Inattentive ADDHD. Kids that are hyperactive got and still get more attention do to their activity. So this Dad, should get more educated, meet others that have dealt with the issues, and maybe will not be so hard to change his mind! And you could tell him, just try it for 1.5 months and if it does not help then let him try his new plan he comes up with.