Hi moms!
I have had a very healthy and friendly relationship with my ex for the past 7 years since our divorce. Our daughter is now 9. He is about to get married at the end of the month and has now come to me with demands of 50/50 custody and to stop paying child support. I am not opposed to this, but I am currently a single mom and have a 3 yr old son as well. As of right now, i cannot afford to be without the child support. He wants these changes to happen now, but i have pushed back. We have gone back to the original decree and he now only sees our daughter 4 times a month which before he was seeing her a lot more. I am wanted to get educated on my rights and just be prepared if he comes back and wants to go to court. Does anyone know of a good support group in Austin or website for people going through similar situations? When it comes down to it, he makes 5X what i make. I am seeking a better paying job, but until then, I cannot let go of the child support and I also feel it is our daughters best interest to have a "home" base and not 1/2 here and 1/2 there. But, i also want him to be happy in his new life with our daughter included... very confused. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!
Why did you you go back to the original visitation when you said your not opposed to the Ex seeing his child more often ? He can still pay child support . Maybe he can pay less. With your son do you get child support with him ? I'm sure you both can can up with a resolution where the children win
There is an organization in Austin that lends all kinds of support to single parents. It might be a good place to start for some help and referrals.
It is called Parent Rise
They have a great web site and are based out of Austin.
Do not agree to anything until you get some good council. Your ex must still pay child support! Don't let him talk you into otherwise. Remind him this isn't just about you, it's both of yours daughter.
Blessings for a smooth resolution
i am supposed to have joint custody altho its not 50/50 its barely off by a day, but anyways from what i have been told child support is income based i had them 8 days and he had them 6 days out of 2 weeks and even with that close they still did it income based he got deductions cuz he was supposed to carry full coverage ins on the kids and a discount where he was scheduled to have them so much but still had to pay child support i say look up laws and try calling legal aid and set up a talk alot of lawyers with have consoltation free you can try it good luck
What is in your decree now is what the court said are your rights. When you got divorced, was he making the same as he is now? The amount he is obligated to pay is a formula base on his income. He could owe you more! My decree has the "standard" custody arrangement and I am the custodial parent. We do not follow what is in the decree either and my husband and I share him pretty much 50/50 part of the time. However, my ex still owes me what the child support arrangement was in the degree. Although he pays for his food and shelter half the time, I am the one who buys most of his things and pays for all the extras like summer camp, school supplies, after school, soccer, etc. Please talk to a lawyer and find out your rights. You ex needs to pay child support until your child is an adult!
