Coworker Dilemma :-S

I know you've decided to donate it - which is what I would have suggested - but to avoid any awkwardness for myself (just in case this coworker really is just a scatter brain and was trying to arrange a pick up vehicle or something..) I personally would cover my bases and say "Guessing you weren't interested, no worries - I just wanted to let you know I intend to donate it this week as we've run out of room to store it" or something like that.

Donate it. She doesn't want it. If by some chance she does ask about it, tell her you donated it after she apparently didn't want it. I wouldn't be ugly, I would just state if as a fact, which it is.

I'd donate it and not say another word about it to your coworker. If she mentions it down the road just say that it was taking up too much room so you donated it. Personally I think she didn't really want it and didn't think to say no but thanks for thinking of me.

You went above and beyond to gift this to someone who could use it so let it go to someplace that will use it.

I would say, Hey coworker, that old dresser is taking up too much space so we have decided to get rid of it this weekend. If you cannot pick it up by Saturday 3pm we are dropping it off at a the salvation army that afternoon. Thanks. Then if she does not come go drop it off. My guess is she doesn't really want it all that much.

Donate it. Stop asking about it and donate it.

She obviously doesn't want it if it's been a month of excuses. Just drop it. Stop asking about it and donate it.

She probably doesn't really want it but doesn't want to be rude to YOU.
Let her know you're going to donate it by x date unless she still wants it. No big deal and it gets you both out of an awkward situation.

I don't see this as a dilemma. I see this as your co-worker trying to not confront and say "no thank you" (which I think is rude) and making appointments with you and no show.

I wouldn't say another word about it. I would arrange a donation pick up and be done with it. Don't ask her again. Don't talk about it again. IF she asks? You tell her simply "I'm sorry, when it sat for a month, I figured you didn't want it and I donated it."

Otherwise? DROP IT.

Sadly, this is the way some people avoid the slightest uncomfortable conversation. You offered. She wasn't able to simply say "no thank you" Or she changed her mind and she STILL can't say "you know what, I'm sorry, I'm just not able to make reliable arrangements to pick that up, and it's just as easy for me to go without it, so thank you so much for thinking of me, but you should go ahead and donate it to someone else who can take it off your hands quickly"

I would stop reaching out to your co-worker on this issue and donate it elsewhere as soon as possible. I really doubt you're ever going to hear from her again on this issue. If by the slightest chance she brings it up, I would just say, "I didn't have the space to hold it indefinitely. I'm sorry you weren't able to pick it up"

You can definitely get rid of it without saying anything, but if you are worried about an awkward conversation in the future then just proactively tell her that you have scheduled it to be picked up for donation on [whatever day] so if she does still want it she would need to get it before then. I don't think she really wants/needs it (I could imagine that it sounded to her like a nice thing to have but then she might have figured it seemed like "a lot" to take on a whole new piece of furniture for a baby who will only need it a few times over the next few years due to only staying with her occasionally)...but of course she should have been upfront with you rather than avoiding you!

How annoying. If I were you, I'd tell the coworker "Hey, I've still got the dresser we talked about. If you still want it, please let me know. You'll need to pick it up by (date) because I've got a Goodwill pickup scheduled for the next day in case you don't." That way you're giving her one last chance while also taking care of your need to get it out of your house. :)

Ditto to what J.C. said. I assume that these organizations will come pick up the dresser? If so, call one of them and schedule for them to get the dresser next week. If not, perhaps you can schedule with a friend who has a big vehicle to help you get it there. You can then inform your coworker that you have scheduled the removal of the dresser and if she wants it, she will need to get it before that date. If she suddenly decides she wants it (which seems unlikely), she will find some way to get it. If she doesn't, you and she have resolved the matter politely.

Since no money was exchanged or promised (you didn't offer to sell something to your co-worker, and she didn't offer to buy anything), I'd just let the matter go, and donate the dresser to a worthwhile organization. I don't think you need to bring the subject up to your co-worker. It seems pretty obvious that the dresser isn't a priority to her. I'm sorry that she didn't tell you in words, but her actions speak clearly. It doesn't seem like she's intending to make you angry; she's just thinking differently from you, and doesn't have this big piece of furniture sitting in the living room. I wouldn't mention the dresser ever again, or tell her that you donated it.

Then relax - knowing that your furniture piece will be used by someone who needs it, and knowing that this event is all behind you.

tell her she has until X date to come get it otherwise cause it's cramping your style (literally lol), if she's changed her mind, you have a place to donate it to, either way, no big deal. :)

It seems like she doesn't want the dresser and for some reason finds it easier to be rude about it than simply say so. Don't discuss it with her again, just take it to the foster care center.

If she asks about it in the future, simply remind her that she canceled pickup plans x-times and you wanted it gone.

Donate it. If she ever asks about it again which I doubt she will just tell her you donated it since you didn't want it sitting in your living room any longer.

Tell hr one last time - she can have it if she wants it - BUT if she isn't interested or doesn't pick it up by <give her a date a week or so away> - you will be donating it and it will be gone.
She'll she has to cook or get off the stove - give her a firm date - and then follow through.
That puts an end to it.

I'm one of those people who would feel like I needed to cover the bases, on the off chance she really has just had a terrible time arranging the pick up, or is reliant on others who are unreliable to help her get it.

She may just not know how to say, "I've reconsidered and don't want it." But, it could be crazy times for her... just never know. I would simply tell her that you wanted to give her a head's up that you can't store it any longer and will be delivering it to (whatever charity you decide on,... I think the foster facility sounds like a great option, personally) on Saturday. If she still wants it, she'll need to pick it up before then, and no big deal if she can't... you have it all arranged on Saturday to go to X (the charity). Then don't worry about it again. You probably won't hear any more from her, and she may even say what a great idea/gesture that is! ;)

Regardless, it lets you both off the hook and keeps things amicable between you.

"Hi co-worker, my husband is tired of that table in the living room. He's given me until Sunday to get it picked up or he's taking it to the dump. If you want it you need to get it in the next couple of days. I'm so sorry"

Then if it's not picked up by that time it's free to do whatever you want with it.

You have given it to her so it's sort of hers until you get her to say she doesn't want it. That's my thought anyway. I'd tell her something and say it has to be gone by such and such day and time then leave it until that point. After that it's no longer hers.

Yes, donate it.

She may have agreed because she felt she is doing you a favor by removing it for you, yet doesn't actually need it.

Yesterday was Easter Sunday. I am not sure what religion you are, but if you were texting/calling me to be your furniture mover, I would not respond either. Furniture movers charge a lot of money for a reason, it is work.

edit: I agree it is rude of her to not say, thank you but i do not need it or I do not have a way of picking it up. Since she is a grandma I am assuming she is depending on a stronger younger person with a truck to help her move it. Maybe that is the real issue.

Donate it somewhere that can use it. She doesn't want it and doesn't want to tell you that.

We had a similar situation with an old dishwasher and my husband's coworker. He finally told her that if they couldn't pick it up by a certain date that we had someone else interested in it and would pick it up the following day. They never replied. We had it hauled to a place that would recycle it. They never did say anything about it.

my best guess.........SHE DOES NOT WANT IT. donate it to the foster parents group and let the whole discussion with your co-worker just vanish. IF she ever asks (and my guess is she will NOT ask) but if she ever asks, tell her the truth: it was in the way, and you donated it to a good cause.