Considering Having a Third Child

Well I always was told that 2 is enough! But I wanted a big family. My husband and I have three and ohh boy having an odd number is hard. ( Like my sister inlaw told me) LOL! But I want another to make 4. You just have to be more on schedule and much more organized but I love being a mom even though it is the toughest job out there. I would not change it for the world.

Good luck!
S.

I understand what you mean when you say it's no peace in the house,cause I have 3 of my own and they are always arguing about something.My middle child thinks he is the oldest and be trying to run everything in the house.My daughter is the one that wants to be the boss and make her own rules in the house.My oldest son doesn't really care about anything and don't have a care in the world.I wanna have one more now that my little one is 5 getting ready to be 6,but my sister right under me says I don't need another one at all.I feel like it's my decision to make not my family you know what I mean.

I don't have any personal experience with this, but all of the families that I know with 3 kids have said that going from 2-3 was a breeze compared with going from 1-2. I am unconvinced, but I am preggo with #2 now, so I have to live through that first before I even consider a third. :-)

My cousin has 4 girls and while I feel like that could be utter chaos all of the time, they all really love each other and boy does he have some great stories to tell! I think the bottom line is how good is your sense of humor?? Three kids will probably test it, but if you come out laughing, then all is well. Best of luck in your decision!

Persaonlly I thinkg that the more you have - the easier they get. They police each other, keep each other out of trouble, play with each other and learn to help each other get their school work and chores done. I have 7 and would love 7 more.

Hi M.,

I'm currently pregnant with #3 (& #4). It was an agonizing decision to decide to try for another or not. But, in the end you just have to go with your heart. Now that my decision is made and the babies are on the way I'm more than thrilled!

Good luck making your decision!
C.

I have four children now, ages 16b, 13b, 8.5g, and 4g. Honestly, the boys were a breeze! But I really wanted my baby girl. I have to say, it changed my routine to mush. I don't know if it's because we were so used to having 2 of us to 2 of them, or what. Luckily, my boys were 7 and 4 at the time, so they were very helpful!
I'll just say it's a huge change from 2 to 3. But once you get there, and admit life is crazy (but wonderful), you won't regret it. And I think now is the time for you. I think 3 yrs is just the perfect spacing!

I have 3... they are now 14, 15, and 16. Going from no kids to 1 kid was a huge change. One to two was a different kind of change... I kept wondering if I could love another baby as much as I loved the first and worried like crazy about it till she got here and found that YES I could!

Once we had 3 kids, we'd tell our friends, "sure, drop your child off with us for a few hours. once you have 3 you might as well have 6!"

Three is so much fun, and so unmangeable at the same time. You learn a lot about prioritizing.... not just chores, but what REALLY matters in life. So I think the more kids the better. Just make time with each of them alone on a regular basis.

I think the sooner the better, because I hated being the older sister in my own family that had to take care of my bratty little brother. That's why I had mine close together. It sucks being stuck as the sitter-sister.

Fortunately, as my brother got older (like college)we bonded.

Good luck!

Well, I have 3, a 10yo, 4yo and a 3yo. There is NEVER A MOMENT OF PEACE IN THIS HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!! However, I love it! It's quite challenging for me at times, especially with the last two so close in age, but I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. My theory from conversations with my mommy friends and from my own experience is that when you have the number of children you are meant to have, you just know it! Sounds like you may not really be done yet! Just a theory, some people may say I'm crazy, but that is how I feel! I was iffy on three, but once I had him, I knew it was right, and that I was done!! I will say that going from 1 to 2 was harder, that third one keeps you on your toes at all times, but it's not too terribly bad! I'll tell you this, once you have 3, you could lug around the entire brownie troop, alone, and handle it just fine!! You really learn how to deal with things better, mostly cause you have to!!

Good Luck!

I'm really happy that I have just two daughters. Many of my friends and family have three or more, and they are happy about that too. My main advise is: decide. Okay - here's why. I was sitting at lunch with three friends. We all had two kids at the time. My husband had already had a vasectomy, so I was a little out of the conversation - just an observer. And this is what I observed - they all were trying to decide, and then, a few months later they were all pregnant. I don't think they had completely made that a conscious choice! And that happened to my brother and his wife too. They were on the fence, and apparently, on the fence is a good place to get pregnant!

Honestly, I only have one. I just want to wish you luck.
We are going to adopt, hopefully a sibling set. We want a housefull. As long as you can afford it, mentally, physically, financially... then do it.
Good luck in your decision.
E.

every family is different. If you and your husband both feel like your family is still incomplete go for it! Many parents have had three kiddos and survived!

I personally want a bus full of kiddos. I'm baking number three and know I'm not done yet. I love my monkies and look forward to the crazy chaos!

I am pregnant with baby #3, so I don't have personal experience with three kids yet, but we did make the decision to have the third. We aren't sure that we are finished after three either. Going from 1 to 2 wasn't too terribly difficult for us. There are times when it got really challenging, but I think it helps that my oldest is five and is quite helpful. Anyway, I say totally go for it! You have an older daughter who will likely be helpful (well...depending on her personality!) and then two younger ones. I come from a family of nine girls (no boys) and think bigger families are great. Not that we're considering nine kids... If you feel like it's the right thing to do, no one can argue with that and that is what you should do.

M.,

I had three children and they were 3 years apart. My children are all quite close even though they are older now (Chris 26, Ryan 24 and Courtney 21). Of course, we had a schedule that i tried to adhere to as much as possible. We had staggered bedtimes which allowed me to spend quality time with each child before bed and allowed each to feel "special." Also, after the last child was in bed, that was our alone time and we kept to that schedule for many years. It worked well for us. There was always someone to play with for my youngest so that I had time to do what i needed to do around the house. It's up to you and your hubby. If three is what you need to make your family complete, then go for it.

Blessings
M. :)

I have 3 boys, my oldest will be 6 in 2 wks, my middle son is 4, and my baby is 2 and we're trying for number 4 cause I wanna give it one more try for a girl. I love having 3 and normally have a house full of at least 6 after school and its interesting but when I don't have a bunch of kids over I feel different, our home is the one on the block all the kids hang out at, lol. I think that the more the merrier and personally if you and your husband decide you both want baby number 3 then go for it! I would include your girls in the discussion too, but ultimately its for the 2 of you to decide. Your lives maybe more hectic, stressful, and you'll probably get less sleep but in the end its totally worth it. The best advice I could give you is to continue loving each other and doing whatever you do to stay a happy, healthy family and baby number 3 will fit right in and just add more love and happiness to your lives. Oh and having a schedule helps too! I hope the best for you and your family and good luck with baby number 3, if u decide to add to your family.

i totally think its wonderful to have as many kids as you want, but when would you sleep?

I have a 8 year old stepson and a 7 year old son and a 4 year old son and a 6 month old son also. So I have a busy household. It isn't that much of a difference going from 2-3 its just louder and a little more stress cause of always being needed all day. The more kids you have the more they learn to play with others and help each other out. I have my oldest two spend one on one time with the four year old at least 30 minutes everyday to learn how to help and share. We are planning on having at least two more. I hope they are girls though. LOL

It all depends on the kids. You really won't know until you try. Prayer is the only way to answer this question.
Barb

I am pregnant with number 4 and I love my big family I really do think that it makes things easier. The 8 and 6 year old are each other best freinds and now when we got on family vactions the 14 month old will have someone to play with shen she gets older. Also works great for hand me downs.