My husband and I have been trying for 4 months to get pregnant, but have not been blessed yet. Does anyone have any ideas, suggestions?? We are ready for another but did not have any problems conceiving the first. Help!
I wish for you lots of sex! And if you can, lots of funny videos, and tickles, and jokes with friends, walks in pretty places, kisses on cute faces, and whenever possible more laughing!! In all seriousness, please enjoy all of it. Take care, God Bless You. ;)
With my first daughter we were not trying and along she came :) When we started trying for our second it just was not happening.So after trying for two years I went to a fertility doctor.He taught me how to do my chart.I got pregnant the first month.I did my chart for the third one and got pregnant in a couple months.The girls are absolutely right about ovulation.It happens different for everyone.Fertilityfriend.com is a good site for charting also.You just have to get a basal thermometer and take your temp every morning at the same time before getting out of bed.You then write it down on a chart.I also checked my cervical fluid and position.But you do not have to do that if you do not want.Right before you ovulate your temp will rise and when you ovulate it will drop and then start to rise.If your temp stays up and does not drop to your baseline temp then you are most likely pregnant..It may sound a little complicated but it is very easy.I printed charts of the internet.I cannot remember what site.But if you put conception chart in your search engine you will find some..Good Luck :O)
My husband and I used a website called MyCycle.com after we tried for three months on our own to conceive. It keeps track of your ovulation with all the information you input plus it sends you e-mail reminders up to a week prior to both your period and ovulation days. After three months of using the sight our timing was right on and we conceived! Good Luck, but remember that it can take as long as a year to conceive after you start actively trying.
Just stop focusing on it and it will happen,from my own experience when I was trying to have a child and gave it my all it did not happen disappointment after disappoinment,but then when we stopped trying and stopped thinking about it all of sudden it happened Good Luck and be blessed L.
I would recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility
http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Annive...
It goes indepth on the fertility signs (temp, cervical fluid, etc.) I also agree with the other responses that 4 months is not very long.
Amanda,
I know 4 mos seems like forever when you are trying-- but on average it takes much longer than that. I would chart your ovulation and then have sex everyday for the 4 to 5 days before and after you suspect you are ovulating. That's basically what I did and I got pregnant on the first time with my son and after about 4mos with daughter who is going to be delivered tomorrow.
Even though we got lucky and didn't have to wait too long-- I felt like it was taking forever.
Good luck.
Hi Amanda,
I understand the frustration since it took us 10 months with our first and I am pregnant again and we weren't even trying. LOL. Do you know for sure when you are ovulating? If not I would suggest buying the Answer Ovulation Kit. You can get it anywhere, like CVS, Walmart, Target. You urinate in a cup and dip the strips in the urine and it lets you know when you have a LH surge (Basically letting you know when you are ovulating) I found out after 9 months of trying the first time that we weren't even doing it on the right days, LOL. Good luck and keep us posted.
J.
The best advice I have to take a vacation. I worked both time with my children and the 2nd one I tried for almost a year. It wasn't until I went on vacation, had some fun and forgot about all the calendars, test and pregnancy attempts, I became pregnant. I know you've heard it before but relax, 4 months is not very long. You obviously can get pregnant since you have a baby already so quite worrying and start having fun!! Good luck to you..
If you stress over it then it won't happen. All things happen in God's good time. Just relax and enjoy yourself and do whatever you can to lower both of your stress levels. Go out to dinner, take in a movie, do the types of things you did when you conceived the first time. That should help. Good luck!
Hi Amanda,
I completely agree with Julie, who suggested getting an ovulation kit! However, I just used the generic CVS brand. Normally I wouldn't have used the generic brand on something that is so important (conception!); however, my own doctor suggested it, so I tried it, and I was successful with both pregnancies! With my son (firstborn), I was successful the very first month trying! With my daughter, it took 3 months. The CVS brand is only $17, and I'm sure the other store brands are probably pretty comparable. While trying to conceive, I had read about the fact that sooo many women assume they are ovulating on day 14 of their cycles, when really they are not. With my son, I was ovulating around day 16 or 17--with my daughter, it was not until day 21! So it is definitely worth the money to try it, in my opinion.
Like Julie was explaining, it's real easy to do. You get 7 sticks in the box, and the instructions in the box tell you on which day of your cycle to start using the kit. You just pee on the stick, and once you get the positive line, that means you will be ovulating in the next 24 hours, and that the best time to have sex is NOW. (We usually had sex that day, and the two next days as well.) Good luck!!!
Try prenatal pill. I immediately (1-2 mounth) concieved both of our children after I starting taking them. On the other hand, I did have a friend who took my advice. She did not concieved and her appetite picked up. I just wanted to give you results I seen from both sides.
