Oh, Gamma G...your hatred of cloth diapers is so documented here. Can I ask when the last time you actually cloth diapered was? How many years ago? I'm so curious. Cloth is drastically different then years ago. Different make, fabrics, materials, design, etc. Even my own mother (who is not yet 50) was amazed at how incredibly different they were. First of all, you don't wash poop, so there is no way for those "bits" to get in the washing machine. Second, you didn't even bother to answer her questions.
D., cloth diapering is quite simple. (And please don't even worry about your kid smelling like poop.) I never used a wet pail, and manufactures caution against that. It can break down the fibers of the diaper, and it's just never a good idea to have fabrics sitting around in water. I used a dry pail with a lid, and a "wet bag" inside. You couldn't smell a thing. I suggest you invest in a diaper sprayer. That sprays all the poop out of the diaper into the toilet. We loved having one, as it was convenient and handy. It took about 5 minutes to install, and was incredibly simple. You want to use a cloth diaper friendly detergent. All the major online retailers have lists of detergents and which are the best and worst for cloth diapers. I put my do a cold rinse, hot wash, and an extra cold rinse. If you can sun dry your diapers, that is so helpful. It helps the life of the diaper, and the sun is a natural bleach, Every so often, I would "strip" my diapers, to prevent detergent and hard water build up. There are many ways of doing this, but I sued the hot wash method. I would turn up the heat on my water heater, and wash the diapers several times on hot with some calgon water softener, and sun dry them (you can get calgon on the laundry detergent aisle.)
My son (3) is now potty trained, but we used cloth from birth. I was not entirely sold on cloth, until I started using them. I found them to be awesome, and saved us a ton of money. (We also used cloth wipes and washed those with the diapers.) Our water bill went up a matter of cents per month. Now that we are not cloth diapering, our bill is on average, about a whole whopping .75 less.