Child Feels That Everyone Hates Him at Preschool

Hello M., first of all, have you sat down and had a long talk with his teacher?? that is what I would do first because he might really be having some problems with other kids (boys) in his class, my child did at one time! Make sure his teacher is aware of everything going on in your son's life...all about his Dad! Do you have a brother or a male figure that can sorta fill in for his Dad for a while? It might help him to talk to another guy about what all is going on in his little life that has him so upset!! It might not have anything to do with his Daddy so that is what I would do as soon as I could get a guy I trusted to come take your son out for something so they can talk!!! if none of this works then yes try therapy but I really think the older guy thing will work the best and of course talking to his teacher!! Please keep me informed! I wish you lots of good luck! D.
PS does he have anybody around home that he plays with? that might be another problem if he doesn't because that means it is just you and him until he goes to school!!

Well, when I read your post it makes me think of how I felt as a kid. My mother was a single parent as well. I have to think that it could be a symptom of the separation between you and your husband because no matter how long you have been raising him on his own, he still feels the absence of his father. Now, the root of the problem for me was self-confidence. So my suggestion is to help him find a nitch. Like a sport, or a hobby that interacts with children his age. This will help to show him that even though he feels a need to be accepted, he can accept himself. This is probably why he feels like these kids do not accept him. He feels rejected by his father. And therefore does not find himself acceptable. He knows that you are there. I don't discredit your efforts and support. It is just that he has that feeling of rejection from the other entity and it is overwhelming for him. Maybe look into Big brothers. As a matter of fact I think there is a division right off of Peachers Mill close to the Providince intersection. I'll look it up for you. Something like that can really be a turning point. Boy I do have to say that your son seems very aware of his environment. He sounds like he will be a 'thinker'. Keep him occupied as much as possible. It will deter any idle thinking.

K I found the information. Here it is, Good Luck.

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I am studying Clinical Psychology with a specilization in child development and I certainly agree with the previous post to take him to counseling. I do think his feelings are partially because his dad is away, but there may also be other causes. I think a counselor or psychologist who specializes in child psychology would help alot. If you can't find one in your area, call your local mental health center or community counseling center and they should be able to help.

Sounds to me like he is probably being bullied at school. Unfortunately, it starts at a very early age now a days. My oldest daughter has been through it. She is now 11 years old and you don't wanna mess with her. She takes up for other kids quite often. I sat down with her one-on-one and had to coax it out of her that she was being bullied. She didn't think she was because she considered the little girl a friend. I had to explain that that is not how friends act. We also spoke to the school and stayed in constant contact with the principal and teacher. I think the best thing that we did for her though is moved her to another school. Hopefully, your situation won't come to that. My advise is to sit down and have a heart to heart with your son. There is definately something wrong. Something is happening at school. Once you find out what it is you can take the neccessary steps to take care of it. Just stand your ground and let your son know that you've got his back. Good Luck and let me know what happens. You will all be in my prayers, including Dad.

It may just be a phase but I would check into therapy just in case. Maybe is has something to do with his father being deployed?? I would definetely do the therapy first thing becasue if it isnt just a phase it could get worse. Good Luck!! I hope everything works out for you two

I would definitely suggest therapy. Having his dad gone for such a long period of time has got to be very hard for a 4-year old to understand. It's great that you and his daycare are so concerned about him! It can be hard when you don't really know the right thing to do for you child. I would suggest calling his pediatrician and discussing it with him/her and maybe they can give you some other suggestions too.

Good luck, I hope he's feeling better soon!