Hi,
I had my dream car, a Toyota Camry, but when kids came along the car seats made it so uncomfortable for us to travel together. (We couldn't put the driver's seat or front passenger seat far enough back without hitting the children's carseats behind us. Our Camry was a 2000, and they may have changed since then, but cars will be more cramped than SUVs or minivans.) We asked around and the Honda Odyssey is what kept being recommended.
We have one now, and can't imagine what we would do without it. I never thought I would drive a minivan, but I've changed diapers in cars and SUV'S with great difficulty. (The seats are sloped, the B. is inside while you are outside in whatever weather leaning in the car changing the diaper. And that is when you have just one child. With two carseats in the back there is no room to do the diaper except the trunk.)
The Odyssey has great ratings, tons of features (automatic doors, map guide/reverse screen, dvd player, and more), but they are a bit pricey. Our dealer (Cecil Johnson at Frank Kent), showed us how we could make the front passenger seat into a long lounger/recliner. We use that for trips and its great for changing diapers.
My parents have a Dodge Caravan and are happy with theirs. They wanted the stow and go seating and automatic doors. Their door opener is a lot slower and noisier, though. If you go with the minivan, it's worth it to get the automatic doors. It is so handy holding a B. in one hand with the minivan remote, and while holding my other child's hand to just hit the remote button to open the doors and get my kids in the car and out of the dangerous parking lot.
To address the dvd option, I say get it if you can. You don't always have to play it for short trips, but any errand over 30 minutes or waiting in the pharmacy drive through and you will love the dvd. Our firstborn wasn't a good traveller, so when we were going to make a few long car trips (12 hour plus) and a move out of state we opted for the dvd player. The one in our '05 Odyssey has a better screen, better picture than any tv we have at home! (However, our tvs are old, 10 years plus.)
Bottomline, though is price. Hondas are rarely on sale it seems because demand is high. However, I have seen some incentives. The Chrysler/Dodge costs less and has more incentives, but are not rated as high in consumer reports. Whatever you choose, SUV or Minivan, I recommend paying for the extra warranty coverage. Vehicles now are so much more complicated and if you plan on keeping yours longer than 3 years, you will want the extended warranty to cover any computer glitches, etc.
Consider, too, the safety features. Our minivan has air bags everywhere (side, front, etc.), and we chose the one with the viewing screen so you see what is behind you when you put the van in reverse. However, we spent a lot on our van so we are watching our pennies pretty closely now.
Hope this helps.
Holly M.