Calling All Teachers...

I mean no offense, but I have to agree with Dawn in regards to your other post that you removed. I remember it clearly.

I have friends who are teachers and they certainly do not cringe when they see kids with bad behavior issues. If they feel at a loss as to what to do with family dynamics, I can't speak to that.
I have friends who are teachers. My own sister worked for the school system for 14 years. They very much want to work with families to make things better as far as students being more successful and I don't know if it's true in your case, but I know that it's frustrating when they try at school without backup at home.
Again, I'm not saying that's the case with you. But, you also need to realize that they might have been off to something important and didn't have time to talk.
I would schedule a time to go in and have one on one time and address your son's issues, ask for their help, make a game plan and agree to stick with it.
If you are the type of parent who says your child has behavioral issues and wants to leave it to the school, their hands are tied. They can only do so much. It needs to be a team effort. And, as the parent, you have to be honest about what else is going on in the child's life. HONEST.

When I was going through my divorce, my son was having issues. Not behavioral as in naughty. He became withdrawn and guarded and anxious. Luckily, there was a school psychologist that could meet with him at least once a week at school. Unfortunately, my ex husband said NO WAY.
Well, when he made himself look like he didn't care, he gave in and it really helped our son.

If you want to rely on the school for help....you have to be completely honest and be willing to work with them.
You seem to be thinking that teachers have stopped being able to just teach the children.
I'm not sure that's a true statement.
What is it you want them to be teaching your son?
Have you conveyed that?
If they gave you feedback, would you be able to listen and work with a plan?
Regardless, you need to schedule an appointment and be willing to state your case and listen to the possible solutions.

Just my opinion.

Wow! I take offense to your entire first paragraph. I'm not overwhelmed with any sort of paper work and with salary cuts and backlash from state worker hating republicans I still love my job.
It seems that the principal and teacher walking out is unprofessional. However, as teachers we are trained to not read into any issues and just give the facts. Perhaps you are not listening to what they are saying about your child. Maybe you could explain to your son that it is tiresome for someone to correct behavior problems on a regular basis and that our days are busy and we just want parents to help a little with actual discipline. Let's face it parents that say, oh my kid isn't that bad; know their kid is bad but they won't do what it takes to correct them.
As a 14 yr veteran I would say the only parents I avoid are the ones who refuse to see what's really going on with their child and are just wasting time.

I am not an official teacher, but a teaching assistant. Please don't take it personally, they ignore me too. If I actually think about it sometimes before ME feeling bad, I realize they have a lot on their minds. I used to think they didn't like me at all. One day I guess I realized they don't even see me. So they aren't cringing at the sight of me (I hope not anyway) because I too have questions that need answering and things that need to be addressed but sometimes they are dealing with the 'this very minute' situation that has to be taken care of: a child having a meltdown, an injury, school board people, etc. etc. etc. state requirements are big these days, union issues are another battle. So even I have wondered if they cringed when they saw me then just realized that maybe they are way overloaded. In a perfect world they would have turned and responded. I would guess your child is really not a major issue or they would have dragged you somewhere to address it. But there are oftentimes so many issues they might not know how to pick and choose. So I guess we must forgive them. Hard, huh? For me too.

You have posted about similar things before. It seems like you are trying to find fault with the administration, instead of trying to resolve the problem with your child/at home. I think that you may be hyper sensitive because you know your child is out of control, but I find it hard to believe that a teacher would purposely turn their back on a child. If they were in a deep conversation, then they may not have even noticed. Give them a break. They're busy, don't take it personally. If you want to talk to the principal, then set up a meeting, don't expect to resolve anything over the phone or with a walk by conversation.

Based on some of the answers here, it sounds like you have much more to worry about then overanalyzing a teacher's behavior towards your child.

No, this isn't the norm at all. I always greet the students at school, even if they aren't my own. Yes, we have a lot on our plates, but I try to make time for my students when they see me.

I cringe when I read about school staff who are neither invested in their students nor communicating with their parents! Whether your son has issues or not, their job is to do whatever it takes to get him the help he needs. More important, they should be going out of their way to work with you to find those solutions. Avoiding you and heading in a different direction is disappointing to say the least. And to think your tax dollars are paying for their salaries and the caliber of education they're giving your child.

They sound like they don't have their priorities straight at this school, and I'd seriously be looking for a different school if at all possible before your kid gets shuffled to the bottom of the heap and unable to get into any good post-secondary schools in the next 4 years. These are critical academic years for your child and if they're not invested in getting him on track, and you aren't getting support or guidance from the as well, what hope does your son have for the future?

All I can say is, if finding a different school isn't an option right now, hopefully next year he'll be starting at a different school for his high school years. For now, be persistent and hold his teachers and principal accountable to you. Your son deserves their best, not petty slights and games so they can avoid doing what they're paid to do.

So sorry you are going through this. I'm not a teacher, never would want to be. I hope it gets better. It would break my heart if I thought my daughter was being treated that way.