Breastfeeeding

Hi K..

I have also been breastfeeding, though i have the opposite problem. A lady i know used a tea called mothers milk i think is what it was called and a friend of mine told me that she would drink a beer to help her produce more milk.
I hope this helps a little.

I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time. Working and pumping is extremely hard. I went back to work when my little one was 4 mos old but luckily it was part time. Even so, the pumping was hard and I was always afraid Jack didn't have enough.
I remember reading that oatmeal was a really good thing to eat for supply so I used to do that every morning and it seemed like I always had enough.
Breastfeeding is a two way street, I think. You both have to be willing. That said, I am still breastfeeding and Jack is now 14 mos old so I believe it is all about doing what works for you.
Take care and good luck!

K.,
I worked full time and breastfeed my baby. It can be challenging, but in the long run it is worth the effort. Contact the La Leche League and go to a meeting. They have them at some locations at night and they can give you great tips to help keep you going. J.

I went through a similar situation with my daughter. I managed to hold out until she was six months old, but by that point I was only getting about 4 ounces total each time I pumped. I ended up slowly fading out the breast milk so that she would develop the taste for formula. I started with just one ounce of formula in each bottle and slowly worked up to all formula. Don't worry about feeling guilty or anything because you have to do what is best for both of you and your daughter's already gotten a good start and lots of immunity from you that will last her a long time.

K.,
I nursed my son for 2 weeks before developing mastistis, an infection of my milk glands. It got so bad, I had to take antibiotics, so I had to quit nursing. I tried starting up again after a couple weeks, but by then my milk had almost dried up, and my month-old son was no longer interested. I did feel bad at first. However, with the great formulas out there today, we were able to give him something similar to breast milk. He was a healthy and happy baby. I know you've received a lot of emails, but if it doesn't work out for you, don't beat yourself up about it. Breast milk IS best, but remember, an entire generation of us (myself included) was raised on formula and cow's milk, when nursing wasn't 'in style.'
Best of luck,
A.

Hi K.. I am also a breastfeeding working mother. My son is almost 8 months old and I have had my fair share of difficulty with breastfeeding as well. I have had mastitis 5 times and developed an abscess a couple of months ago that had to be surgically drained. I agree pumping is a pain, especially at work. For a while, I had to use a friend's office to pump because I shared an office with a man and one of my bosses actually walked in during a session because their was no lock on the door. I actually have the opposite problem though: I produce too much. I have to pump 5 times a day, including in the middle of the night. All that being said, I think what you and I are doing is so important. I think breastmilk makes a huge difference in the current and future health of our children, and if possible, continued breastfeeding is optimal. However, don't beat yourself up if you decide to stop. You have given your daughter a great start. Although I would try to hang in there until the sixth month, don't sacrifice your sanity, as this doesn't help you, your baby or your husband. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Hi K., my name is G.. I so identify with what you are going through. There are so many gut wrenching decisions we have to make about our kids. Especially that first year. I finally came to three conclusions.

One: always trust my instincts. They sound off for a reason, usually a good one. Two: the best gift or parenting I can ever give my child is my own sanity and peace of mind. They are sponges that absorb every wave of energy we emit. The good and bad. I'm sure your stress is contributing to your milk output. Three: we can't do everything and no matter what others may tell you there are no hard and fast rules for raising children. Yes, keep them safe, fed, loved. But beyond that you have to figure it out as you go. They aren't little robots that all come with the same manual. What works for one family doesn't work for another. To breast feed or not, to sleep with your kids or not, it never ends.

In the end, you have to live with your decisions, no one else.
Breastfeeding is great. But if its causing you to be overtaxed, stressed out and a little resentful, then how is that good for your baby? You husband wants you to continue because he knows it benefits the baby. But you have to look at the whole picture. Some babies are never breast fed, and their lives are rich and healthy. Your baby has already had four wonderful months of that.

To evaluate all the options, to want to do the right thing, means you're a good mom. You'll make the right decision. Good Luck! G.

K.,

You need to do what is best for both YOU and your son. If you feel that you are ready to quit, you need to follow your heart. My 3rd child was 6 months before I stopped breastfeeding, but I should have stopped before that. The month prior to me stopping she was fussy and cranky all the time. The minute I switched to formula it was like a new child emerged. I guarantee she was not getting what she needed from me. Many say 'breastfeeding is best' which I totally agree, but when your child may not be getting enough nutrients from that alone it is not. Your child can also sense your emotions, so if you are not happy they know this.

My advice bottom line is to do what you feel most comfortable with. Your husband is not in your shoes, nor should he judge you for your decision. He will adjust, as will the baby.

Feel free to contact me at ____@____.com if you want to talk more.

Good luck!

A.

K., I know how you feel....I stopped breastfeeding my first last month (he was about 4 months also). It is hard to be a working mom, and doing the pumping thing is just...well...a pain. I felt selfish at first, but now I am glad. I get to spend more time playing with him and make the most of my time rather that worrying if I can pump, and if it's enough....what I did is I just tapered him off breast milk by starting out with like 1 ounce formula to however much breast milk he normally eats...then the next week it was 2 ounces of formula, the next it was 3, and so on. One thing I will say though, is that we have battled constipation since we have been on all formula and that is kinda tough, and apparantly is a normal problem when switching from one to the other. But I am still glad to have more freedom away from the pump, and am now having a lot more fun just getting to be a mom. It's tough, but hey, I feel that a happy mom makes a happier baby. Good luck. If you just need to vent, you can use me....I've been there.

K. -

Obviously this is an area of wide interest (as there are already 20 pieces of advice). I agree with the previous advice from Jill. I breast-fed both my girls for 6-7 months but was also pumping and working long hours at work. As my milk supply began to dwindle (as it is difficult, if not impossible, to replicate the pumping to the needs of the baby), I began supplementing with formula. For the last 1/2-1 month of nursing, I just nursed in the morning and in the evening and had daycare give them formula during the day. Neither of my girls objected to this arrangement and they are very happy and healthy - a 1 & 3 year old. I know there is all this advice on the length of time you should nurse, but you also have to be realistic. Do what is best for you and your family - your baby will adjust and be just fine!

there is a wonderful le leache league in Moore. They are wonderful about giving advice and helping you through the tough times. I am currently breast feeding 7 month old twin boys and I have used them for soooo much. if you cannot go to the meetings you can call them or e-mail them. They are mothers that have breast feed and they are also trained lactation consultants. good luck.
also are you drinking lots of water and eating at least 2500 calories a day. you cannot diet and breast feed. hope all goes well
I have thought some more about this for you. The more you stress about this the less milk you will produce. here are a few more suggestions for you.
- don't stress
- get plenty of sleep
- drink lots of water
- it is okay to supplement just remember that. some women have a hard time breastfeeding. it doesn't mean that u are a bad mother.
- let your baby nurse as long as is needed and then give her a bottle of formula after. babies are more efficient at getting breast milk out then the pump is.
- while pumping look at a picture of her. take one of her blankets with you so you can smell her and try to relax so you will have a good letdown.
- do u have a good pump?
you can e-mail me personally I would love to try and help u as much as i can.

K.,
It is great that you have been able to breastfeed for 4 1/2 months!!! I am a mother of two and breastfed each of them...up until about 3 months. I always thought I would do it longer, but I got to the same place where you are at. It takes a lot of energy and time to nurse and if you decide to quit now, just know that you have given your child so much more already than most moms have. You should not feel guilty about wanting to quit...your baby has already got all of the immunities in the first two weeks of her life. Also, the formula out there is wonderful now and my children are very healthy. My son did not lack in any area from being on formula...in fact he is very smart(which is something I was concerned about by switching). My mother is a nurse and she was also very supportive of my decision to quit. I also felt like I had so much more energy for my children once I was finished nursing. As a mom, I know that this will only be the first thing that you will feel guilty about, as you will find out we moms feel guilty about everything!! Whatever you decide to do, your daughter will do great with and she will have a much happier mom when you feel comfortable with your decision. Also, I bet your husband will see a big difference in you if you should decide to quit and he will probably not regret your decision. I'm sure some moms would not agree with me on everything I've said, but for me, it was the best of both worlds!!!
Good luck,
A. R.

K.-I was in your shoes when my daughter was first born. She would not latch on for anything in the first 3 weeks. It was awful. Then when we finally got it I got a breast infection followed by dry cracked very painful nipples. Looking back now I think I probably should have went with the formula b/c I really put alot of unnecessary stress on myself and really missed out on just enjoying my little one. Only you can make the decision to quit, not your husband or anyone else. If it feels too stressful it probably is. One suggestion I can give is try to slowly make the transistion to formula. You can even try going to all formula except at her bedtime feeding and just do one breastfeeding at bedtime and formula the rest of the day(I actually did this for awhile when we decided to start to slowly go to formula and it went pretty well). Just remember yes breastmilk is best but you have to consider you well being too. If you are stressed and not feeling well your baby will sense that. Good luck! :)

Hi there. I would like to offer some advice on something that worked very well for me. There is this liquid stuff called More Milk Plus. It is made (I believe) by Motherlove. I actually bought some on ebay. What it is is an alcohol free liquid you put in liquid, or directly under your tounge and drink water or whatever afterwards. It works very fast, usually within 24-48 hours. Then, when you get your supply where you need it, you don't have to continuously take it. The stuff really did work for me. Here is just a link to one I found on ebay:
http://cgi.ebay.com/MORE-MILK-PLUS-Glycerite-Alcohol-Free...

I am not the seller or anything. I just wanted to show you about the product. I think I still have a discount with the lady I did buy from on ebay though. If you would like, I could get you some at a slight discount...it's only something like $3 or so.

But, I'm serious. The stuff worked very quickly for me. I know of others it has helped tremdously as well. When my son was just over 2 months, I had severely cracked nipples and also mastitis. My milk almost had completely dried up by the time I could nurse him again. I used this stuff, and it was amazing how well it did work. I would be happy to answer any questions you may have. Please DO NOT give up!!! I hope this somehow helps!!

First I want to commend you for working full time and continuing to breastfeed. That is a definite challenge.

I was never successful in breastfeeding my daughter but still wanted her to get the benefits of breast milk. So I used a pump for the first 6 weeks and then decided to switch to formula before returning to work.

It was a hard thing for me to do. For some reason I felt guilty for quiting. Kind of like I was letting my daughter down, but after about a week on formula she was doing great.

My opinion is you should enjoy every minute with your baby because they grow so quickly. If breastfeeding and pumping are becoming stressful for you than you should quit. We all know there is enough stress with being a mother.

By the way after trying several formulas we found Walmart's brand Parents Choice to be the best for our daughter and it was almost half the price of the name brands.

Hope this helps.

A.

Nursing is the absolute best thing for your baby. I know it can be stressful when working and trying to pump. I was blessed and got to stay home with my baby. But when I was pumping, it was very difficult because it was between feedings. I would get a picture of my baby to look at and use warm wet washcloths on my breast to help my milk to drop. Of course, you probably know to drink A LOT!! It's worth it and it is great that your husband is so encouraging. Some husbands aren't!!

God bless!!

K.,
You need to do what is comfortable to you. If you are ready to quit breastfeeding, then that's what you need to do. I love it when men or even other women tell US what we need to do. (LOL) You carried your daughter in your body and nursed her for 4 1/2 months. With my son I tried to breast feed and I had the hardest time, I even tried pumping. My son ended up with cracked lips and screaming none stop because i wasn't producing enough for him. His doctor, my husband, even my dad just kept saying, "keep trying", "it's the best for him" etc. He's starving, how is this working for him. When I finally stopped letting their opinions make me feel guilty and gave up breastfeeding was a hugh relief to me and my son. I noticed the first night. He wasn't crying all the time. He seemed full. So, don't let other people make you feel guilty. Trust yourself.

K., please don't quit!! Call your local La Leche leader. I am not sure of your area since I am not from MO, but you can google La Leche in MO and find someone. If not, here is the website for Webster Groves.
http://www.lllwebstergroves.org/
It sounds like you need support. My son is 13 months and still nurses 4-6 times a day. I am dreading when he weans, as it as been one of the best experiences as a new mama (although hard at the start). Anywway, you can do it! Hang in there. Breastfed is bestfed!

K.,

I have a couple of thoughts for you. First, let me tell you my background - I'm a mom of a 2 year old and a 3 and a half month old. I have bf'd both kids. I am fortunate not to have had much of an issue with supply, but with my first, I did feel like I wasn't producing enough while pumping and found that the fenugreek helped. The other thing that helped was eating oatmeal? I know that sounds odd, but it did help. I found the suggestion on a website.

My other thought is this. . .assuming you are only pumping at work and your work scheduled is regular. If you feel like the pumping is just too much, you could try not pumping during work hours and bottle feeding during those hours on the weekend. This worked for me with my first. I stopped pumping at 9 mos and actually was able to make it until 18 months with just bf'ing in the mornings and evenings. It was a great compromise.

This time, I really was not up for the pumping. My job is really hectic and it is almost impossible to find regular times to pump. I am supplementing with formula during the day and bf'ing the rest of the time. I find it much less stressful than the constant daily pumping.

Also, if you haven't done so already, you might contact your local La Leche League for support. In addition, www.kellymom.com has terrific information for bf'ing moms.

Hope some of that helps, at least! I hope you find the right solution for you and your family. If do you decide to stop bf'ing all together, please don't feel guilty. You've gotten your baby off to a great start by bf'ing for the first 4 months.

M.
M.

K.,

The La Leche League can be very helpful. You might try to locate one near you. I wanted to give up, too with my first but I hung in there and am glad I did. It is likely that you are producing enough milk. So many women quit because they don't think they are producing enough. Some moms will supplement with formula, too. You need to find what works for you. But, I say talk to a professional lactation consultant either through La Leche or through the hospital before quiting. Congratualtions on nursing your baby for 4 1/2 months. That is more that most moms do. Take care.

Hi K.. A little about me, I am a birth doula, married for 15 years and have four daughters (breastfed all). I suggest weigh your options by asking yourself if breastfeeding means so much to you that you are willing to undergo the stress and work that you are feeling. I promote breastfeeding in my practice but I also work closely with an Enfamil rep that keeps me fully informed about formula. May I ask you a couple of questions? If so, let me know so that I can help you make a good decision that will affect your emotions about motherhood for a very long time :) Talk to you soon, L.

K. I have also been breastfeeding & when my son & I were dealing with Thrush I started losing my milk supply because he was hardly eating.
Once we were over that I needed my milk to come in & come in alot more & fast.
I used More Milk Plus. They are all natural & herbal supplements. It sd to take 4 a day but I only had to take 2 a day.
Hope this helps! M.

I admire the fact that you have been able to keep breastfeeding for this long, especially after going back to work full time. When I started back to work, I began supplementing with formula, and would breastfeed in the morning before I went to work (7:00), early evening (5:00), and then again around 11:00. This seemed to keep my milk supply evenly distributed so that I didn't have to pump during the day.
I can understand your frustration and can understand why your husband wants you to keep breastfeeding. However, if this is such a struggle it may also turn into an anger or resentment. There are millions of children that were never breastfed and were always given formula and they turned out just fine. This is time that you need to be enjoying your new baby and your new family, and not struggling with breastfeeding. The formulas today are fortified with just as many nutrients as breastmilk. Relax, enjoy your baby, and if breastfeeding works, great. If not, just throw that breast pump in the trash!! Have a great day!

K.,

Just wanted to offer my support in you continuing to breastfeed. It is an excellent choice. I brestfed my daughter for 10 months when my stressful and busy job started to really take a toll on my milk supply. I tried all that you mention but also found a tea that my mom gave me call Mother's Milk (Whole Foods had it) and it really gave me a enough of a boost to keep going. I found out the hard way that I had little choice to continue breastfeeding, my daughter is severly allergic to cow's milk and soymilk.
I wish you luck, you can do it!!! Your baby will thank you for it later (trust me)!

Hi K.. Try contacting your local La Leche League group. Go to www.lalecheleague.org to find your local office. I am breastfeeding my 2nd son right now who is 3.5 months old and encourage you not to stop! there are resources available to help you for FREE! Please, please call your local LLL leader. If you need help finding one, email me at ____@____.com and i can try and help you. I love my LLL group!

Hi K.. Congratulations on your child and much praise for nursing, first off.

Malts will make your milk come in more and thicker or things with malt like Ovaltine.

If you're wanting to stop though, you can't be hard on yourself for doing it. Babies get the most nutrition and immunities during the first 6 weeks of nursing. Even though it is best to nurse as long as you can, you should be very proud of yourself for going this long. Also, if you're stressing out, you're going to lose your milk. If it is better for your stress to stop then that's probably what's better for her as well. Keep in mind too, it'll be a lot easier to wean her now than later.

I nursed for 13 months and I know what a toll it takes on you. I was fortunate enough to get to stay home with my daughter or I wouldn't have been able to go that long.

I didn't mean to write you a novel. I hope this is somewhat useful to you. Good luck to you!

C.

Hello! I too struggle with a weak milk supply. I am currently nursing my third child who is an excellent nurser. Unfortunately, no matter how good she is at it I still cannot produce enough to fill her up. I don't really have any great advice for you as I too have tried the herbs and medications to help and none of them seemed to work for me. All I can tell you is that you are not alone. I will be returning to work soon myself and I am trying to figure out what I am going to do. Hang in there! You are doing and have done a great thing by going as long as you have! Congratulations on that!

Hi K., I read your breastfeeding request and feel for you, because I went through a similar situation. I felt pressure from not only family members but health professionals that breast milk would increase my infant's immunity and it was the best thing for her, which I can't argue. However, after trying just about everything, I switched to formula and was so relieved both mentally and physically (and I had a ton more energy!) I would come home from work and freeze my milk for the upcoming week, take pictures of my daughter to work with me to look at when I pumped, had a leche counselor. . .I think it has to be your own decision, not anyone else's. Whatever you feel is best for you - this should be a time of joy and happiness for you to spend with your baby, you certainly don't need to add more stress to the mix. Good luck, don't sweat it! I breast fed for 3 1/2 months and switched.

Dear K.:

Keep trying. It is worth the time spent your baby and the nutrients of breastmilk cannot be beat (not to mention how much you save in formula). However, breastfeeding worked only with my second child and I too had a low supply. What helped was the electric breastpump that I used at first to increase my milk supply and set a schedule for when "the milk begins to flow." Your body becomes regulated within about a week especially if you are consistent and you can then stop using the pump so frequently. My son who is 17 months now stopped being interested in breastfeeding at about 15 months and he is very healthy and happy.

Good luck,

D.

Hi K.,

The decision is up to you, not your husband. We know he means well, but he's also not the one dealing with it. I know there are breastfeeding fanatics out there, but I know MANY children who were formula fed who have turned out wonderfully (and very smart too). My husband was formula fed. He didn't start going to school until Kindergarten (no pre-school), and he graduated at the top of his class in high school and college. He graduated with a Bachelors degree in International Business in 3 years, he is fluent in German, and he obtained a Masters degree in 1 year. In addition, my nephew was breastfed and is sick a lot more often then my two children who were formula fed. My point is, studies are not the end-all be-all. Believe me, I do not knock down breastfeeding. I tried breastfeeding my first child, but it just didn't work out. He ended up being happier and slept longer on formula. The trick is to stick to one brand of formula and not switch to another. Enfamil and Similac are great! Mine were on Enfamil.

I have a relative who used to work for the government in the early 1970's (when WIC was founded). He indicated the big push in breastfeeding came about because the government wanted to highly lessen financial aide to parents in need of assistance to purchase infant formula. He said "studies" went into overdrive at that point. He believes their "studies" have placed unnecessary stress and worry on women, because whenever a group or governmental agency wants a specific outcome, hired researchers ensure the outcome is to their liking. I'm sure we have all heard the old saying..."figures never lie, but liars always figure."

The latest study I read about on our local news website is that children who were breastfed pee in bed less when they are a child! That is the biggest load of ____@____.com I have ever heard! My five and six year old boys have only peed in bed once since they stopped wearing diapers! I asked the women in my family who have done both breast and formula feeding their take on this subject, and their numbers were no different, with the exception of one of my nieces who was breastfed who does have a bed-wetting problem. I'm sure that's just a coincidence, and I don't hold any stock in this study.

The point I'm trying to make is I think these so-called "studies" and "statistics" are mind-numbing! They simply make women feel like they are bad mothers if we don't do everything perfectly! We don't need that! Life is hard and short! We place enough blame and guilt on our own mothering skills, so we don't need someone else making us feel worse!

Many breastfeeding advocates like to say that breastfeeding is best because God intended it that way. Well, first of all, I'm Christian and I understand this point, BUT, this point isn't a good one because when people were created, what other way was available for feeding infants? THAT is why God gave us mammary glands, but that doesn't mean every woman had ease or the capability to do so. Until advanced technology existed, when women couldn't breastfeed, surrogate mothers helped out, or cows and goat's milk were used instead. My husband's father was allergic to breast milk, so he was fed goat milk. Believe it or not...he's a very smart man to this day!

Instead of being catty and downgrading, breastfeeding women should stand-up for formula-feeding women and vice-versa. What's important is that our babies are clean, safe, happy and fed! What matter you choose to keep your baby that way is your business (not our grown men's business). Until men grow mammary glands and can stay up at all hours of the night, I think they should be supportive...HOWEVER we choose to feed our babies!

It's not fair for ANY woman who had an easy time with breastfeeding to knock down other women who did not. Since they had an easy time, they truly don't understand women who do not. We need to remember that every baby and woman is different. What worked for your baby and yourself may not (physically) work for another baby and mom...and that's okay!

I hope this helped!

It is really great you have breastfed this long if you have had so much trouble. I breastfed my son until he was 2 and my daughter is 21 months old and still breastfeeding. I really am ready to wean her, however it has been a struggle since she is so stubborn. I know how hard it is so if you need to quit then I would quit. Yes, breastfeeding is a really great thing, I feel it has to be a two way street between you and your baby. Maybe you can give formula half of the time if you don't want to quit.

DO NOT GIVE UP!!! Find a lactation consultant that is familiar with DOMPERIDONE. It is a prescription drug that is used for indigestion - but a side effect is that it UPS prolactin levels - thereby increasing your milk supply. There is an amazing lactation consultant FAMILIAR with this at Pediatrics Plus in Orlando FL. Visit their website at www.pedsplus.com to get a phone number and contact her. Tell her your situation and SHE CAN HELP! Her name is Pat Lindsey.
Good luck!

K.,

I work for St. Johns in Springfield, MO. I emailed our lactation specialist with your problem and this was her response. Please let me know if I can be of any help.

Hello J.,

Yes you can give her my phone number, ###-###-####. Sounds like she is taking Fenugreek and Reglan which stimulate prolactin the milk producing hormone, this usually helps. She could contact Jennifer Dale, Fremont Pharmacy, 417###-###-####), if she had questions about these products. A double electric rental pump (Medela) would also provide excellent stimulation. What she needs to realize there is no breast pump which removes milk like a baby, and a mother may need to pump two times to have enough for one bottle. Pumps do not compress the breast like a baby, but remove by extraction or sucking. A baby does both actions, therefore, removing more milk. Mothers may need to pump two times for one bottle of milk.

Thanks
Sheila

From a mom of two VERY healthy eaters, I too had a difficult time producing enough supply to satisfy either of my sons. I breastfed my first son for 11 weeks (Kahler is now 5) and the second for only 5 weeks (Ashton is now 2). With Ashton I did as all the literature and nurses said and drank water galore, didn't suppliment with formula unless absolutely necessary (after I had fed him for 45 minutes and he was STILL hungry), and pumped between feedings. Finally, I had to stop. I was emotionally and physically a disaster. I felt extremely guilty for stopping so soon; so much that I developed postpartum depression.

I'm not suggesting you stop, but instead I hope the following advice helps you make your decision. In retrospect I learned some very valuable lessons I want to share with you:
1. I was able to feed my sons at least the first few weeks of my milk, which I understand to be the most nurishing part of breastmilk. I feel good now I was able to do that. Both my boys are very healthy and happy.
2. With my babies I worked full time as well. Please understand the stresses that your body experiences from being everything to everybody takes a toll on your emotional and spiritual self. I was no good to my family and children when I was stressed out. My family when through so much as a result of my postpartum depression. Continuing on that track was detrimental to myself and my family.
3. Your husband's opinion does matter, but do what's best for you. Try not to let anyone make you feel guilty.
4. Ask for help when you need it. I hated asking for help from family members and friends because I never wanted to be a burden. But I realized people want to help and need to be needed just like you need to be needed as a mom and wife. This includes your husband. My husband is exceptional in that he helps out all the time, from housework to the kids. More women should request and expect this assistance from their spouse. Too many times we take on more than we can handle.

I hope this helps you make the best decision for you and your family. Best wishes to you!

Hi K.,
This is my first time responding to a Mamsource request. I just wanted to send you some words of encouragement.

I live in Hutchinson and have two sons, Aidan is almost 4 and Sean is almost 2. I have breastfed both of my boys while working. My youngest son has Down syndrome, and like NICU babies, he had a rough start nursing. He actually wasn't strong enough to nurse until he was 4 months old, so I pumped and bottlefed until then. I was so happy to get him straight to the breast and cut down my pumping session. I know how hard it is to keep up with that.

I worked part time until he was 1, so I pumped at work for him to drink at daycare. He had a hard time switching to any non-human milk (due to reflux), so when I started working full time when he turned one I had to pump even more frequently to keep up with him. I ended up pumping until he was 22 months old, but only once a day for the last 6 months of that.

I know it seems hard to keep up with the pumping now, but it does get easier as your daughter gets older. If you start solids when she's 6 months old, you'll be able to reduce pumping some. As she gets older she will take less milk at daycare, so that will help too. I always nurse on demand at home to boost supply and to make up for less milk at daycare.

As far as the actual pumping at work, do you have enough pump parts so you don't have to wash them several times a day? I found that helped me resent it less, as I hated constantly washing them. I also used my pumping time to sit at my desk and answer emails and such so that I could take my mind off the task & make it go faster.

If you need advice or support from other nursing moms, pop into a La Leche League meeting. I have always enjoyed attending them and gained a lot from them.

Good luck, you are doing a great job! If you have to suppliment with formula, it's okay. Any breastmilk is better than no breastmilk. Your baby is going to really benefit from your milk, espcially in a daycare setting with the winter/flu season ahead of her. It will really help her fight those bugs.

D. M.

Hi K.,
I am a mother of three children ages 12,8, and 3. I tried breastfeeding my first but I was always battling a breast infection. My second child I breastfed until she was 5 months. I tried to pump but I couldn't supply enough milk since she was eating every 1 and a half hours. Trust me, I know the pressure you can get from your husband. My mother-in-law was the Le Lache League president in her hometown so my husband wanted me to breastfeed until she was 2. Trust me, if you are not happy, your child will know it. It is your body and your decision. My husband was mad at first, but trust me, he got over it eventually.

I breast fed my son for 5 months. (He's 4 now) I too worked full time and had to pump a lot. The feeling is not the same when you are pumping as to when you're actually breast feeding. That's why the milk supply tends to become less. My body just quit producing and that was that. There was nothing I could do if I wanted my son to get all the milk he was drinking. My husband also didn't want me to quit. He is from a family of five and his mom nursed them all unitl they were one. I told him, I'm not your mother! Sometimes "husbands" don't get it. I have been married 5 years and have a boy and a girl. Drink lots of water. But if you run out, you run out. And it is very time consuming and stressful. And after being pregnant and breast feeding, you're ready to have your body back! The most nutritious milk comes in the first few weeks. You can feel at ease that your daughter had had the most important part of breast feeding. Also you could try breast feeding on the weekends and at night, or around your work schedule. The times you are away, attempt formula. Maybe you would have enough milk for that. Let me know what you think and if you have any questions. I went through everything possible dealing with breastfeeding, pumps, mestitas, acid reflux, leaking, and more! I breast fed my son for 5 months while I worked full time and that's when I just ran out or it dried up. (Then my daughter was breast fed for 4 months with acid reflux and finally she had to go to formula. She's 20 months now and has to have soy milk and no dairy products at all.) But, back to my son he was breast fed for 5 months. He's extremely smart and healthy. He loves milk he never want pop or koolaide, loves milk. No chocolate milk. He's very lean and muscular even at 4. So , 5 months of nursing and then formula didn't hurt him at all. Good Luck.

R. ; )
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K.,
I too had some difficulty with my milk supply (I didn't take any medication) but I was not able to pump enough during the day to send enough bottles with my baby to daycare ( I too work full time). I too thought of quitting because I was very stressed about it and that of course hurt my milk supply even more. What I finally decided to do is to nurse him when I was home (mornings and evenings and all the time on the weekends) and pump what I could at work, and if I didn't end up pumping enough, I just supplemented with the formula. It really helped with the stress level of it all because I was no longer stressed out about how much I would pump. And I figured any breast milk that he was getting was better than none at all.
I ended up breastfeeding till he was a year old. He is so healthy! I am so glad that I decided to stick with it. I wish you all kinds of luck. I hope you find something that works for you.

K.
Congratulations on making it this far. For working moms that is SO hard to do! But remember that every day is helping out your little one build her immune system and develop with the perfect food. But I understand your frustration. I turned out to be an exclusive pumper myself. First, let me say that I am no expert. There are certified lactation consultants at Kangaroo Kids in St. Louis that will talk to you for free at ###-###-####
But I often felt like they didn't understand my situation. They are helpful with herbs and such.
As far as my personal experience. Definately let the baby nurse whenever you can. And try to keep bottles for dad only. This way emma knows that she only gets the boob from you and bottles from dad. Second, check your shield size with your pump. My shields turned out to be too small and that is what made my breasts produce less milk. The nipple should not touch any area of the breast shield. Next, drink lots and lots and lots of water. Until you don't want to anymore. A nursing mom needs half her body weight in ounces plus 16 oz more. Hmmm...what else.
Oh I have a book called exclusively pumping. It gives some tips on how to boost a supply but they are time consuming. Like cluster pumping. This is when you pump every 20 minutes for 5 minutes. It is alot to do but the body starts to get the hint. Please email me at ____@____.com if you need anything or just support. I was able to pull off breastfeeding (pumping) for 7 months. Then I started making a goat's milk formula that I found...really good for her. Maybe your husband would be more comfortable if you found a natural alternative that is good for baby. It is called the Loffler-Wright Infant formula. Goat's milk is the closest to human milk as far as antigens go.
Keep up the good work Mom...you are doing great~!

I can truly relate as I had both of my children barely a year apart. I was still pumping for my 1st when I had my second. Then I had to start all over again. He's 7 mos. old now and I've basically been breastfeeding/pumping for 19 mos. straight. The pros are that my children have never gotten very sick (just normal little colds, etc.), neither have ever gotten an ear infection - even when teething, both are at healthy growth levels - even above in some aspects, and both find me quite comforting when something is wrong. I had no trouble weaning to a bottle or supplementing with formula when my supply began to dwindle. I totally understand how bad working full time and pumping sucks too, it's a choice I made and it may not be right for everyone. Just make sure you're doing what's right for you. No offense, but your husband will never quite understand what you're going through so him not wanting you to quit shouldn't be a factor. Good lu

Make a list of all the positives of breastfeeding for the baby and for you. First of all, it burns 500 calories a day. That right there is a darn good incentive. I just got to the 6 month mark and my goal is a year. I just keep thinking how different my schedule will be when I don't have to stop and pump during my workday and get up early before my baby and right before I go to bed. It is a lot of work, but just think about having to change formula diapers. I heard they are really stinky. And formula spit up stains don't always come out of clothing. Go to Target and check price on formula and add up what your baby would be taking in for a week and put that amount in a piggy bank or even a savings account. By the end of the year, you can buy yourself a very nice gift or you can decide to one day give it to your daughter and say thanks for the experience of a lifetime.

Bless you for breastfeeding this long. I tried to breastfeed but my milk didn't come all the way in. I would suggest that you put her on formula, because your stressed makes the baby stressed and doesn't help either one of you. My baby is 11 months old and I was just glad to breastfeed the first couple of weeks. So it is okay to give up because I know that breastfeeding is harder than it looks.

Working full time with such a little baby at home is hard. I remeber it well. Your body knows the difference between your baby and a pump, and it would probably help tremendously if you could have her on your breast throughout the day rather than a pump. That said, I wish I had some advice for you. But I really only have support to offer. I BF my little one until she was 10 months old, and she just up and refused to do it anymore. she would play with it, bite, start and stop, all the classic things babies do when they are ready to wean. I was heartbroken. And then...I got over it. I had done a great job for as long as it was possible. And you are doing a great job. Maybe you should consider supplimenting with formula once or twice a day, so that you have a chance to build up more milk. Whatever you do, it really is your decision. I understand where your husband is coming from. Mine was the "Nursing Nazi" and I wanted to strangle him sometimes. Let them try it, see how it suits them! But you have to weigh your options, and choose what is best for BOTH of you. Emma needs a mommy who is not pulling her hair out over this. I would try just one bottle of formula a day, to help you feel less anxious. Good luck, honey, and don't get discouraged. Even if you have to quit nursing, you will have a healthy, happy baby, and you'll be a great mom!
Jen

K., first of all, congratulations on making it this far.
I too went through what you are going through. I breastfed my son for 12 months. He will be 2 in September. I had a FT job and pumped every day 1-3 times a day. Sometime around 6 or 7 months, I began to have the feelings that I just didn't want my son on me anymore...no more nursing. I didn't want to stop, but I wasn't sure how to get past those emotions. Yes, my husband didn't want me to quit, however, my decision of not wanting to quit was all mine. I found support on a website that I have been on for years (www.fertilethoughts.com) and it was great. There is a board specifically for breastfeeding (tons of other boards as well). I found other women who were going through the same thing. Just knowing I wasn't alone helped me a great deal. I decided (for myself) that I was just going to push past it. I figured out the breastfeeding times that I felt the most miserable and tried to change what I was doing, positioning, and my mindset. After a week or so, I felt so much better.

I also had the issue of a decreasing milk supply. It was very difficult for me because I was used to getting 6-8oz expressed right AFTER just nursing my son! Talk about a cow! So I just increased my water intake and ate oatmeal everyday. After a few days, my supply was back up. I did have to supplement periodically throughout the 12 months, but I was glad everything turned out the way it did.

Bottom line, you need to do what is right for you. Hubby's wants aside, if you want to continue breastfeeding, find the support to help you get over the hump. It may take a little time but it's worth it. If you feel that you just don't want to continue and the feelings are too overwhelming, then go ahead and stop. Your daughter has reaped great benefits already! It's your decision...so just know that whatever you decide, you will be supported. I would highly recommend that website that I mentioned earlier. It is a WONDERFUL resource! My tag is Tweetyb

Email me if you have other questions or just want to chat. ____@____.com

Good Luck!!!

You should need Healthy Nursing Tea by secrets of tea that natural tea and without caffeine...
I tried it during breastfeeding and it worked wonderfully.
Take care!

Hi K.,
A little about me, I live in Liberty with my husband and 23 month old daughter. I work full-time, but when Alex was 3 months I started working part-time. That is when my milk supply started going down. I finally quit breastfeeding after 4 1/2 months because it was so much work and would take so long for me to pump and actually produce enough milk for her. I was upset, because it was such a great way to bond with her, but I also knew that I did my best and was able to give her 4 months of mommy's milk.
It's tough, but only a woman can understand the efforts(wonderful as they are) that it takes to breastfeed your child. Just know that you are not the only new mommy with these issues and concerns. Check out this website, it will provide you with lots of great info and will be a confidence booster! :) I hope everything works out for you! http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/index.html

First of all, congratulations on making it this far! You've given your daughter an amazing gift no one else could have. And considering her NICU stay, your efforts were doubled.

The stress your feeling probably isn't helping your milk supply much, yes? It can be exhausting, I know...I was sure I only wanted my daughter to have breastmilk for the first 6 months, despite a couple of setbacks that impacted my supply at about 4 months, and it was a struggle. I too worked full time & pumped.

Only you know what's best for both of you, but let me encourage you to keep nursing. Now that my daughter is almost 3 years old, I look back on our nursing time together (she's not nursing now!!) and can only see it as a great thing. She's the picture of what breastfeeding is supposed to do: no allergies, healthy, growing strong, likes lots of different foods, intelligent, etc. And on top of all of that, she got so much of that from me! As a parent you'll question almost every decision you make..which toys you buy, how you discipline, where you live, where she sleeps, TV...everything. But you can never question the value of your breastfeeding and what it's continuing to do for Emma.

The key is to make it easier for you and to build up your milk supply so it's not so difficult. Have you checked out http://www.breastfeeding.com or http://www.kellymom.com? Both of these sites have very good advice for any breastfeeding issue that comes up as well as encouragement to keep going. Don't be alarmed that some of their sections are targetted to those choosing to do extended breastfeeding (past 2 years). These sites are evidence- and research-based and will offer you very good, scientific, and tried-true suggestions no matter how long you choose to nurse.

When I was pregnant, though I've worked in hospitals and know how good breastmilk is for babies, my goal was 6 months and then I'd see how it went & possible switch to formula. Then I took a continuing ed. medical course on breastmilk and decided I would breastfeed for 1 year no matter what, even if it was very hard. They really don't tell people just how different for babies breastmilk is. But a year came and went and I couldn't believe that soon I'd be stopping. A little sad actually. It turned out to be such a great thing.

I hope you'll do whatever your comfortable with, but truly, if you can continue just till she's 1, you will have given her such a gift of health that is much more than most articles will tell you. And this nurturing time with you when you get to nurse directly will always remain in your heart as well.

Best of luck to you and Emma and your husband on your move. Please feel free to e-mail me privately.

G.

If you feel like quitting, then quit. There is nothing wrong with that. I nursed my now 2 1/2 year old son until he was 4 months old and it became to difficult with work and keeping my milk supply up. I quit at around 4 1/2 months and he was fine. He took the bottle well and I could relax about the situation.
As for your husband, mine had some advice on that situation as well and thought I should hold out longer. He did not win because he was not the one breastfeeding. I am not a feminazi in any way, I love and support my husband in everything he does and expect the same from him. The first few months of life is when the baby gets the most out of breastfeeding. I say stop and be a happier Mommy.

K.,
I am a Mom of a 2 year old Little girl and I breastfeed mine til she was 12 days old but when she was hospitalized at 4 days old I was alone and had noone to help me and My breast would get full full so I just went to pumping.To keep your milk supply up try taking the prenatal vitamins still the best kind I have found is Woman's once source brand It's in a pink box you can find it at walmart.I know how you feel about not quiting but maybe you can try to go to pumping and see if that may work for you since this can be stressful to keep at it.I wish I could help more but I had to quit all together so try the pumping thing.

C.

Hang in there K.. My son also was in the NICU - and during that time - pumping was about the only thing I could do to feel helpful. If you feel the reward of being able to share this special time with your child - that may be your motivation. Pumping is a challenge - an extra stress on top of the many other things changing with your life- and on top of full time work I really know where you are coming from. It's a personal decision how long to hang in there - if you can focus on the "good' that is coming from your efforts it may help. If that isn't enough to keep you going - it's okay to admit you are human and this is more than you can take on. Hopefully your spouse will be your cheerleader if you keep on, and your supporter if you just can't. Either way - best of luck!

Dear K., I am a mom of 3 children and 3 stepchildren. I breastfed all three of mine with different results with each child. It was very hard to learn how to be successful at this but I tried nontheless. I have learned that stress (mine) and the amount of liquids and food had an effect on my production. You have to find the right combination of both (good luck, you can do it) and if you can't don't worry about it and quit! You are the one who is completely in charge of this area and you should do what's best for you. My kids did just fine with a bottle after breastfeeding and my last one liked the bottle alot even though I nursed him the longest (6 whole months, I should have stopped sooner because he got 2 teeth when he was 4 months old, but nursing was very convenient so I struggled through it).
M.

Hi K.,
My youngest daughter is named Emma, she just turned 2 in June. I breastfed both my babies for about 9-10 months each and I worked full time. It was the most difficult with my first child because I had troubles at first as well. I bought a Medela pump in style breast pump and things took off after that. It was my lifesaver. I know they are expensive (try ebay) but it is worth it's weight in gold to me now. I know pumping can get old and if you do decide to quit, that's your decision and don't let anyone make you feel bad about that. I work with a gal who got very little milk pumping with her first child but she did it for a YEAR several times everyday and supplemented with formula. It just depends on what level of committment you can make to breastfeeding. Everyones situation is different. I would encourage you to keep trying. It was the hardest thing I did with both my children but it has been the most rewarding.

I suppose another course of action would be to see a lactation consultant, but I never did. I tried la leche league and read everything I could find but my best advice and encouragement came from friends who had breastfeeding experience.

Take one day at a time. Set a goal to breastfeed for one more week, one more month, and when that time comes, reevaluate whether you want to keep going or taper off. You've already succeeded at 4 1/2 months and with the rough start you had, that's quite an accomplishment. I hope I've helped in some way. Enjoy every minute with your baby, you are very blessed to have such a precious gift.

S. T.
Rolla, MO
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Hi K., as I am sure that you know stress does have an effect on your milk supply. Not sure if you are working full time as home with your daughter (that's what I was doing), or working outside the home, but you may want to check into pumping. The hospital I had my son at had a breast pump rental. Basically all you rented was the machine, all the attachments were new and you keep those. But the machine makes pumping much easier and you can do it whenever so you could actually increase the amount of breastmilk (if you can pump more that your baby eats . . .)I would feed my baby, then use the pump. Unfortunately mine never would take a bottle but I think it helped increase my supply. The rental was around $50/mo and I used it for 1 mos. The type of machine they had sold for $250 out in town. That hospital also had lactation consults that were extremely helpful, you may want to give them a call and see what advice they can give you. I would keep breastfeeding as long as you can. It is not doing either your baby or you any good if neither one of you is enjoying the experience. I breastfed both of mine until 13-14 mos. Let me know how you are doing or just need someone to talk to.

Hi K.

Someone told me that breastfeeding is like a relationship. You both have to like it for it to work. If you are that unhappy then maybe you should stop. I have 3 kids. With my first I had the worst time feeding so at 6 weeks I stoped. My 2nd loved to nurse so we did it for 6 months. I now have a 3 month old and we just take things one day at time. If you don't want to nurse anymore it's ok. There is no need to feel bad about it. You need to do what works best for you. In the end you need to do what makes you happy!!!
Take care
Megan

Hi K.,

I had fully intended to nurse my son until he was 9 or 12 months old. But when I returned to work, it did get complicated. I pumped four times a day, and nursed exclusively at home. But still my supply wasn't enough to keep up with the demand, he was still hungry all of the time. When I noticed that the supply wasn't enough to keep up, I would still pump at work, but would also supplement with a formula that contained DHA & ARA (the essential elements in breast milk). If nursing hasn't been a pleasant experience for you, why not consider supplementing. There are tons of children in the world that grow up happy and healthy with an exclusive diet of breast milk, or exclusive of formula or even a combination of the two.

I am sure your husband is wanting what is best for his daughter, and I know you do too. Consider this, my son is the same age as your daughter and we introduced formula when he was 3 1/2 months old. He is a very healthy and happy baby weighing in at 17 1/2 lbs!

Good Luck!
F.

Hi K., This is one area I am not too familair with. I tried to breast feed my daughter, but I couldn't produce enough milk. I wonder if massaging the breast would help, maybe it would open up the milk glands. I am sorry I couldn't help you. B.

K.,

I believe you need to do what ever is most comfortable for you. Although I had always planned on breastfeeding my son when he was born I found that once I started supplementing formula he did better on the formula than my milk. I fed for about 6 weeks. I was so stressed being a new mom, having so many people around visiting etc that my body became way to acidic. Since I quit feeding Dane has never had any health problems, he didn't even get sick for the first year of his life since he gained the most important nutrients from me during the first 6 weeks. I am pregnant again and again I plan on breastfeeding. Hopefully this time I can go longer than 6 weeks, but if I can't I don't have any reservations about using formula. It is important that you are comfortable with what you do because it will make your baby more comfortable.

My two cents worth... Hope it helps a little.

Hi K.. A bit of advice from a mom of a little 18 month old son. I breast fed for 4 1/2 months with my son and that was all I could take. I stayed home for 3 and went back to work full-time after that. I pumped at work for about a month and a half but it just wasn't working.

It was more frustration and crying fits in the bathroom from disappointment, no milk and time then anything. I can tell you this...the more stressed you are about it the worse it will get. I noticed when i came home i was even more frustrated when i was feeding my son. I finally ended up stopping and put my son on bottle. For a full-time working mother this is what worked for me.

I had a huge level of guilt and self-disappointment at first but after I got over that and realized it's not the end of the world I found out it was truely the best for all of us. I gave it my all and that's all i could of asked. I was a happier mom, happier wife and yes my son was just fine. Thank god we live in a country with modern advances like formula.

I will try again to breastfeed with my 2nd child but if it dosen't work out I'm not going to cry over spilled milk.

Jen

K. --

I have a nine month old and have just started experiencing what your going through. I am not able to get enough milk for him so my peditrician suggested supplementing one or two bottles a day for him but still breastfeeding him in the mornings and evenings and any other time I can do it. Maybe this is an option for you also. I have been having quilt about supplementing with formula but I don't know what else to do to increase my milk supply either. Did you find that the Fenugook increased your supply? I havn't tried that yet. I will tell you that everytime I would eat oatmeal my supply would increase. Just some suggestions.

I hope you don't mind me responding... This is certainly a trial I have battled with. Breastfeeding is NOT easy... It is invaluable to your child, though... What a decision, huh?

Well, first of all, I know of a FANTASTIC book for pumping Moms, "Pumping Breast Milk Successfully" by Susan Stafford. I would lend you my copy but it is already lent out. I highly encourage you to find this book. Other great resources: Dr. Sears, "The Breastfeeding Book."

My personal history is that my daughter successfuly breastfed for 2 and 1/2 years. However, my son was born with a heart problem that left him too weak to nurse. I pumped exclusively for him for his first 8 weeks. I then continued to pump for supplementation for two more months.

In pumping and breastfeeding, the first rule is to make LaLechLeague your friend--Kayl and Tiffany are leaders that are just the kindest, most helpful moms. Kayl ###-###-####
Tiffany ###-###-####.

The next thing is to remember THE RULES: Rest, eat, drink and stimulate the breast properly at least every 2-3 hours 24x7. Ideally, the baby should be allowed to sleep with you skin to skin and nurse through the night. Your lactation hormones are stimulated most at night.

Pumping at work should happen every two hours and is an opprotunity for you to sit back, meditate, look at a picture of your child, cuddle one of your baby's blankets, and rest. As you know, the hormones expressed when you "let down" can be really a lovely break in the day.

If you can provide a little milk from expressing from milk that your child can take during the day at her day care provider, while providing her fresh and natural milk while you off work with your child, even if you have to supplement a bit with formula, you are giving your child lots of great stuff... Closeness, immunization, etc. etc.

Have faith and patience with yourself.

And if you have to give up nursing to preserve your sanity or emotional and physical well-being, you are still a wonderful and loving mother because you are doing everything you can to be the best mother you can be. It takes a lot of hard work! Nursing is not easy and the set-up of our society is really discouraging and difficult for a nursing Mommy.

You are doing great and if you have to make a change... Well, it is ok! P.S. My son refused after a few months (after all that hard work pumping) because of a prescription I had to start taking for my own health... I had to give up nursing him. It just killed me emotionally, but he's OK anyway and I know I did all my best... And I used Sam's Club's Member's Mark formula (actually made from same company Enfamil is) because I hate paying all that money for formula when the Sam's Club is the same thing.

Anyway...God Bless You and Good Luck!

Hi K., My name is Stephanie. I have 1 little boy age 3 1/2. I had preclampsia. My son was born 8 weeks and stayed in nicu for 5 weeks. I had him caserean and because of complications did not see my son until the third day. I know having him caserean and not being able to bond plus the stress is enough to keep any moms milk level low. I took medication from my ob doctor it helped a little. Just make sure you rest, eat and don't get to stressed which almost is impossible with a baby. Do what you feel is right for you. Your baby won't love you any less. I breast fed plus bottlefed because I did not have enough milk. The lactation people told me some people just don't make enough especially if you have had a lot of trauma with the delivery and nicu. Hope this helps a little. Stephanie

K. -
Do not stress over the whole breastfeeding and feeling "obligated" to do so. I breastfed my second child until she was almost 4 1/2 months old, and I too had to pump at work since I returned to work full time when she was 8 weeks old. You have given her a great start on life with supplying her with the best thing for her - breast milk. If it's a cost issue, I understand - formula is getting more and more expensive. But you have to give your body a break too. I also had problems with my milk supply and also tried the Fenugrek and Reglan. I just don't think they work as well when your pumping so much. You will not be a bad mother if you decide to wean her off of the breastmilk. It's just really hard when you're having to work and keep up the supply. WE all want what's best for our babies and you have already given her the best start. Don't be hard on yourself. We can't always be "supermom"!!! Good luck to you!

K.-
I was in the same boat that you are currently in. I had to work full time and I also wanted to nurse my daughter. I did it for 13 months and then we decided we were ready to have another baby, so we had to stop. I never had a problem with my supply, but I know that if you get stressed out and worry about how much you are producing, that has a huge impact on your production. Just keep in your thoughts that you have given your baby the best start to a great life. I am all for breastfeeding, but only you can decide what is right for you and your baby. I joined www.parents.com and talked many times with the other mothers on the breastfeeding board. They are very helpful. You are doing great!!!!

Dont stop breastfeeding...it does get better. I breastfeed my 1st for 22 months and my 2nd fo 16 months and I have the heathliest 2 and 5 year old! I can say around 6 months I did supplement with formula...2 bottles of formula and then breastmilk either via pumping or nursing the rest of the day.

Have you contacted the hospital for a latation nurse? They helped me out with my 1st. I ended up drinking about 10 glasses of water a day and I started to pump about every two hours at work even if I only pumped for 10 min at a time. That started the flow of milk up in about 2 weeks.

Keep it up!

K.,
I have been Breastfeeding my 3 month old son as well and have had some problems too. I contacted a friend of mine who is a lactation consultant and she said that eating three servings of Oatmeal a day will help as well as the Fenugreek. Also frequency rather than length of sessions of her latching on will increase it faster. So if you can either nurse or pump more times a day even for a few minutes that should help. And if you even just save the Nursing for the mornings and evenings and have her on formula during the work day so you don't have to pump, then you are still giving her a great source of the good stuff and you still get that special time with her. I have had similar struggles and I really hope this helps you. You can email me at ____@____.com if you would like to talk more. Hope this helps, V.

Just do what you have been doing That is all you can do Unless you want to supplement with formula while you are at work and breastfeed at night. That is your only other option if your husband doesn't want you to quit your job

K.:

There is no need to feel guilty, you have given your child almost five months worth of breast-milk!! There is nothing that states you have to do one, or the other. Start suplementing with a bottle, it will be easier for you and your baby will be getting enough to fill her nutritional needs.

A.