Breast Implants ... - Granada Hills,CA

Not my business,but just curious as you why you feel this elective surgery is necessary? Personally I would rethink my priorties and ask myself if this is something that is really necessary to make you feel better about yourself. I'm not sure how you will explain it to your young children without them thinking from here on that a person's physical apprearance is so important and that its ok to change what you were naturally given if you dont like it. Are you sending a good msg to them? Our family moved to your state a few yrs ago, on a job transfer. I was initially so surprised when we moved here to see so many plastic surgery cntrs around there are so many and people who appear to have had work done; I find it pretty superficial. Pls don't be offended, but I would take the surgery money and put it in my children's college fund or go on a several family vacations instead, but who asked me?

I really don't think you should be walking around your house naked in front of your children. you nor your husband..you are not teaching them anything by doing this. Boobs, hey if you want them go for it..teaching your kids to be modest should be your concern.

I would probably say something to the effect of, "Mommy' s boobies were there to feed you when you were little, and then mommy's boobies got tired, so the doctor is going to help me to make them not tired anymore."

That is, if you really decide it's worth it to get the implants. I'm sure you know all the risk factors, as well as the benefits, so good luck with it, and hope you are happy with the results.

Your children will probably be curious about the change in your appearance, and then it won't be a big deal. I would *not* say or indicate anything about how you were not happy having smaller boobs. And I wouldn't spend a lot of time focusing on the boobs. Just carry on as before, but if it gives you more confidence, then even better than before. Best wishes.

First of all I don't have anything against surgery, I do think that is a dangerous think and it must be taken serious and know all the pro-cons, etc.
If you are open with your kids about being naked at home, I don't see why will be a problem to be open to tell them you got surgery?
My answer to your question is not saying nothing unless they ask, if they do, just say the true, momy got bigger bubies.
My concern however is that girls and boys have a problem thinking that they have to be thin, or have bubs, or be tall, etc. and it gets a little complicated to explain them that they should love them selfs as their are when you have change your self to look/feel better.
I am NOT saying don't do it. I am saying this is something that you will have to think about, in my opinion, is more important then what to say now.

Something I learned from a parenting class was only answer the question asked. As parents we sometimes go into all these explanations and the kid just wanted to know something very basic.
Go ahead and tell your children that you are going to have a surgery. Reiterate to them that you are not sick, but the surgery will make you sore for a few days. Then ask them if they have any questions and answer clearly with little embelishment or even answer questions that feel "loaded" with a "what do you mean by that?" I have found that explaining tricky things like "what is sex?" "why doesn't our cousin have a daddy?" and other conversations that are too heavy for them to carry have been well handled just by letting the child talk it out:)

I honestly am not into breast implants but hey I TOTALLY understand your feeling of wanting this year to be about you. GO FOR IT.
And I also think it is something you should tell your kids about...cause they're going to notice. Kids are smart.

I'm not exactly HOW to say it to them.
But i would say that you probably want to make sure that it doesn't come across as anything that could cause your kids to have "Body image problems"

(not saying that YOU do)
I just know that these days a lot of little girls are getting into plastic surgery WAY too early. And I think it's important for your kids, Heck MY kids, to have good self esteem.

Well, first off, congrats for doing something for yourself!! I am currently pregnant with our second child and I have already discussed, getting my boobs done after this child, with my husband. Nothing big, just a nice B+ or small C size... We too, still walk around our house naked. Nudity is no issue. I bet your kids won't even notice... hahaha! With the bandages on for the week following, just let them know that you are not hurt and your are simply enhancing mommy. After a little time it will not even be an issue. Go for it!!
Woohoo!!
: )

Hi there... I haven't been in this situation but a close friend of mine had implants when her kids were 7 and 8 and her and her husband just said mommy is having surgery and this will help mommy "feel" better about herself (she was EXTREMELY small chested and went to a full C). Anyways, they now have a "Boobie Anniversary" every year to mark how happy she was to have it done. The kids are 13 and 14 now and they kind of just giggle at the thought of it, b/c honestly it is funny that their mom has a "boob" cake every year. But she is happy and the kids were just kind of like "ok mom... you have boobs now".

Good Luck!!

I think Soccedrmomof1's suggestion as to what to tell your children is PERFECT!! I've been on the fence about getting implants for about 15 years now myself!! Good luck to you!

There's a book you should DEFINITELY look into. I believe it's called "My Beautiful Mommy" and it explains for children of that exact age range, why mommy looks different and why it's okay, etc. Google it :) and good luck with the procedure!

I think the questions will just be about concern for you because you will be in pain and not able to do anything when you are first home. So I would address that when mommy comes home from her surgery which is not becasue she is sick but to help help her "tired boobies" perk up, that you will be uncomfotable and not able to play and cuddle for a couple of days and after that all will be ok. Make sure you and hubs have an at home care plan and you will be fine. Kids just wanna know that their parents are ok. Good luck and good for you!

Interesting question. I see the benefits of saying as little as possible, as someone suggested earlier and only answering questions that they have (after you explain that you are having surgery). I also see the benefits of explaining that this is something you decided that you wanted to do for you, your husband agreed. Unlike wearing make-up or dressing up, this is a permanent decision so it is one that only adults can make after much thought. My general philosophy is to just be consistent, honest and clear. I'm not sure of the gender of your children, but if they were to come back to you at 15 or 18 and question what you told them now, you need to be able to stand by what you say (although I'm sure you can elaborate more when they're older). This is a decision you are making, I would make sure that you are unapologetic about it. If not now, then down the road they will realize that this wasn't something you did to fix something you thought was wrong with yourself but something you did after extensive thinking as a reward for already feeling great about yourself.