Bpd

Hi honey- It's okay, first of all.
Second of all, go see a counselor.
If that one doesn't seem to be helping, go see another one.
Don't worry about explaining it your husband, they never get things anyway plus it's not him having to "deal" with this condition. Men rarely understand this type of thing. He does not have this disorder so he couldn't understand

Get your support:
counseling
a group
your friends & family that do know & support you
Look for cheaper versions of expensive therapy:
google therapists in your area (some go by what your income is)
go to your doctor if you have health insurance
if you have health insurance, see if they have a psychology dept
go to the library to check out books on BPD
hang in there. You will get through this especially w/help.
Sending good thoughts! :)

You are only 21, if your husband is just as young, immaturity could be blamed for his tendence to deny the problem. Get him a book on the subject and tell him this way it'll be easier for him to understand you, and you'll both be happy. You need all the support you can have, especially being a mother. Get him from your husband (if he'll let you) but ask other people around you also, just in case. Take your medications so you can be the best mom you can be to your wonderful child. You need to be selfless and reasponsible, and so does your husband. Good luck!

I would stay with the counseling . . . just because your husband doesn't "get it" doesn't mean that counseling or therapy is wrong.

Good luck and hang in there.

I haven't suffered from Bpd, however, I have suffered from severe depression. I now can recognize my symptoms and have tools on how to deal with it. I dated and then married my husband before I had a "handle" on it. We were young when we started dating (17) then married at 21 and had our First child at 24. He had a hard time understanding why I couldn't "just be happy" he didn't understand why I couldn't control it. Often I couldnt explain it. We are now 30 with our second child. I would say only in the last few years has he began to understand my condition. It helps to talk about it, for him and me. I found it's okay to admit that I don't understand, and can't explain it.
I guess I'm trying to say it takes time, and communication. I'm not sure about Bpd, but with depression, it is something I will have to deal with and work on forever.
Hang in there, it sounds like sense you are aware of your condition, that is a good first step. I don't really have any more advice, just to say be strong!

I guess my first concern is that you should be able to care for yourself without authorization from your husband. In this life, we marry and there is always compromise, however, we must first always care for ourselves. The money may be an issue but your heath or feeling right about yourself should not be an area where you cut back. I don't know how you feel about this but I believe that you should be able to go and address this concern with your therapist the first trip back. Maybe find ways to share your disorder so that he can understand..it doesn't sound like he would be too willing to come with you so that your therapist can enlighten him but at least you can find ways to educate him on your condition and find the support for both of you to see you feeling better about life.

I understand what you are going through. Your hubby will never understand this illness due to his ignorance. Make an appointment with the doc your hubby goes to, one that he trusts explicitly.

Beforehand tell the doc's office you need an "in the office" visit to talk to the doc, not a medical exam visit. Tell them the doc needs to discuss this biological illness with hubby. Tell them to please use pictures to show how the chemicals are imbalanced and how the medication works to correct it. If your hubby is a visual learner that is the only way they will make an impact. If hubby thinks all disease that does not effect the body where it can be seen then ask him to explain diabetes, or cancer, or some other illness that cannot be seen.

If he trusts this doctor he will have to decide whether to believe him or not. This doc is not a psychiatrist or a therapist but HIS doc, someone HE trusts.

If he does not understand this from a medical point of view then there is little that you can do to make him understand and you'll have to decide what to do at that point. You are young and this will be with you the rest of your life. As time goes by they will find new drug therapies that may or may not work miracles in your body. How do you want to spend those years, arguing with hubby about this or living without his attitude?

One of my old friends had this and she suffered daily until she found Depakote. It was like a miracle to her. She is such a different person now. I hope you can find a drug therapy that works well for you soon. She also got rid of a hubby that was mean to her when she had bad days. She felt so much better after he was out of her life, she didn't realize she was having other things, like environmental depression, too. She was so much better after him.

Dear S., a huge part of the problem with mental disorders or diseases is that unless you've been there you don't understand! Your husband needs to be educated by someone he trusts. It's so hard because (from the outside) we "look" just like anyone else and others can't understand why we can't just "snap out of it"! I agree that you need counselling ... but so does he! Do you have a doctor who your husband respects? It is essential that your husband accepts and understands your condition because (if he doesn't) it will eventually drive the two of you apart. I've been there (the only difference being that for my diagnosis there is medication that helps). I ended up in a psychiatric hospital for 6 weeks and both my husband and kids had to attend a therapy session as well. Our home life is now sooo much better now! All 4 of understand each other a lot better and all I need to say now is that I'm having a "bad day" and they all know what it means. S. you are not alone but you DO need help! For your sake and the sake of your family, find someone to explain to your hubby that BPD is very real, is nobody's "fault" and can be managed! Feel free to send me a private message or email ____@____.com any time. I really feel for you and I pray that your husband will "see the light" and allow you all to get the help you need. Best wishes

I do not care about what your husband thinks about treatment, but the fact that you are using your son as a crutch to get through the day throws up a huge red flag to me.
I agree with others that maybe he is simply a bit immature and does not understand mental illness very well - in any case he is not a doctor. I mean there are people who think that cancer is just a scam... and if you had cancer you would not let let DH tell you whether or not he agrees with you getting treatment... unless he is a mental health provider, your DH's opinion on your disorder has no weight.

Your son is two, he may be a huge motivation getting you through the day right now (though it could just be a symptom of your disorder, as people afflicted by BPD tend to idolize some - in this case your son and demonize others, in this case your DH).
Parenting does get more challenging over time and you may soon reach the limit of what you can handle - I grew up with a parent that went through bouts of mental illness, and it totally ruined my childhood and haunted me into young adulthood.
You are right on, get back into treatment for your and your son's sake.
Good luck.

Bpd is a VERY hard disorder.

Please stay on your medication. I will presume they are giving you lithium?

have him talk to a doctor - not just a therapist - but a doctor to help him understand the disorder, the medication and what your body is going through. Especially how your brain is handling the chemicals and hormones.

Please keep an eye on your son. Bpd can be hereditary. Do not EVER stop taking your medication - unless your doctor tells you to.