Boys and Girls - Behavior or Personality?

I have a girl (the oldest) who is 8, and a boy who is 4.

They are very different.
Gender differences.

Boys- it is all gross motor physicality.
Girls- in my case, listen more and better, can sit and do crafts and have good attention spans for things like that.
They follow direction well. Well my daughter did ever since she was 1 year old. And is like a little "Mommy."
She potty trained earlier too, and was talking earlier too.
More emotional though.

Definite, differences.

I have 2 girls. Boy on the way. Girls are 7 and 2 and they act like your boys. They dont listen the first time and scream all the time. I think each child is different. I see parents with 3 kids who are so well behaved in public. Stay next to them and are quiet. While my kids act like monkeys. The run from me and touch everything. ugh.... Have fun!

I have two boys, almost 7 and almost 3. My oldest is much like your boys. He wants me to do everything for him and he can't take more than one instruction at a time b/c he will completely forget what the 2nd or 3rd thing was that I asked him to do. He is very high energy and loud! He would be perfectly content to let me wait on him hand and foot.
My youngest is like your daughter. If he even sees me getting my stuff together he goes and finds his shoes, coat, hat, gloves and always a dog treat to give the dog on the way out the door. He is always the first one ready and if I try to help I get "No, Mama, me do it". The little one always wants to help with dinner, help put laundry in the washer, wash his own hair in the tub, get his own water from the fridge's water dispenser.
I have two completely different little boys :) I often wonder if the oldest is the way he is b/c he was basically an only child for his first four years, b/c his older sis was only in town 5-6x per year, and I was able to dote on him.

Well my family would support your theory.

My boys are 18, and 16. My daughter is 13.

They are all well adjusted and successful kids. But sure, it often seems like my boys are a couple of fools and my daughter was born 40.

One example where we fall square into the stereotype....my boys were not fully potty trained until they were past their 4th birthday. My daughter took her diaper off at 18 months, climbed up on the toilet and was instantly potty trained.

She is way more able to verbally express herself than they are which means dramactically less frustration. I wondered whether it was because she's the youngest, as much as being a girl.

After all, as a baby she had to be a part of 5 year old and three year old things, where as the other two didn't have that. She also nursed for the shortest length of time....WAY too many distractions.

Anyway, my boys are fantastic in that boy kind of way. But the girl and I just have this thing, you know? We're just tight, and she's already WAY smarter than I am!!

:)

I have a boy and 2 girls.

My older dd is a halfsies - meaning 50% she acts like she is a princess and is all dainty. The other 50% - she is wresting w her brother and playing like she is one of the boys.

My son is ALL boy but is very loving and caring. He always makes sure everyone else is taken care of before he is.

My youngest dd is only 3 months - so not sure yet. But looking forward to it.

I say its a personality thing.

Each child is different... Yes, my two boys are aggressive, especially when their boy cousins are around. There is a 9 year gap between my two boys. My daughter is the oldest at 16, then 14 and 4 1/2 year old boy. My daughter as a little girl like to play or be by herself. My middle son and I guess also my baby boy like to be up under me. When my almost 14 year old was 2+ he use to tell me and grandparents in the evening he needed to burn so energy, because he was always jumping around and climbing on things. Still a little hyper. My daughter at age 2 stop taking naps or she'd be up all night. Now middle son, napped all the time until 1st grade when they took them away from him. When he was younger he'd go strong all day long, wearing me out, but as soon as he was tired he was out in 2 minutes. I still say both my boys love to jump, and climb on things, little more hyper than their sister.
Potty training was pretty easy with the first two, my second always wanted to be like his older sister. My middle son likes praises, my youngest son hates praise/attention.
As for getting ready, my youngest and oldest get ready really fast, my middle one is a procrastinator like his momma...
I think my middle son picks on his baby brother a lot.
My daughter will be rough with them sometimes, she's built more like me husky and middle son is bones but I guess has some muscles because he's so strong. Well, when they were little he use to pick/instigate and she would sock him. I would let her too, because he started it most of the time. I was a little afraid for him, but he has always held his own, maybe why he's so strong now... still looks like some sticks...

I have three boys and one girl and I say personallity. I have a boy that is just like your daugter, two boys that are total 'boy' and my daughter is more 'boy' than I ever thought possible. She dresses up in her princess clothes and then grabs a lightsaber and starts wacking of her brothers. I wish she would be more independent, but is far from it. It does seem like you have the sterotypical boy and girl, but a lot of kids do not fit sterotypes.

I have a girl and a boy. My son is oldest (12) my daughter is 9. Your description is not very different from how I would describe our kids. Son needs to be reminded often to get things done, daughter can be told "do xyz so we can abc" and when you get to the door she is ready. She can sit and do crafts (she is learning knitting right now... as in, she asked for knitting needles for Xmas, and got them and Nana just came to visit and showed her how to use them yesterday, so she is diligently making a blanket today--was knitting and watching TV earlier). She loves to read. She learned lots of skills early on and has the internal motivation to do lots without being asked. Son, while doing some things fairly early (talked plainly, walked early, and potty trained early -- at least according to what I read on this site from a lot of other moms of boys... I mean, he was 2 1/2, so not really early in MY book, but...).. still needs reminders to stop one activity to move on to the next and cannot seem to remember to clean up anything after himself more than about 20% the time. The other 80% of the time I have to remind him about 4 different times before it is accomplished.

I think some of it is boy/girl stuff. Some of it is birth order stuff. And some of it is personality.

I have two boys, 6 and 13. Both of them are very gentle boys; they follow directions, listen well, like to read, and are very calm. They do like to play outside and run around, but generally I would describe them as calm. Both are very mature for their ages.

I teach high school, and although some kids seem to fit the stereotypes for boys vs. girls, it seems to be more of a personality issue. I enjoy them either way. :)