I believe the book I used was, "Social skills picture book : teaching communication, play and emotion," by Jed Baker. (It's been a while.) I found it through my library. My daughter was having problems catching on and it seems like she has slowly been progressing as she has gotten older. She's now a first grader.
I had her tested and the only thing they came up with was a slight speech delay. She had massive temper tantrums too with a couple lasting all day. It seems like one of the things that helped her the best was watching her more empathetic younger sister interact with me. She then started modeling that behavior after a while. Good luck and feel free to message me if you need a chat.