H.M.
I have never experienced this type of situation but I can advise on who else would know a great deal on whether or not you should proceed with the operation. My suggestion is to pray about it and let god assist you also in making a decision for your precious child. I am also a single mom but I have two children and I am raising them by myself also. It is hard but possible taking one day at a time. I wish you the best of luck and may god bless you both.