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Seek out playgroups/mommie groups. Then, during the week of his b-day, take some ittie-bittie cupcakes & napkins with you to the playgroup. Please don't worry about throwing a formal b-day party with invites, gifts galore, balloons, etc. Children really, really DO NOT remember anything you do for them until they are about 5 years old!! ((Took our kiddos to Disney World at ages 4 and 2 and they DON'T remember. They are 24 and 22 now. AND now, is when I WISH I could be taking them to DisneyWorld.)) If you want some good 1st-birthday pictures, the "smash-cake" suggested by the other mom is a great idea - - set him in his high chair, put the cake in front of him, sing to him, and just start filming.