I made my DD's first birthday, as tradition would have it in my family. It was healthy and sugar free, so of course, I didn't want to serve it to the guests. ;-)
So, I had a cupcake decorating party. I ordered undecorated white and chocolate cupcakes, and had all the fixin's, even dirt and worms, for the kids to decorate with. I put down a floor covering, and had them decorate at the table. Then I took each kid's photo with their 'creation' for my DD's scrapbook. The kids had a blast!
I also made a different cake for the adults which looked like a stack of birthday gifts. Cute. Check out this website...
www.cakecentral.com
They have tons of pictures, ideas and recipes.
Best wishes!