Birth Control over Getting Tubes Tied!!

Updated on April 16, 2007
K.C. asks from Galloway, OH
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I have a 10 year old son and am pregnant with my second due in 7 weeks. I have been planning on having my tubes tied after this one. But my dr keeps trying to suggest other options. she recently brought up the idea of Mirena IUD . But i don't really know much about it. I know I don't want to have anymore kids. I was fine with just one then I got the shock of finding i was pregnant again. I know I am done and that more kids in the future are not for me. I was wondering if anyone had any information about this birth control or about getting their tubes tied. I am confused about which way to go. I want the safest and more reliable way.

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I thank everyone for their advice. I am going to have my tubes tied. Though some people believe I may be to young. I had always had it planned to have them tied when I was 30. I just do not want the fear of getting pregnant anymore. I have always wanted to have my family young and still be young enough when my kids got older to enjoy life with them as adults. I j ust don't trust birth control. Being a struggling parent for 10 years with one and now it will be 2 I believe is enough. I just wnated to make sure I looked into all options before making my final decision. So everybody thankyou!!!!

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A.G.

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I had my tubes tied after having my 2nd daughter in Nov of 2005. I was scared to do it but I'm really glad I have done it now. No worry about birth control or the cost.

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C.H.

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Hello and congrats on the new baby!!!!!! I was in your situation once, after having my 2nd child I wanted my tubes tied and I let the doc talk me into birth control. I HATED IT!! the fear of still getting preg. is there. You had to make sure you did the meds right and then you needed to have a back up plan "just in case" and there are meds out there that interfere with birth control so you need to watch that as well. When I finally got my tubes tied it was a great relief. It is no longer the major surgery it once was, I was home the same afternoon and back to work 3 days later( I am an R.N. on my feet all day) with no restrictions. And the best part is, no worry sex. If it is want you really want stick to you guns, but make sure it is because getting it reversed it ALOT more costly than having it done, most insurances wont cover a reversable. I hope I helped a bit and GOOD LUCK.

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A.K.

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K.-
Congratulations on your expected daughter. I have a 4 yr old daughter & LOVE having girls. I am also expecting my 2nd now. I wanted to respond to your questions about the Mirena IUD b/c I used it for several years. I experienced many of the potential problems w/ the IUD, but would still recommend it b/c I feel like the benefits outweigh any problems. I plan to have another one inserted after the birth of this child. I had it put in 5 weeks after the birth of my 1st child. For a while I experienced slight depression and severe mood swings. How much of that was associated w/ the IUD & how much of that was post partum - I don't know. I continued to have irregular periods for about 9 months. Then everything stopped. NO periods, no cramps, mood swings, nothing. All gone completely for over 4 years! I loved not having to worry about taking a pill or messing w/ any other form of birth control. It was no longer anything I had to think about. Then, this past August I had a miscarriage. I went in & the Dr determined that the IUD had slipped, I had gotten pregnant, but my body couldn't sustain it. Obviously, I had to have the IUD removed. About 3 months later I got my first period in over 4 years, and 4 weeks later I found out I was pregnant w/ this child. I had started taking the Yaz birth control pill, but my body just wasn't taking it, I guess. I knew that I did want to have more kids, so I was ok when I learned I was pregnant - even though it wasn't what I planned right now. I know this is a lot to consider, and your situation is different since you don't want to have more kids, but I thought I'd let you know my experience. Like I said before, I think the benefits far outweigh the problems & I plan to have another one inserted after the birth of this baby - and I do NOT plan to have another one after this. You just can't beat no period or ANYTHING for years. But I guess having your tubes tied would cause the same thing. But don't you have to take HRT and other things to keep your body stabilized? You're so young & I don't know what the good/bad is of having tubes tied right now. Good luck w/ your research and making this difficult decision. I wish you the best.
-A.

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L.H.

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I am 44 years old and definitely done having kids! I wish I would have had my tubes tied! Now, I'm too old to take "the pill" or any of the new things out there. I have never had an IUD but have a neighbor that did and really did not like it.I still plan on having my tubes tied. I have had a few people tell me their periods got better after having it done. As far as scarring, i have a friend that has a tiny scar by her belly button. You can't even notice it unless you are looking. Good luck with the new baby!

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K.C.

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K.
Well congrats on your little girl! I understand what you are going through. I have been on almost every form of birth control, pills, shots, rings, implants, iud. And I have 4 kids all bc babies. i had my tubes tied after my last one, it was scheduled to be done with my c-section but MY ob/gyn was not on call when I went into labor 6 weeks early and the doctor on call would not do it, it was a high risk pregnancy and he did not believe in tieing tubes when there was such a high chance of fetal mortality. so 4 weeks after I delivered my 4th child I had my tubes tied. in and out the same day and up and around with in days. and yes the doctor did say that there was a chance that my menzis could get bad but no problems so far and it has been 8 years. my cycle only lasts 3-4 days and is light. i do have some cramping a day or two before and during but it is not bad. Just make sure to have the procedure that is perminant there are two and one is reversable with a complicated surgery. Good luck!

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K.H.

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Hi K....i got the Mirena IUD and I love it! I no longer have periods and the procedure was so quick, I never even felt it. I plan on having it renewed every 5 yrs until I hit menopause (although we do want one more baby sometime around the next 3 years). If you read the statistics, it's even more effective than a tubal. I think it has more positives, too (like no periods!!!) Good luck with whatever you choose.

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K.N.

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Well congrats on teh new baby, I read a lot of the other responces and here's yet another opinion for ya. I went through heck to get my tubes tied, I was just 21 and the doctors did not want to do, but it was also baby number 3 and there was no way I was having more, they were all bc babies. And let me tell you it was about painless, I've had no trouble, I was back on my feet a few days later like nothing ahd happened i have the tiniest of tiny scars, and it's so low nobody but my hubby sees it anyways. they did tell me my periods could get worse and i could cramp badly and forever not just right after but i've had no problems, and i had really terrible cramps before i had kids. It's been 4 years and a divorce later and though at times someone will ahve a baby and I'll think boy that would be nice untill I hear hey mom and think it's a good thing I'm done, so I haven't ever regretted it for long. Trust yourself, don't get talked into something that you are unsure of, it's what i wanted and i'm very happy i had it done, good luck with whatever you decide.

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S.F.

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K.,
Congrats to you havaing a little girl. She will be your pride and joy for years to come.
If getting your tubes tied is what you realy want then do that. Have you asked your doctor why they keep suggesting something diffrent than what you want?
They may think that you will change your mind down the road since you are still so young.
I had my first baby at 37 and I every now and then think about maybe one more. Its usuall a passing thought. Its still a feeling every now and then.
If will give you peace of mind and help you ejoy your sex life, the do it.
Best wishes to you and your family.

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J.P.

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If you ever do go permanent, get the Essure Procedure instead of your tubes tied, its much less invasive and its done in 30 minutes!! I had my Essure Procedure done by Gerry Riley at in the office, he is part of the Seven Hills Group, it was great!

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T.B.

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Hello K.
I am a few years older and I was in a simular situation. My oldest son was born in March of 1996 and my second son was born August 2005. I KNEW for sure that I did not want any more kids. I had my tubes done in the hospital after my second son. I was back on my feet in a few days. Only you know what you want &what you feel is right for you.. You will feel it and know for sure. I am very happy that I did it. My periods are pretty normal, every 28-30 days. They do last a day or two longer than when I was on the pill. But I do not have to remember to take a pill !!!! Good luck with your decision and Congrat on a Baby Girl.

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K.M.

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I had an IUD put in after my third child. I LOVE IT!!!!! I know I don't want more kids but the whole idea of it being a final thing scares the heck outta me. I would say get the IUD and if you change your mind you can have it removed and get the tubes tied

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R.M.

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Hello there. Congrades on ur pregnacy:) U r facing some big decisions here. My thoughts is even though u know that u dont want anymore children i dont think the ur current time is right to make the decision. Dealing with all the feelings and hormons due to pregnacy can affect ur decison making. I would wait a few months after birth. (the feeling of being a new mom will make more thoughts pop up) and if u still know then u dont want another child then get ur tubes tied. This baby ur hving now is ment to be or u wouldnt be havning it. I just really feel at ur current situation is the wrong time to decide this. Good luck to ur call. Dr.s do know best. Hopefully will use the pill and whatever for just a couple months after the baby before u make such a life decison.
take care R.

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