R.L.
I understand you & your husband's dilema. My daughter is 12 and an only child. Not by choice. I am one of 5 kids and never wanted an only, but divorce...anyway. I'm happily remarried now and while we would still like another, I can tell you that my daughter is growing up just fine as an only. They do tend to grow up and mature much faster, being that they are around adults most of the time, but that is not such a bad thing. Only children tend to be leaders and owners of businesses. Their are positives. There are 2 books - the Birth Order and the Birth Order Connection. It helps to read and understand how a first-born or only child works and interacts with others. I hope this helps!