Behavioral Issues with 5-Year Old

Yes mine has but usually only directed towards her sister..a 5 year old should be able to understand they are company and need to be treated nicely or XXX will happen. Losing TV time or a favorite toy usually works.

At about that age my son won a huge gift certificate to Walmart. His older sister told him he could get anything he wanted with it. I explained that he could do that or he could purchase something for his sisters and himself. He got this big gleam in his eye and said, "Come on girls we are going shopping!" He took them to the toy department and waved his little hand in the air as he announced, "Girls, get what ever you want! It's on me, because I am your brother!" He got his younger sister a doll, his older sister a fake fingernail kit, and a hot wheels toy for himself. He marched those girls up to the cashier and told the cashier that he was buying his sisters toys today as he handed her the gift card. Once they were in the car he said, "So, what do you think? I'm not so annoying now, am I!"

I loved that age!

Yeah on the baby part... it's usually after he watched Rugrats and he got it from that twerp Angelica. Note to self, cut back on Rugrats. Fortunately, it's not very often when he says something like that. But (off the record) usually the kid IS being whiny.

We pull him aside and ask him what to real babies do? Drink milk, go poo in their diapers, they can't walk or talk... then say, "Your friend is not a baby" We remind him it's very hurtful to say unkind things and call people names. He must apologize as well.

We also are okay if he doesn't like a person.... but we enforce he try to get a long an still be kind. If the kid is bothering him, he can come and sit with me or walk away from the child. Now, usually, they say these things b/c the younger child is being annoying anyways to them since they are on different types of play and maturity levels... so it's usually a good idea to separate them for a while or distract them with a new game or something.

My son is 5.
No, he never does that.

Maybe, your son does not like, having the child in his home, his "territory" and is asserting his control over his home.
And, over his things.

Does he even like this child?
Is it a play-date, for him? Or a friend of yours who happens to have a child?

Your son obviously does not get along with this child. And it is a "girl" and he may not 'know' how to play with girls.
I have a boy and girl and they are very different.
But my son knows how to play with girls, because he has a sister.

talk with your son.
Ask him "why" he does that.
Guide him.... and don't force him to 'play' with the girl. Maybe he can just play by himself and do his own thing.
Not all kids, like each other.

How much younger, is this other child?
The developmental age difference, may be, not congruent with your son's age.

He is 5. He knows what is 'mean' and 'nice.'
I think, your son may feel... that he is not the center of attention???
A baby, usually gets more attention.

How is he with other kids????

Hopefully he doesn't start to resent that baby... more.

You speak to him.
Tell him he is OLDER.... and not a baby.
Babies can't do what he does.
They don't know what he does.
He cannot expect babies to be like him.

He seems.... "jealous" of the baby.
to me.
To me, that is the problem.

I am loving the book "How to have a new child by Friday".

Poor you. Don't worry. He'll be fine as he grows older because you are doing something about it. I understand how it can make you feel embarrassed. I would feel the same. Just a bump in the road. Hang in there. :)

My 4 year old will say that when he is frustrated with the older kids in the neighborhood. Keep up the consequences and help him to understand what is frustrating him - she could be acting like a baby to him! But he needs to respond like "the big boy". Mine even calls me a baby - I tell him I am too tall to be a baby - pick another word..!!! Last week he picked butthead - no more sponge bob!

My daughter (almost 5) has occasionally done this to her younger sister, but not to friends. She is not consistently like this with her sister though - just every now and then when she is frustrated with her. I just try to teach her to say what she really means (usually she needs some space or time alone). So I tell her to say instead "Please, I need some space right now" or something similar. If he is consistently mean you definitely need to nip that in the bud or try to figure out where the feeling is coming from. He should be old enough to learn to take care of younger kids. ALL of our kids are guilty of some sort of naughty behavior so don't be too embarrassed! Just consistently and firmly remind him every time that it he needs to be a gracious host to friends and especially to take care of any younger child. I'm sure he'll get it soon enough!