My husband & I are having problems with our youngest son who's 4 1/2. He's in daycare & has been since he was 8 weeks old, but sometimes (once every couple of weeks) he acts out. He'll pull hair or hit his friends, call other kids "Baby", or tell kids to "shut up", or he doesn't mind his teacher. We're at a loss of what to do, at home we don't cuss, or tell our boys to shut up. I talk to him about how acting up makes God & others sad & we dont' want to do that. We pray about it, I talk TV time away, make him stand in the corner....Thank you in advance for your input!!
I can not tell you how many times I have seen older siblings hit, push, pinch, or do other demeaning acts to their younger brother or sister right under their parents noses. Children copy what they have learned, or maybe he is being picked on at school, or not getting the attention he needs. What ever the case is it is defiantly worth getting to the root of why he chooses to hurt another.
Well, anytime children are together for such long periods of time you can expect this behavior.
I have a 4 year old and he can be very impulsive.
What is teacher-to-student ratio?
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I would recommend a book I am just got finished reading - "Shepherding a Child's Heart" by Tedd Tripp. It goes from just treating the behaviour into addressing the root cause. I loved the book and am now trying to put it into practice for my 3 1/2 year old. Good luck! I know how challenging it can be.
I have a 4 1/2 year old girl. I've noticed that when times get stressful around here (currently trying to sell our house) or there are too many activities planned, she tends to act out more. That's when we usually have a 'date' time with just her. Almost to regroup. I was a teacher in my previous life, sometimes if kids couldn't get positive attention, then they reach for negative.
Maybe ask what 'positive' things are being done for him at daycare too. Maybe he's trying to get attention.
Just a thought.
