We threw my daughters paci away last Thursday (she's 2 1/2). She said I dont need this throw it away and we did. That night we find out she has a stomach bug cause she woke up vomitting so that was rough. Since then we took her to build a bear to build a hello kitty bear with pajamas on that she could sleep with and made a huge deal out of it. Well she has been a mess in every way. Now cries at school drop off, does not want to stay in her car seat, battles at bedtime and is up for like 1-3 hours in the night. What can I do to help her through this. My whole family is tired and frustrated. I try to rock her to sleep to help soothe her, bring her to our bed if she's having a hard time going back to bed, letting her sit and cry. Im just at a loss.
Yes, How old is she?
Then, DOES she even like, her Build A Bear??? as a Lovey????
If not, then it will NOT work, as a Lovey nor comfort her.
Only if a child, truly likes/loves their lovey and is attached to it... will it provide a comfort for the child.
Otherwise, is it just any ol' stuffed toy.
Not a Lovey.
My children were addicted. We took them away from my muddle child when he was two because he had a trauma with his teeth. Unfortunately, a trauma is just when they need the comfort! After the were settled we gave the paci back. A little while later we started saying things like when you get too old for pacis they start to taste yucky'. After a few weeks of dropping hints like that, I painted all the nipples on his pacis with Stop'n'Grow, the stuff you put put on to stop nail biting - it tastes bitter. It worked a treat! He didn't want them again after trying a couple. I did this with my youngest also, and it was fantastic!
Well give her back a paci if it is so awful for her. My girls used pacis till they were way too old (one was 2 and the other was 3) and we had 2 rough nights and that was it. I do not think she should be forced to give it up if she's not ready. Maybe wean it down a bit.
healthy sleep habits, happy child-
it's a phenomenal book.
it may just take a few weeks for her to adjust.
best wishes-
SHE said she didn't need it and to throw it away, correct? So you didn't force her to give it up and I wouldn't replace it. And, just like with potty training, little ones have to want their specific reward or it won't work for them. Maybe Build a Bear wasn't what she truly wanted or needed and isn't familiar enough.
Hopefully she has a bedtime ritual you follow every night. If so include extra hugs and cuddling, stories, (there's books about giving up pacifiers) and a rub down with nighttime lotion after her bath. No TV, keep the lighting in her room low, keep the room darkened (we use a shade) so light doesn't come in, some white noise (we use a fan,) talk quietly, almost in whispers, slow things down, do whatever you can to make it relaxing for her. The problems she's having during the day...crying, not wanting to stay in her car seat, battling bedtime are most likely related to lack of sleep, secondary to giving up her paci, and concentrating on her night time routine may help.
I wouldn't bring it up but is SHE refers to her paci gently remind her that she chose to throw it away, that it's gone and quickly divert her attention. Let her sit and cry in her room rather than taking her to yours, or sleeping with mom and dad may replace the paci (unless you don't mind) and you'll have that to deal with. You can sit with her in her room, hold her, rub her back and talk softly to her to ease her crying and relax her so she can go back to sleep.
My guy only took 3 days to get over his "suckie" and I've heard and read the worst is usually over in 3 days to a week. I really hope everything goes back to normal very soon for your family.
I have heard of people giving their kids something from the paci fairy. Our girls had a silky night nights ( little 12" x 12" blankets) that they loved on when they gave up their poppies! Does she have something like that? If not, you could wrap one up and give it to her from the paci fairy. I saw several different ones at Babies R Us a few weeks ago. Just a thought. I know this is hard. Been there.
