We're having a boys bday party with the boys in my sons class. If I invite a boy cousin the same age is it rude to not invite his sister ? She's a few years older and they are doing a little boy activity. Would it be rude to just invite my nephew? Also one of the other boy cousins won't be in town that day and I don't want him or his dad to feel excluded so I was going to do it separate for cousins and the rest of the family. Would it be rude to invite just the one cousin to the kids party? I don't have many days off of work to do this and won't be able to when the other cousin is in town. I'm not trying to be rude, I just don't know how to do this.
Yeah I wouldn't just do boys if it was the family. we have way more girls than this family can handle lol! Because it's a class party and they are younger she would be the only girl and not no anyone and my nephew doesn't know any of them either.
I think when it comes to family it would be rude not to invite the girls, as far as his friends go... you can do all boys
I think it would be better to invite the girl cousin, explain the party theme, and accommodate if possible. She may decline if she knows it's an all boy party or she may have a great time. Maybe she could be a party helper with a special pirate job and costume?
Depending on your relationship to your nephews parents, you might be able to just invite the nephew and the neice can do a special day with their parents with out the little brother, but if htey are sensitive then it could backfire, especially if I"M understanding you and there is another boy cousin (out of town?)
Might just be better to do One small family party, and one classmate party.
Yeah, it's tough when cousins are friends as well. I'd call the aunt and uncle (parents of the boy cousin who you want to invite) and ask what they want to do. In our experience, the cousin usually chooses to come to the "family" party, since he won't know any of the other kids at the "friend" party. (And his mom usually prefers managing transportation etc for one party rather than two.) Also, remember that as kids get older, stuff like this happens socially - someone gets invited to the party, someone else doesn't. Not everyone can be included every single time, and that's okay. It can be a little disappointing, but kids need to learn to deal with life's little disappointments. No need to make a big deal out of it, or "make up for it." Also no need to keep it a big secret.
Let it be the aunt and uncle's call. "My son would like your son to be there, but I wondered if he might feel shy with lots of boys he doesn't know, and I wasn't sure how you'd feel about navigating two parties instead of one. What do you think?"
If you're already planning on doing two parties, I would do one with just family and one with his classmates.
