Baby Won't Take Pacifier/gagging on It? Help!!!

For whatever reason, the pacifier isn't something she wants or can handle. I'd stop trying to give her pacifiers. Newborns will suck on pretty much anything you offer til they become infants around 12 weeks old, and then they get picky. I was never a pacifier baby and my DD had one, but it was rarely used.

I never had this happen, but I would not force the paci on her. You can't tell if something is wrong if you don't quit putting it in her mouth.

Watch her and if she continues having trouble, take her to the doctor.

Dawn

Neither one of my kids would take one. I wanted them to but they wouldn't. Maybe she is not a binky kinda gal. sorry

Our daughter would not take the pacifier. No matter what style.

Her caregiver was determined, but our daughter would not have anything to do with them.

Some infants, just do not like them.

sounds to me as if she doesn't want the binky.
not all kids do.
khairete
S.

Our oldest and youngest never took a pacifier. Our middle loved it.

Every kid is different. I wouldn't force it. Actually, I wouldn't try to give the baby a pacifier at all since you've had no success.

What concerns me about your post is that your baby is both gagging and vomiting with the pacifier. You'd think she would just spit it out on her own if she was that bothered by it.

Obviously, stop giving her the pacifiers you have tried so far. I'm curious if you have tried the smallest, newborn size?

It sounds like she might have a sucking and swallowing and breathing timing issue. Does she ever gag while nursing? I would recommend you definitely mention this reaction to the pacifier at your next baby check up. Because my experience is the same as below, that some kids just don't like them. But my kids would spit them out quickly, not start gagging and the regurgitation reflex.

I hope you find a solution!

Don't give her one. She doesn't like it or want it. She will maybe find another "lovey" in time.

My daughter never took a pacifier either. Just didn't want it. She may be gagging because she is trying to get something to eat out of it. If she sucks hard enough, she may gag herself.

If milk wasn't coming out of it, my daughter didn't want it.

Our son never took to a pacifier.
We tried him on a few, and he'd just spit them out.
He was a thumb man since before he was born and he wanted his thumb more than anything else.
By kindergarten he sucked his thumb for nap time or bedtime only and eventually he was over it, but it took a long time.

Some kids just don't like them. My kids never took a binky. No idea why. It can absolutely be frustrating, but you'll just have to find other ways to comfort her. Maybe she wants to be held or rocked. You could try putting her in the swing or bouncy seat. Just experiiment and see what she responds to.

Look at the bright side. At least you won't have to wean her off the binky!

Don't force it on her if she doesn't take it naturally. Better that they not use them anyway. My oldest only liked it for about 5 months and he was done, and my youngest barely used it as a newborn, just spit it out all the time and learned to self soothe. Music also helped with my youngest.

I wouldn't force it, some babies just don't do the paci. Not sure what you mean by her acting like she wants the pacifier, because most babies will act like they want to suck on just about anything you put in or near their mouth, it's just an urge they have. She may have a sensitive gag reflex. Or there might be more going on, considering you say she is pretty fussy in general. Does she gag on other things (bottle, breast, her hand), or just the paci? Is the paci maybe too big for her tiny mouth? The only paci my son would take was the Mam brand, with a flatter nipple. Maybe check those out if you haven't already. Otherwise, just mention it to her doctor at the next well baby visit or sooner if you are worried about it. If the doc knows about it, they can rule out other medical causes and ease your anxiety about it.

One other recommedation is to read "Happiest Baby on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp (or I think there is a DVD you can watch too). He has some great, proven effective soothing techniques that you can use. Lots of moms use his tips, myself included, and they are golden.

Good luck, and congrats on the new little one :)

Dont force it on her. Its obvious she doesnt want it. My first never wanted it. She would spit it out. My second used it for about a month and then he would spit it out. Never use a paci as a convience. Try soothing music or a light on the ceiling. The binky may be too big for her and its going too far into her throat making her gag.

Some babies don't like them..............my daughter did and my son never too a paci or his fingers. She might be hitting a grown spurt and is sucking so hard on it thinking she is taking a breast or bottle that she gags from that.

S.

I would not give it to her. Sometimes they will take it when a bit older and do okay but some babies, and some people, have more of a gag reflex. They will gag if they aren't into it and if you keep gagging you will throw up if you have that gag reflex. I had one baby who never took a pacifier and never sucked his thumb either. He was fortunately a very happy, good baby. One took a pacifier and then when I took it went to his thumb, some of the others did thumbs only and some did pacifiers only. You have to work with the baby and yes, it can be hard when they are fussy, but learn to calm her and let her be fussy and she'll outgrow it and in the meantime hold her some or nurse her if you can to calm her for bedtime but she will outgrow it. You'll have to learn to not let it frazzle you when she fusses if she is dry, not hungry, not in pain, then don't worry when she fusses. Try a swing if you have one an infant fits in. Try music to quiet her, or sing to her. It works sometimes.

My 9 week old granddaughter gags too. Not interested at all.

my daughters almost 3 weeks.. sometimes she takes a pacifier.. sometimes you think she wants it and stick it in her mouth and she spits it right out .. shes choked on it once or twice ..i thought it had something to do with her being tongue tied but it may just be that she doesnt want it.. we dont force it.. when she wants it she wants it

Don't force the pacifier. It's actually not a problem at all. Some babies don't want or need one. She simply needs you soothe her in other ways and will learn other ways to self-soothe.

My son did the same thing. He just wouldn't take one but he loved to nurse. You will just have to help her find something else to help soothe her. This may not be the case with your daughter, but my son went on to have some minor oral defensiveness issues which affected his speech and eating. Just something to watch out for.

My kids never took a pacifier. There is no need for one. Just hold your child and soothe it or let her soothe herself. Best you not start a pacifier because I've seen friends kids with pacifiers and they are two years old!! If they are fussing they are hungry, tired or need a change. IMHO pacifiers are for lazy parents but I know thats what most people do.

Not all babies want one. My DD didn't, so I gave it up. And I'm glad we did, because we didn't have to deal with weaning her off of it.

Then don't give it to her. Not all babies *need* a pacifier. My first didn't. She slept straight 12 hours thru the night her first day home from the hospital. My son on the other hand, would wake up every night at 1:30am. I called the doc and said, what's wrong with him??!!! After she got done laughing at me, she said to try the pacifier. That night he slept thru, 12 hours straight. But then I couldn't get it away from him! So just see how she does without it and don't force it on her. Good luck!

My kids wouldn't take it at first. Finally, I tried holding the passy at the roof of the mouth to stimulate the sucking reflex and eventually they took it. It took a few times for them to get used to it, but, it worked. If that doesn't work, just realize that not all kids take the passy. Some just don't like it. Hope this helps!

Not all babies take a pacifier. Neither one of mine did. I would stop giving it to her. It was somewhat inconvenient, but I don't really even know what it's like to have a baby that DOES take a pacifier. On the upside, I never had the "take away the Nuk/Binkie/whatever" battle or concerns about what age to retire the pacifier. Both of my babies were very colicky. In my experience, fussier or more spirited babies can be very definitive in what they like and don't like and what they want and don't want.