she is 9 months old? i would try three things that helped at different stages for my son (who is now 14 months). 1st thing, try some teething gel. every time my son would get a tooth, he would sleep poorly and then a couple days later, i would notice the problem (by the time you can see the tooth protruding, its been painful fora couple days), so just throw it on there before bed...the second thing, maybe she is going through a growth spurt. try feeding her an extra snack prior to bedtime, maybe she just needs that extra to get her through the full night. and the last thing, is....through every one of those problems us moms must go through, teething, sickness, bottles at night, this does remind your daughter that crying brings mom. i find myself going into my sons room, picking up the binky he flung across the room, giving it back to him, and telling him "its time for sleepy", then walking out the room. if it gets to the point of hypervenalating, or all the mommy sirens are going off in my head, and i cant take it anymore, then i go back in and pick him up. but, everytime we pick them up its remind them that we will give in. its a balance. dont ever feel bad for ignoring their crys nor for picking up your child. go with your instincts, and taking turns with your husband is helpful too!!!!