I am a mom of four and a daycare mom as well for 10 years on and off. It sounds like your daughter has decided that she prefers the bottle. Who wouldn't, it reminds her of those precious soothing moments when she was an infant. She is, however, at a stage where she is going to test you and try to get her way. These are the first glimpses of many power struggles to come. The best way to handle these are to give her choices that YOU, the parent, approve of. In her bottles, she can have water ONLY. Then she can have milk, formula or watered down juice in her cup. You can offer her two cups, for example say, "Honey, would you like your red cup or your blue cup today?" She will most likely decide to throw them both off the tray and cry at first because "her way" isn't working. She may skip a drink at a meal or two. It's ok, she won't die. She will however learn that her choices are also your choices and that you have the ultimate authority. I wouldn't pay attention to her drinking at all, as all the battles about it, if she's getting yelled at or even overly praised for drinking will teach her that drama about the cup gets her attention. Just put it down and move on to the next thing. If she won't choose which cup, just say, ok, tell me when you want a cup, and place them on the counter or table where she can clearly see them and point to them or ask for them. Even a calm grunt with a pointing motion is asking, rather than demanding. As her vocabulary increases you can encourage her to use her words more often. For now, if she point to the cup, immediately respond with a smile and the word "cup?" Do you want your milk?" This will help her learn the words for what she wants. These choice techniques will solve problems about clothing, shoes, foods to eat, toys to play with, etc. By the age of 2 it's important to make her feel like she has choices, lay out two acceptable outfits and let her choose. Otherwise you will be out in the cold in a bathing suit, a ballerina tutu and rainboots,...or a tantruming, angry child. Giving her choices now will make her feel like you hear and understand her and respect her decisions, even though you set them up for her in the first place. Oh, during her drinking strikes, make sure to offer plain water in a bottle during her play time so that she is able to get enough liquids and also offer her fruits that contain alot of fluid such as watermelon and grapes. If she is a good eater, she doesn't need anything other that water, it's only an addition to her diet. Good Luck, you are a GREAT mom and will get through this stage. Guess what's coming, the "I'm only going to eat 12 cherrios a day and nothing else" food strike.