my 3 months old cant sleep more than 2 hours and wake up for feeding day or night i cant make him sleep through the night im breast feeding and need to back to work and im frustrated i read a lot and try many things with him but i cant keep him awake at day time or sleep at night but he simply follow his own routine what should i do
thanks every one who answer me her what is going on with me my baby is my frist he came after 3 years of trying to get pregnant and im 37 so when he born it was snow storm that hit new york for week we were traped there, he has his own crib in his own room but it is not heated will we fix the heat not working and we use electrical heater cause him cold he was born with jaundice that keep went and back for month all this make me so worry so i put him on my bed and as the doctor recommend to feed him as much as i can as the more he feed the more he poops the faster his jaundice went away so i did not care of routine or anything else and because of the cold weather here i kept him home dont go outside so often so i think he just used to this routine , me around all the time feeding on demand and no ability to sleep his own , by the way im producing good milk but he is so gasy and doctor recommend small feeding amount more often and this really help , it is complicated situation but any ideas
Is cosleeping and breastfeeding an option for you? I also have a 3 month old and its the ONLY way I'm able to sleep. He tends to sleep more and longer too if he's cuddled next to me. And when he squirms around, I just pop a nipple in his mouth and we both fall back to sleep.
Might look into it!
Your baby is picking up on your stress and I bet your milk supply has gone down because you aren't getting enough rest and he's not getting enough milk.
You can't MAKE a baby sleep through the night - you can ensure he's fed and his diaper is changed - you can ENCOURAGE him to sleep - but TRYING to let him cry it out- many mom's do....it take patience and courage - to hear your baby cry and not go...at this age - i personally wouldn't do it (use the Cry it out method) and I would go to him.
Babies NEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDD schedules. A Routine - I cannot stress this enough - a routine really goes a long way in making a baby feel secure....bath, book, boob, bed - or whatever order works for you - ROUTINE - SCHEDULE - it WILL work!
When you nurse him during the day, have him nurse on both sides. If he falls off to sleep while nursing, sit him up (supported as needed, but not so he can sleep), change his diaper, take off his clothes - so he is a little cool - a minute is not going to hurt him - the idea is to wake him up and get him to nurse on both sides so he is actually full. Then get him to go 4 hours between feeding during the day. Instead of feeding him every time he cries, try to take him on a walk (bundled in his baby bjorn and blankets), show him things in the apt, dance to classical (upbeat) music, etc.
B.,
As a baby he's going to do his own thing. They're all different. Good for you and for him for breastfeeding! Yay! That will help him the most.
Wearing him in a sling as much as possible will help you both - even after you go back to work. Co-sleeping/bedsharing may also help save your sanity - while it won't buy you more sleep guaranteed, sometimes all they are doing is looking for you and once they find you (with a hand or foot) they are back to sleep. My little guy does that, though NOT AS MUCH AS HE DID WHEN HE WAS FIRST BORN!
There are few restrictions on bedsharing: taking drugs or alcohol, using drugs for a psychiatric condition (contact La Leche League for those!) or sleep apnea. Your baby is old enough you are very unlikely to roll over on him.
Good luck,
M.
my 4 month old is the same way, and t top it off we ended up co-sleeping just to get some rest. After a week of him refusing to nap unless he was latched on, and seriously sore nipples because of this. We are doing the no cry sleep solution. It's alright, but it certainly isn't no cry. However he has been sleeping in his bed now and sleeps better at night. I highly suggest at least giving the book a quick read, it isn't CIO but it's a lot closer to it than I would have ever considered until I hit rock bottom.
Does he have a pacifer? We started a routine when my daughter was 6 weeks old knowing I was going back to work when she was 3 months...the 3-5 months was the hardest part for me..adjusting to going back to work/not sleeping etc..we ended up ferberizing the baby when she was 4.5 months old otherwise I would have been fired from my job.
We also have an aquarium that clips to her crib, a pacifer and 2 lovey blankets...I gave the baby 5 min before going in at nighttime...however she was good for about 3 or 4 hours between feedings at that age.
3 months is still a little young for your LO to learn to sleep all night but should also not be waking up that often...
R u sure the baby doesnt have gas? mine had terrible gas and I had to help her releave it at that age..poor mommy!!! I bet you are soooo tired..Sorry
I was in your situation with my baby as well. I found that since I was planning to pump once I returned to work that I would just start early and started pumping in between feedings throughout the day and letting my husband give our daughter bottles at night so that I could sleep more. Even if you give your son the bottles at night you will see how much he is getting and know that he is getting enough to fill him up. If you are not planning to continue nursing once you return to work I would start giving him bottles of half formula and half breastmilk to begin a smooth transition and see if that helps him sleep through the night. Also as long as you know that he is well fed you should try not feeding him as often in the night so that he doesnt come to expect it and perhaps he wont wakeup crying as much. When my daughter realized that crying in the night was no longer equaling a bottle/nursing she stopped pretty quick.
Hang in there though as stressful as it is this will pass and you'll miss him needing you in the night :)
Don't let him sleep more than 3 hours at a time during the day. Wake him up to feed him if he's been sleeping longer than 3 hours during the day. At night, feed on demand. Don't let him sleep past 8am or else he'll have his days and nights mixed up. It is ok for him to take a nap shortly after he wakes up, but he should be awake for the day by 8am.
