Baby Shower Rules

Updated on April 27, 2008
A.S. asks from Fresno, CA
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I have a 10 month old son and just recently found out that I am pregnant again (due in August)!!! Is there a rule on how many or how often you can have a baby shower? I don't want to overload my friends and family, but I could sure use the gifts, especially if the new baby turns out to be a girl (since I already have all boy stuff).

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Thank you for all your great words!!! Like many of you, I feel that every baby is worth celebrating. I still have a while to go, but I think that I may just have a 'celebration' with all of our closest friends and family. With our first baby, my girlfriends threw me a typical baby shower. This time around, I'm thinking... co-ed bbq!!!

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H.P.

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If you're having a girl you'll definitly need to have another shower. It all depends on how you feel about the situation. People are going to give you stuff any way, you might as well register. You can also have a shower but on the invitation suggest no gifts, just diapers. You'll always need diapers. Hope this helps.

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J.C.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi A.,
Sorry to agree with the majority, but yes, usually showers are for the first baby, but family can throw you as many showers as they want to. I think the rule is if you have a baby at least 4 years after the first, or if it is the opposite sex than you can have another shower. In your situation though since they are so close together you should only ask really close friends (who would probably already give you a gift) and family to attend.
My girls are 21 months apart and I did not have another shower. I filled out a baby registry at Babies-R-Us on-line and discovered other than about 4 lower priced items I really needed about three items that were $200-$300.00 items. I sent the registry info to my parents and in-laws and they did with it what they felt appropriate. Close friends still gave gifts or gift cards so it all worked out well in the end. I think you’ll find you don’t need much other than a car seat since they are so close in age.
Good luck!

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A.M.

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Baby showers are generally just for the first baby but some families feel every baby deserves a shower. Either way, YOU shouldn't throw the party - that's just asking for presents, which is tacky. If someone in your family wants to throw you a shower you should graciously accept, if not you should just enjoy the welcome baby gifts that you are sure to get when baby #2 comes. Congrats!

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C.C.

answers from Fresno on

Every baby is reason to party! =)

I think you should register for what you need this time around (double stroller!) but just present it as your "last chance to get out and have fun before baby #2 arrives." People know you're pregnant and will probably look on Babies R Us to see if you are registered for anything (or the hostess of the party can tell people if they ask). That way people will not feel like they are being asked for gifts - but let's face it, nobody wants to show up at a party empty-handed! You'll get plenty of gear.

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C.L.

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I think Baby shower etiquette is that you only have showers for the 1st baby. You could always have all your friends meet for lunch, but I wouldn't ask for more gifts. People can still get you gifts if they want to.

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A.C.

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As long as someone is willing to throw you a shower, you should have as many as you want! I am also having a baby in August, and my mom has said that she will throw me a shower no matter if it's a boy or a girl (we already have an almost 3-year-old boy). I agree that every baby should be celebrated. My mom had me and my sister just 15 months apart, and she had showers for both of us. I think it would be sad to be pregnant and not get the special attention at a baby shower.

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A.H.

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I had three baby showers for one of my pregnancys - one at work, one from my mother-in-law where I live and another one in LA where my mom and other family and friends live. So my vote would be "no limit" definately helped to be registered at target or walmart.

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L.C.

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Just for me personally, I would feel uncomfortable having a baby shower again this soon. Your friends and family, I'm sure, will still celebrate the arrival of your new baby with giving gifts, but another shower is almost like asking for gifts. I'm having my second baby in the fall. My daughter was born 4 years ago, but I definitely don't want another shower.

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P.W.

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Nah, I don't think people mind more baby showers. If they want they can bring a smaller gift. Have all the showers you want.

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C.D.

answers from San Francisco on

WOW! Congratulations & good luck! =) I have twins, and you're going to have a similar arrangement, so I'd like to encourage you that you can do it with two so close together & hopefully your son will welcome his sister so soon! =) About the baby shower - are you going to find out if it's a girl? I think you should have a shower for this baby, especially if it's a girl... but your guests will know that you have the younger toys, bottles, etc... and hopefully will focus on diapers, wipes, and those type of items which you will continuously need. If you are having a girl, you will most likely receive a LOT of clothing. It's nice just to have a party to celebrate your new pregnancy & the new arrival - even if you were to only have guests over for lunch & cake or something simple, it's fun! Go for it! =)

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A.T.

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Hi A.! I don't think there are ever any rules about how many baby showers you can have, or how close they can all be! Each baby is so special, that it should be a great Joy to your family and friends to throw another!! I'm sure that they will all be thrilled, and want to help in anyway they can! It's great if you have a boy--as you will already have so much to offer him, ( and if it's a girl, your friends and family are going to have so much fun buying for the new little one! Congrat's! I know I would be having a blast!! Have you ever thought about working from home? You have such a little one at such a young age, and yet another so soon! Let me know if you ever want to connect! I love staying home, making a great living, and spending time with my family all at the same time! Love A. Toft.

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