Are You a Crier?

Nope, not a crier. My coworkers say I'm heartless ;) However, I'm 40 weeks and 2 days pregnant with no sign of labor, so I might cry today :)

I'm such a sap. I cry at the Folger's commercials...yeah, I'm that bad! I cry for sad things and happy things and if I'm tired and if I'm frustrated...yeah, pretty much I'm still at that same level as my 3 y/o!!! ;)

Yup..I AM! Looking for a watering pot? Just look to me! I cry at Hallmark Commercials and Little House on the Prairie episodes as a kid! I get watery eyes in many movies. I choke up at weddings, even if I don't really know them (like a co-worker of hubbys, etc). I cry when I am mad, frustrated, sad and sick. I can cover them all and justify a teary expression. I hate that I cannot control it.

I cried thru my entire wedding ceremony, the C-section birth of my daughter (puked too...tell me that doesn't sound like FUN! Woo hoo!), and for a week solid when my Mom died and we finally got thru the funeral (and I cry everytime I go to the cemetary, which is often and its been almost 4 years). Cry, Cry, Cry. Its expected of me now. Family and others who know me well do this automatic passing of a tissue from the boxes all around me. When my Mom died, my siblings were all very watchful, actually, of me. My tears represent great fragility to them, at least where Mom was concerned. My 2 older brothers and my hubby are cluless with tears involved.

My Mom always called me her little watering pot. I just can't help it!

I am most definitely a crier, but it pisses me off that I can't control it. I cry because of stress, because I'm sad, because I'm super angry, because of frustration, when my feelings are really hurt, etc., etc., etc. I feel like it's a sign of weakness, and I guess that's why it really makes me mad, because I definitely am NOT weak.

Big time crier here. Here is a probably incomplete list of what makes me cry:
1. movies (yes, "Titanic." But also "It's a Wonderful Life" and others. Even the part in "Sling Blade" where Billy Bob Thornton puts his arm around the little kid and says 'I love you, boy.')
2. commercials (remember that old Hallmark commercial with the grumpy piano teacher and the little girl gives him the birthday card? Yup.)
3. books, especially if someone is lonely, or someone dies
4. all weddings (except my own. Weird.) Babies being born. People dying.
5. any footage about September 11, 2001. I avoided the TV on Sunday. Well, except for football. Go Redskins!
6. The Star Spangled Banner. I always cry when singing it. Or when I hear it. And I tear up a little during the Pledge of Allegience.
7. Whenever I go to Disneyworld and I see Cinderella's castle, and all those happy kids, I cry. Actually, I cry a lot at Disneyworld, especially if I see someone do something nice for someone, or if I see kids who are obviously ill or impaired.
I'm sure there's more. I cry a lot more now that I've had kids. I think something about being a mom just makes me feel more vulnerable.
Good question!
EDIT TO ADD: This isn't generally sobbing-type losing it crying, more like quiet tears streaming down the face. And I'm very good in a crisis, I don't fall apart when I'm needed.

J.,

Hi, my name's J. and I am a crier. When my wedding day rolled around, I wanted to wrestle some medication from my doctor that would dry up my tear ducts. But I couldn't and I looked ridiculous. I could barely squeek out my vows. Heck it doesn't have to be only an important life changing day, I can tear up when I'm stating an honestly felt sentence. I'm a total sap. I have so much respect for women that can hold their emotions in check. You seem so much stronger than I am. I bet you can tell a joke all the way through without giggling incoherently through to the punchline too, can't you?

Ah well. I'll wear the heart on my sleeve proudly. There's really nothing else I can do about it.

I never used to cry - ever. Then I became pregnant and the mommy hormones kicked in and I've been a crier ever since. Or maybe it was just age since I had my first child at age 37...? Now I cry at certain touching commercials, movies of all kinds (UP...), when praise music in church swells, or at the mention of soldiers, aging WW2 veterans - you name it. My husband and kids will look at eachother, roll their eyes and get me a tissue box. My husband is a sergeant in the NYPD so you can only imagine how much I cried this past Sunday - recalling that day as he drove to work while everyone else was fleeing the city. Thinking of people who I knew who lost their life that day - the courage of those on Flight 93, etc.

My best friend used to NEVER cry. Then she went thru cancer surgery this last year and i guess she began to experience tough stuff in her life for the first time ever. Now she cries sometimes - she's not like me ye t- but you never know.

In my case I had been thru lots and lots of tough stuff - and I was a crier cuz it was just how life is - why cry about it? But it's all different when you get to a certain point in life - maybe we realize the frailty of it all....

yep I cry. I didn't used to be. I try not to but I've been a crier since I got pregnant with my oldest. It totally changed everything. I haven't had my normal emotions since then.

No, I'm SO not. I don't cry in movies...ever. I hardly ever cry. It takes A LOT to make me cry. I don't generally even happy cry.That's not to say I don't feel that extreme emotion, I just process it in different ways. When I'm in a situation where most people would cry, my reaction is to write it down, listen to music, create something, sleep it off, take a walk, etc. Crying gives me a headache and makes me feel worse, those other things bring me a lot of relief. If it's a happy situation, I laugh, smile, do a little dance, whatever. Crying, is not my reaction. Crying, is an emotional reaction. I react emotionally, just not through crying.

P.S.
At the end of Titanic, I was like..."Seriously, he could totally fit up there. Jerk!! Maybe, you shouldn't take up so much room." Then, when she dropped the necklace in the water, I thought I saw that coming from a mile away!! I hate contrived movie emotion, it actually makes me mad. I did cry in Schindler's List, because those things did and can actually happen. The movie Hachi tears me up. REAL emotion and stories in movies are what gets me, but that happens so infrequently. I don't often get emotional at things that are purposfully created and manipulated, to tug at heart strings.

I used to be like you but ever since having my son, I've become the very opposite. The problem is I've always grown up being ashamed to cry in front of people and that mentality is still with me so when I feel I'm about to cry I try to squash it down which I think makes it worse. So now my eyes well up SO frequently at anything but I don't full out cry unless I'm alone. I think all the repressed emotions are coming out now. ;p

I am a crier when I see something moving.

Or I see people do the right thing.

You just dont see it anymore. So when I see it I get moved.

I cry in movies.....only if they are gut wrenching and sad.

If emotions are hot and a fight is in actions...Tend to cry when I am spilling my guts out. And I yell at that point sometimes. I think this is because I am embarrassed(not so much anymore...since my accident).

not everyone is the same and not everyone processes emotions the same. it doesn't make one or the other right/wrong. I am a crier. I cry at happy songs, sad songs. miracle babies, soldiers coming home, death, people being hurt, people being sad....I cried at almost every single rerun episode of ER, I am just an overly emotional person. bugs me sometimes but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My husband rarely cries. He cried when one of our kiddos had surgery, he cried once from a dream. He had a very vived dream that I had died and it was after we had had a big fight and had went to bed mad. He woke up crying and grabbed me and held me all night long, it really upset him. He cried when his grandmother passed away and his work wouldn't give him his bereavement leave because he couldnt attend the funeral, she lived overseas where his family is from. I was super pissed about that one, he deserved time off to grieve like everyone else, moreso in my opinion because he couldnt go and say goodbye etc. I don't think there is anything wrong with you not crying all the time.

p.s. I loe this question by the way

I don't cry except at totally ridiculous times, like the series finale of Friends, ASPCA commercials, etc. Even then, I don't cry, but I get a few tears in the corner of my eyes.

I don't cry in extreme pain...child birth, kidney stones, etc...

I imagine the next time someone I love dies, I might cry. I would cry if my child died, or one of my parents, or my husband...but not extended family. I have had grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc, die...and I was close to them...but I didn't cry.

Sounds like you and I are kindred spirits :). Yes, my friends call me a robot as well. I do not easily get emotional, and if I do, I keep it to myself and press on. It takes a lot to upset me, and am good at distracting myself. My kids have seen me cry once ever, and that is when I found out my baby brother was diagnosed with cancer. However, I did go through a stretch during my third pregnancy, where my hormones went totally out of whack and I cried 3-4 times a day until I got on Zoloft for the remainder of the pregnancy. Interestingly, my mom is the opposite; she cries at dog food commercials even.

I'm not a crier, either, but sometimes weirdly sentimental stuff can set me off. I forgot, I also cry when I'm really, really mad. It's inconvenient which makes me more mad and I cry more. It's a vicious cycle.

I also didn't cry at the end of Titanic. I thought it was a horrible movie! My friend was sobbing and I kept rolling my eyes and checking my watch.

Not necessarily, but when I do cry many times it's like Niagara Falls.

I'm a lot like you. If I'm crying, I have a pretty real issue. I know it's ok to cry, and when I need to, I do, but that's just not my first response to situations that others might find reason to cry over.

I will qualify that by saying that I'm pregnant, and somewhat hormonal (but not too bad), and I do seem to tear up a little more easily right now than usual...

I cry at the BEGINNING of Titanic because I hate that they're getting ON the ill-fated boat! I was always a crier. My friends & family joke that I'd cry at a supermarket opening. I cry over commercials. I cry during the Wizard of Oz when Professor Marvel is telling Dorothy's fortune and he is describing the scene in the picture of Auntie Em - when he says - her name is Emily - gets me every time. I named my daughter after Auntie Em. I cry at church during certain hyms. I could go on, but I'll start crying. I don't cry when it's inappropriate - as in I never cried at work when I worked a real job. I actually carry a linen hankie (I have dozens of them) because I'm teary eyed so often.

Ooh I'm very emotional so I do cry like when watching a sad movie, when I'm frustrated, angry and mad. I didn't cry at my wedding though. What really got me is when I had my 1st child last year. When my OB/GYN told me that I could pull my son out (he was halfway out), I pulled him onto my chest and just went into tears...they were tears of pure love and joy:)

I am a crier. I cry when babies are born, my friends/family get married, someone dies, a nice card, the aspca commercials, when my kids are hurting or if I am really pissed. Hell, some of the posts on mamapedia bring me to tears.
I don't cry to my husband to make him feel bad or to get my way or to get out of speeding ticket. I don't use tears to my advantage.

Hi!
I am a crier as well. I can cry for any little reason! I am one of the biggest saps ever!

I've never been a crier either unless someone dies, and not even always then. It makes me feel weak and helpless, and I am not either of those. Lately though ridiculous things like songs or commercials make me tear up, and I swear I think I must be starting menopause :)

I used to be a major crier and now I think I just dont have the time =)

I haven't always been, but since having kids, I cry very easily. Songs in church and patriotic songs make me tear up. My kids milestones (first & last days of school) always get me. Today I was at school for a meeting and found out from the secretary that my 1st grader lost her first tooth and I teared up!

Yes - very sentimental. I don't usually cry in a crisis though.

The end of "Titanic" gets me EVERY time! :)

Im crier..and I hate it!!!
If im emotionaly overwhelemed, tired, stressed...sad......although a good cry does make you feel better

It depends on the "week" there are days when I cry at the drop of a hat usually stress and anger make me cry. I dont cry at "appropriate" times I didnt cry at my dads funeral I didnt cry at my sisters wedding. I cried the entire way home from the hospital the day he died and I didnt cry again until two days after the funeral- alone in my room on the floor for about an hour- not really a crier and if I do cry I do it alone. My son told me I remind him of the mom in Blindside I always leave the room to fall apart.

I'm the same as you. I will cry over the soldiers coming home almost every time. That show they have on about that ( can't remember the name or station its on) gets me every time. I think more so because I remember my brother doing that to our family when he would come home on leave.

Im more prone to cry when I get mad. If Im really mad the tears come and dont stop. then I get more mad when someone asks why Im crying... then cry more.

but for the "normal" things most cry about no, I don't. My hubby has only seen me cry over a small handful of actual sad things. It completely threw him off the first time he seen it lol

LOL what a topic! I am more or less like you, not a crier at all, although weirdly i did cry at the end of Titanic a little bit :P. My husband calls me an insensitive robot. Guess who is the watering pot in our house? Yes ofcourse my very "sensitive" hubby! oh well! :)

I have never been a cryier. People have actualy told me I am "cold" because I show very little emotion. I wasn't brought up in a warm and fuzzy househould. So, I think I hold my emotions in more than most ppl. Things I have cried about are deaths in the family.
I am noticeing as I get older it is harder for me to hold my tears in.

I cry when I am pissed, not angry, pissed! That just makes me even more mad cause I am furious and crying!!!!

Other than that the only thing that will make me cry is when I get frustrated with my ex doing something stupid that hurts the kids. I suppose that is a bit of pissed as well but trust me it feels different.

I almost cried at my wedding but my husband is as perfect for me as you could find looking the world over. Statistically it is nearly impossible I could have met such a good match.

Um yeah, see the stats comment, that would be why I am not very emotional. I analyze everything before I react, very unemotional. Still I am that person you want around when the sky is falling because I stay calm.

I don't think it bothers anyone who knows me because I am very good at explaining how I feel, I just can't get the outward expression to match it. :-/

I am exactly like you...the non-crier.

I have thought over the years it was my Victorian upbringing, that children were to be seen and not heart and we were belted if we talked back...so I sucked it all up....

Playing the Piano is my emotional outlet....I play primarily sad songs....how sad is that?

I am just like you! I am the suck it up type and I even tell my kids that. I don't cry only at the death of a friend or family member.
Haha I get told its ok to cry too...I usually say whats crying going to do to help the situation I have to find a solution :)

No, I'm not a crier either unless it's a death or something worth crying over. I learned to be strong a long time ago and not sure I can let go and cry just to cry. Too funny about the wedding, I laughed all night that my jaws hurt. I didn't cry when I had my kids either. I was so happy and ready to be a mom.

Since having children my emotions have become more fluid (a.k.a. "crying") then ever in my lifetime. I was never one to shed tears easily, perhaps because in my mind tears meant weakness to me. Today, I do not believe tears are a sign of weakness at all. We are human and humans cry. It is okay to show an emotional/sensitive side once in a while.

IJennifer, I don't think it's that odd. I cry 2 or 3 times a year (that's probably a little more than you). I, too only cry under extreme stress or the loss or near loss of a family or friend. I consider myself a sentimental person, too. I just feel like being strong and focusing on sending love and ligt to bad situations. It's when I feel out of control that I cry.

I'm not a crier and have also wondered the same thing. Like you I do cry the happy tears but rarely just "break down". I think it has to do with how you were raised. My grandmother, that raised me, always said to keep your emotions at home and not to have public displays of emotion, of any kind. I think thats also why I'm not a "touchy, feely" person. I don't think theres anything wrong with either of them, I just don't do it:).