OH BOY do I know what you mean ( about not a good time) . AND my family ''' history ''' is full of individuals who came at REALLY bad times - and turned out to be the MOST charming, delightful people-. I'll keep my fingers crossed that the perfect answer - is the answer you get.
Blessings
( there was my youngest uncle-- whose pregnancy prevented my brilliant grandmother from passing the bar exam - she was going to join her husbands' law -practice- as he was a fine lawyer but a lousy businessman- and during the depression would tear up and throw away bills ''' well, Birdie- they said they couldn't pay''' --- just before she was to sit for the exam--- she discovered she was pregnant- with a 5 year old, a 10 year old and a 12 year old- . That finished her plans - as there was NO money to hire a baby nurse ( this was the 1930s-there were no day-cares) - so her plans went down the tubes- but oh my life would have been so much poorer without Unc' --- )
J.