Any Ideas for Help Getting My Baby to Sleep?

Updated on January 09, 2007
V.F. asks from Austin, TX
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hi! my baby is almost 12 weeks old now. she's doing great. the problem i'm having (which is probably very normal) is that she won't go to sleep. she'll be super tired, but she won't stay down. i have to keep a close watch on her because she overstimulates easily. then she is fussy and hard to get to fall asleep. why don't they just sleep when they're tired?? she gets so cranky! i close out additional stimulation and cover her eyes and she immediately starts to fall asleep... like she's so worn out! or if she's crying and i put the pacifier in, her eyes immediately roll back like she's completely exhausted. so i'll rock her and shush her and she goes down just fine... i'll lay her down and she'll stay for a bit. after maybe 10-15 minutes, she'll wake up and we'll start all over again. she is so tired, but won't sleep. does anyone know any natural, homeopathic or organic remedies to give her to help her relax or sleep?? i have her very secure. she'll sleep fine if i'm topless next to her after nursing so she can smell me. but at some point i have to get up and do things around the house. as soon as i do, she wakes up and we're back at square one! after hours of trying and failing, i get so worn out and i know she's even more worn out! :( any help??

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Thank you so much for all of your responses. A few more things I should have mentioned:
I read many books on babies, sleep etc while I was pregnant. I decided to try the “happiest baby on the block” solution. So I have always used the 5 s’s with michelle. Swaddling, shushing, sucking, swinging and side/stomach sleeping. She does well with all of these. Also, she didn’t nurse right out of the hospital. I was gestational diabetic so she had low blood sugar when born. She weighed 6 pounds so they put her on the bottle right away. When we got home, she wouldn’t nurse, but would take the bottle. I started pumping 4-5 times a day so she could get my breast milk. So for the last 9 weeks or so, she’s only been on breast milk, but with a bottle. Just recently, I tried nursing her again and she took right to it. I think maybe her mouth had to grow as I have DD’s.  so when my family is here caring for her when I am at work, she drinks from a bottle and when I’m here, I nurse her. She doesn’t seem to have any nipple confusion etc. She enjoys nursing and eats well. She sleeps in an “inclined to sleep” bed that fits between my fiance and myself. She likes that pretty well. I do have a few carriers that she does like… I have the hip hammock, a sling rider (which she’s almost too big for now) and a baby bjorn. I just ordered an adjustable sling ring off the internet after reading one of your replies. I’ll try that too! I am a massage therapist and I massage her several times a week. She does like receiving massage and it calms her. We also play the “happiest baby on the block” cd in our bedroom where she’s sleeping… it has womb sounds, rain and hair dryer white noise. I tried letting her cry it out one time, but she got so upset that she stopped breathing for a few seconds and almost passed out. I FREAKED OUT!! I guess I’ll just have to ride this out. My mom and dad help me care of her when I’m working out of the house so maybe she’s receiving too much stimulation from nana!!  I really appreciate all your comments and insight. I think I’ll try some cereal in her bottle too in another few weeks since she’s getting older.
Many blessings, V. ____@____.com

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L.G.

answers from Austin on

I experienced the same situation with our little one when she was an infant. If I wasn't holding her, she wasn't sleeping. It seems like I didn't put her down for the first six months! I highly recommend using an adjustable ring sling. I still use mine everyday and she's almost 2 years old. You can go about your daily routine while your baby is fastened securely to your body. You can even nurse in the sling because it is adjustable. The adjustable ring slings are made to grow with your baby, allowing them to be carried in 5 positions depending on age/size. I was so impressed with the sling I started sewing them for all my friends and their friends. I could rave all day about the sling. I know how much it has helped in my child's development & in maintaining my sanity, allowing me to get things done around the house. It's great for outings too. When you're researching slings, steer clear of the common pouch sling found at most retail stores. These aren't adjustable & let your baby dangle in front of you without being securely positioned against your body. Good luck & I hope this helps. Congratulations on the little one!

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J.C.

answers from Austin on

Hi there,
First off, Hang in there it does get better.
A few additional things to try...
Very soft classical music for background noise
lavender baby bath and lotion
patt her back as she lies in her crib (this one still works for my 3yr old)
These things helped with youngest child who had a hard time sleeping without Mommy next to her.
Jenn:0)

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S.W.

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Hi V.,
I am pregnant with my second child and my first is 12, so it's been a while for me. I just recently made a purchase due to a recommendation by several people I know. There is a motion bed for baby's (see http://www.ambybaby.com/ to read more about them). To buy from this site they are extremely expensive, but I found several on Ebay (search "Baby Motion Bed"). I purchased one and my baby is not even here yet. They were originally designed for babies with colic, reflux or just fussy sleepers. I have heard they work miracles. Just a suggestion. Hope things work out and get easier for you and you baby.

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S.S.

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ok, my son did the same thing never slept... unless he was nursing...so first of all try light classical music, you can also sling her ... johnny lived in his sling.. or another thing you can use is the swing that has little dome an the top that has fish that swim around in it, and it plays soft bedtime music...i think it was called ocean wonders swing ... look it up olone but i think the cheapest place to find it is at target.. it is sooo worth the $80 buckaroos.. trust me this is wonderful.. johnnny would only sleep in the sling or swing or while nursing... now if you absolutely can't get her down this is the next step... my mother recommended rescue rememdy...and i checked with my doctor (who practices natural medicine and is very knowledgable on these kinds of things)he said it was great idea.. and don't freak out cause the drops have alcohol listed under inactive ingredients... and by the way i immediately asked my doctor after seeing this if the reason it works is that it would make him kinda drunk or something and my doctor said no.. that the alcohol is inactive... but remember to only give her a drop for a long time...so see what you think it was great for us.. you can use the drops or the lotion/cream...and you can use gripe water too...if she has any tummy problems or stress it will help...it breaks up gas naturally, and soothes the tummy ... you can use it too.. it has been used by english mothers for a very long time , but the american version does not have to little bit of alcohal that the english mothers used... so you have nothing to worry about there... so go to central market or whole foods for the rescue remedy and to special addition (across the street from the north lamar central market) for the gripe water..

good luck to you and yours... and i promise it does get better..enjoy these days like no other, they will be gone before you know it...

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T.C.

answers from Austin on

Ok, my daugther did that to me, and I tried everything, music, singing, reading, rocking her sleeping on her side and when she is 'as sleep' i would get up and go buteverything didnt work, so I talked to my grandmom and she told me that the best way is after i read to her and sing her and telling her that is time to sleep to put her in the crib and let her cry.
The first time she cried for 54 minutes the second nigth for 30 minutes the third for 25 min the fourth for 10 min. It was hard but it work, sometimes kids with their cry make us do what they want and we don't even know.

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A.P.

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Hi - I have a couple of suggestions you might try if you haven't already: make sure her room is dark enough - extra heavy curtains on windows or even covering them with black trashbags or foil can help.
One thing that worked with my daughter (who sounds almost exactly as you are describing) was, after I would nurse her down, I would lay her in her bed, take off my shirt that I'd been wearing, and place it right next to her face while she slept. This worked beautifully with her because she could still smell me on the shirt, and I could freshen up with a new one!
You might also try having her sleep on a slight incline with her head raised up just a bit.

If you've tried these already, I am sorry. Just keep your head up, once she's more mobile and can adjust herself in her crib, she'll be more prone to sleep longer. This too shall pass!

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L.M.

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i had the same experience. a friend of my sister's recommended the secrets of the baby whisperer. i was not fond of the "let them cry themselves to sleep idea" so this concept really worked for me. you are lucky she is still young. i read the book when my son turned 5mos old and it took me 1 day to get him on a routine and learning to go to sleep. my sister once said "good nap in the morning means good nap in the afternoon, means sleep at night. i initially thought that the more tired a baby was the better they would sleep. the opposite is true. watch for the first sign of tiredness, a yawn, rubbing of the eyes, seven mile stare and put them to sleep in the same place everytime. this is generally almost exactly 2hrs from the time they get up. get a good nightime routine. my son gets a bath at exactly the same time and to bed at exactly the same time. i was 41 w/mine and wished i had read the book prior to having him but it still worked.

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