Anxiety Surrounding Previous Miscarriages

I would just like to say that you need to relax, being stressed out can affect any pregnancy. I would suggest taking a class to relax prenatal yoga or pilates. I wouldn't say anything to anyone until you feel comfortable with everything.

I also had two miscarriages before I got pregnant with the current one. I tried not to bond with the baby because I was so scared of loss and disappointment. I don't have any magic advise, except to say that it gets better. As I got further along, I was able to relax and enjoy being pregnant. Just give it time and try to relax. Talking about it is always good. I am now 29 weeks, and everything is fine.

You have every right to be worried. I would be too. However, stress is bad for you and the baby. You should try to relax whenever possible. Have you spoken with your doc about the way you are feeling? He/she may be able to prescribe a mild ant-depressant for you. In the meantime, be happy that all your numbers are good. I'm sure your baby will be fine. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Good luck :-)

Personally I have never had any miscarriages, but my best friend has had 2, and I have studied up on them in hopes to support her better. I do understand your pessimism, it is just you trying to protect yourself. Just be sure not to stress out too much over it because too much stress can cause miscarriages as well. Just try to relax (hard I know), and think positive. If your levels are good, then that is great, you'll be able to relax a little more at the 12 week mark, that's when your hormones levels sky rocket, less chance of a miscarriage. Don't overexert yourself, or lift anything over 10 pounds, including your 2 year old. At the start of my pregnancy my levels were low, and i couldn't pick my 3 yr old up, but i got around her feeling rejected with asking her to get in her car seat and on the bed, things like that by herself like a "big girl". It really gave her a sense of independence and freedom, she loved doing things on her own, and she was always more than happy to do "big girl" stuff!!!! Good luck, and I hope things work out, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

Hi A.. I can't imagine what you have gone through or what it must be like for you now. I wish you and your family much luck and my suggestion would be to ask your doctor for a support group nearby of others who have had miscarriages. That may be your best support and where I think you would get some good advice. The Crises and Information Center could also help you locating a group or even lend an ear if you need to talk. Their number is ###-###-#### or 1-800-221-0446.
Good luck!
M.

I actually have a friend who has gone (is going) through the EXACT same thing you are! But she has two girls. And then they wanted a third, and she wound up having two miscarriages. She is now 7.5 weeks pregnant. The dr. tells her the same things about her "numbers". They are actaully really high and things look good but I think she's still a little nervous. If you would be interested, I could hook you up with her email. Maybe she could offer some support that only someone going through the same thing could off. Just send me a private message and let me know!

If you're not interested, I just want to say good luck with your pregnancy and just relax knowing what is going to happen will happen and worrying won't change anything!!

hi A. i understand as i have had two micarriages myself and for a long time when i even had my period i was afraid it was another one i felt like i was all alone in this my fears were real and when i had my son i was worried a lot toward the beg on the preg but as time went on and he started kicking and hick uping my fears went away i even fell down a flight of steps and almost had him early but it turned out that i had him two weeks late and he weighed almost ten punds and he is still at 11 years old huge for his age pray and ask god to take theese worries and stress from your mind and heart and replace them with his love and i know he will and remem our other babies are waiting for us in heaven and im sure that the farther along you are your worries will go to rest and i pray you have a healthy and happy baby

This is easier said than done, but I highly recommend on doing some breath work, meditation, yoga, etc. Anything to help calm your mind would be helpful. Something else to consider is journaling or art. You might go buy the book Birthing From Within, it might help you deal with some of this anxiety. And remember, this anxiety is not healthy for you or your baby. Not to mention, the more you think about that the more likely it is to occur. Oh yeah, and one other thing, I would find a cranial sacral therapist.

I have had a miscarriage myself and I know how you feel. And you probally won't start to feel real relief until you feel the baby move. If you feel better waiting to tell anyone, than do so. My suggestion to you is to try and not think about it at all. Of coarse you will think about it, it's impossible not to. But for these next few weeks, try and distract yourself as much as possible. Just don't forget to continue making healthy choices. Another suggestion is to talk to the baby. Let yourself get connected to the baby. Going ahead and trying to give the baby support is awesome compared to always worrying that something is going o happen.
Good luck.

HI A.,

I have had my share of m/c, 5, one ectopic where I lost my left tube and ovary.... After that we miraculously found out I was pregnant, I was 16 1/2 weeks. My hubby said it was God's way of not allowing me to stress therefore stress the pregnancy. I considered myself so blessed and got pregger after her (I'm 23wks, she's 8 months) and I simply didn't want to affect the pregnancy with worry.

One day I was sick with stress.... and I laid down on the couch on my back and said a prayer. I told God and myself, please, if this is not a good pregnancy end it AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. I can't take another loss, I would be devastated otherwise. If it's a good pregnancy, I trust you will see it to the end.

So I went about my days expecting it to end in m/c if it was meant to be. I kept telling myself this, if there's something wrong it will end....
But the weeks passed, I wasn't scared anymore, just confident that God would answer my prayer, kinda changed my perspective...

I am now 23 weeks and we had our big US and the baby is perfectly healthy, as I expected. :)

Be confident that God will do the same for you and your baby!

A.
23weeks 6 days (24 tomorrow!! :))

Hi! I don't know if you're religious or not, but during times when I'm worried over something that really isn't in my control, I tend to remind myself that "it is what it is". This, to me, reminds me that God has already laid out the plans for me, so things already are what they are meant to be, whether we worry about them or not. You can worry and be nervous, but God has already made the decision about this baby, so trust him and trust in his will. Maybe then, you can find some peace with this pregnancy.