I did look back at your posts & see that you have posted this in different ways a few times as Laurie A said... it must really be bothering you.
First off having a child is something that can make or break a couple in many ways... that added responsiblity is something that both of you need to be willing to accept. Personnaly, I wouldn't choose to give up on my dreams or my hubby so easy... if you are willing to walk away from him cause you don't get your way, then I can understand why he would fear having a child with you. I understand that might seem harsh, but if the marrage is happy & healthy in every other way - why would you give up on him. He isn't giving up on you eventhough you are "broken" so to speak or atleast that is what my hubby called it since he could never remember what I had/have.
I did have a child in 1994 when I was 17. Due to a bad situation - which included my age, my in-laws have and are still rasing my almost 16 yr old (she is happy where she is & wants to stay there). In 2001, I got tested because I hadn't had a cycle in over a year & was hoping to have another child someday, and since my schooling was almost complete we decided it was a good time to start trying. I was diagnosed with PCOS and I even got a second opintion. I was told that I should be happy that I had a kid at 17, cause I wouldn't be able to have anymore since my overies we completely covered & that eggs would not be able to get out.
We gave up our dream of having another child... figured it was punishment for whatever we did wrong in life. I was also told that if I took drug I might have a chance, but the cost was out of my price range & I was told the treatment they wanted to give me would cause me not to be able to work since it was worse then kemo & I could still walk away never able to have kids. So, we choose not to do it & since I was "broke" and couldn't be "fixed", it was pointless to waste $$ on birth control - so we contunied to not use any.
In 2002 we sold everything we kept from our daughter at a yardsale & in June 2003 we put an offer in on a house. The week after we signed the papers on the house I started feeling odd, very overwhelmed & we joked about how life changes. Just for a joke someone got me a test & told me to take it since I was acting so pregnant... it come back positive.
Our 2nd daugher was born in 2004, with 2 sons to follow in 2005 & 2007 & I'm currently expecting #5 (a boy) on July 6th - that is if I make it that long. So, eventhough I have/had PCOS - I'm proof that it is possible to have little ones after being told you can't.
Anyways, here I am 33, married for almost 16 yrs, expection my 5th kid & the hardest thing for me is saying enough is enough. And noone seems to understand why. I think part of it is that I couldn't for so long & I fear the depression I went through when I found out I had PCOS, so everytime I talk about this one being my last & getting "fixed" I start to cry (which my docs note & won't even touch it after that).
Also, my sister has had 5 kids (and a few miscarages) and she has PCOS. But I do have 2 aunts that also have it & they don't have any kids... but one has many other health issues and the others marrage broke-up & she never got over the hurt of the break-up & never remarried or found someone else. So, I don't know if their issues are because of PCOS or other stuff.
As to your hubby - talk to him... without anger or hurt!!! Find out why he changed his mind mid-stream. What are his fears... and I don't mean you guessing his fears - actually listen to what he is saying. See if you can find a way of calming the fears or helping him through them. If I'm not mistaken... the words I said (and I'm sure you did also) was to "Have & Hold, in better & worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness & in health till death do us part. If this it whe worse - you are lucky in many ways... try to work through it & talk to him!!!
Never know - he could come home & be willing to start trying again. I wish you luck, and hope you don't give up on him so easily... if he had a bad past, you giving up on him will only cause him more issues in the future. Please don't do that to him if you truely love him & he is good to you in everyother way.