E., as a single mom that has no relationship with my daughters father, I understand your situation. My daughter has never had a relationship with her father, and that is my fault. He is not a horrible man, just irresposible. So over the years I have tried to allow them to talk, and make arrangements but in the long run because of me not allowing him to know her when she was younger, he is afraid and resentful towards me. For that reason, he knows he won't be able to say good things about me, and doesn't want her to see how mad he is. Well it will be his fault when she is grown and can make her own decisions, and she doesn't want to see him.
so what I am trying to say is this, don't judge your ex, just because he does not go to church, doesn't mean he doesn't believe, just because he does not work, does not mean he is useless, let him know his daughter, maybe this will make him understand that he needs to be a man and take care of her financially, live your life in a positive way and maybe he will see that as a reason why he needs to do things better. There are so many who claim to be christian but want to judge others for not being christians. Well if you are a strong christian woman, then raise your daughter in your beliefs, and show her that you are a great mom by allowing her to build her own relationship with her father, and STOP letting other people who don't like your ex, influence how you feel. Who cares what they think, they don't have a daughter with him and they don't have to deal with him, only you do, only your opinion counts when it comes to him. Go and make yourself a better person by finishing school, make sure you don't have to depend on him or any man for financial reasons, but do not allow other people to control your life, or your daughters, let her know her dad, if he screws up then go from there, but if he loves her and wants to care for her, then shame on you for not allowing it to happen, especially if he is able to care for her while you are in school. And maybe you could ask him if he could watch her at your home if you don't want her to go to his.
Goodluck E., and remember it isn't about you anymore, it is about your daughter, when you show her that is is okay and safe to be with her dad, she will be safe and happy. Make yourself happy, and she will follow your lead.