All This Intimacy Talk - Now I Have a Question

I'm sorry to hear this. Have you been to a doctor for a complete physical checkup? You don't give information about your relationship status. Are you married or in a long-term relationship? Are there issues there? It is difficult to feel sexual desire if you are dealing with relationship issues, stressful life challenges, or physical issues. If none of those are true, I might suggest counseling.

you may (probably) have a hormone deficit, talk to your doctor, they can help with that

Good for you V. in reaching out here and some wonderful feedback. Most impressive. As a therapist, I would want to check out these same questions, as well as wonder about your feelings / any unresolved issues in the relationship that you may be wanting / needing addressed. Would your significant other be interested in some couple's counseling? S. A. K., MFT
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Have you talked to your doctor about it? You don't say how old you are or if other things are going on with your partner, etc. but to have NO sex drive at all sounds unusual.

Go to your doctor. If you are not comfortable talking to your GP about it, go online and check out some doctors who specialize in 'female' issues. You can find reviews and recommendations, etc. that will help you find a doctor you think you would feel comfortable with who is part of your insurance group.

Go see that doc for a pap smear, breast exam, - all the female stuff, and TALK to her about what's not 'going on'! I think this just happens to some women, but there are all sorts of reasons, both emotional and physical. Either way, I am SURE there is something that can be done to get your body interested again! Good luck, and don't worry- see a good doctor and I bet you will feel more like your old self again soon! :)

have you been checked for endometriosis

Hormone levels need checked by doctor.

You don't really give a whole lot of information but here is my take on things. Sex begins in the mind as well as in the body. How much of your time do you spend thinking about sex? Have you been checked out by your doctor? Perhaps your hormones are off, this would definitely affect your sex drive. Do you enjoy sex? What are the things you enjoy about it? Do you exercise regularly? Hoiw do you feel about your mate? How's your relationship otherwise? Sexual intimacy is an offspring of intimacy in other areas.

If you can manage to honestly answer some of these questions you can get to the bottom of finding your sex drive.

I would begin by setting your mind on sex, think about the things you like and enjoying them with your mate. I hope this helps.

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Hi V.,

The lack of a healthy sex drive, especially when you are young, is a nutritional issue. You may need more help, but you definitely need to start on an absorbable multivitamin/mineral complex. There are many vitamins on the market: some are good, some are okay and some are plain dangerous. It depends on how they are manufactured and what their delivery system is.

If you're interested in mine, I would love to help. Let me know!

M.

If your Dr. says there's nothing physically wrong, you need to look at your daily lifestyle. Romance takes nurturing, it doesn't just "happen". You need to set time aside, not only for yourself, but for you as a couple. That means a date night with no kids on a regular basis. Scheduling it, looking forward to it, and preparing for it all contribute to the excitement that builds long before the actual foreplay begins. Long-term relationships are tough,and ultimately boring because we let ourselves ge into a rut. Try something new-- lingerie, edible lotions or a couple's toy. (A good arousal cream will remind you of what you've been missing!) Bring some excitement and mystery back into your bedroom, and you'll see your sex drive return. It doesn't go away, it goes to sleep when it's bored. Please check out the pureromance.com website, we are dedicated to this very important aspect of women's lives. If you have more questions, you can ask the owner of the company anything on her Ask Patty page. She is very knowledgeable about all things romantic. Good luck.