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Sounds like he's bored at school. He already knows his site words, is reading small books, etc. What is he supposed to do now? Wait for the other kids to catch up?
Try talking to his teacher and principal again about giving him more advanced work or even if you bought him some advanced workbooks (Wal-Mart has them) for him and work with him at home. If he knows how to do what the teacher is telling him then he isn't going to want to keep repeating it over and over. Some kids do not benefit from repeatition.

stick with your gut on the add issue. I have a masters in Clinical Psychology and a phd and from all that i have been exposed to and studied he is less likely to have add/adhd than any other child. That is the easy answer for the teacher and principal and that is why we have so many children on medication. Medication is not the way to go - even if he did have it - the disorder is very trainable. I think the first response of possibly Jared being bored or not liking the situation might be the case. Have you talked to Jared? He is old enough to communicate with you. Can you look to him for answers? He is not with you very much due to you both working(not your fault, just part of life) - but, can you possibly spend some more time on the weekend with him and talk to him? He has never been around other kids and now he is in kindergarden...that is a huge change. He actually sounds very bright - see if he just needs more stimulation. My brother, when he was your son's age, had a teacher who did not like him and always got in trouble for not doing anything. Well, after lots of meetings my mom found out that the teacher had some issues outside of school and was frustrated with my brother because he was bored - she would "let" him sit under her desk and read by himself all day! He was the only one who could read really well, so he was isolated. My mom stuck to her gut instinct and made sure to talk to my brother too and ask him what was going on. Trust your child. Hang in there! I will pray for your family.

K.,

Don't feel like a failure. (I hate it when educators do that...we have a principal like that here...take it with a grain of salt.)

Is okay, I've been there. However, get him tested. See what they say. Don't be afraid to see. And don't be afraid of meds. I thought the same thing you did at first. Then the doctor explained to me, what would happen if I didn't. His phonetic learning would not develop and by third grade, we would have set him up for failure for the rest of his school career. Trust me, my son was in K5 when we learned of his ADHD.

We now have a handle on it and he is in the first grade. We have good days and bad days. It will never be a fix. But go for the testing at least before you make any big decisions. Find out if he has it or not. Then decide. The decision for meds is ultimately yours even though you go through the testing. But keep an open mind. I walked into the office with my mind set, and came out with a completely different attitude. You just want the best for your child of course!!! We all do!!!

Good luck and God bless!
Lee

While I am not a professional (at least not until I finish my degree), it sounds to me like maybe your child is bored in class. Is it possible that he is gifted in some areas? Being in college myself to become a teacher, I have done a project about gifted children. I learned that often times children are diagnosed ADD, ADHD, or labled with behavior problems, when if fact the problems stem from the fact that they are not stimulated enough. If he is capable of doing the skills and just refuses to do them in the classroom, perhaps you might consider having him tested for giftedness. Just a thought! A.

K.,

you have to award him on everything he does that is good.and tell him if his good and he does his stuff at school you will award him.try to make it fun for him.i have the same thing with my 6 yr old in kingergarten.your not alone.but ive been doing those things and its workin.do you have a com do things like that on your com i do with her.its workin shes doing better.you can talk to me on yahoo messager if you want ill help you ____@____.com

Hi K.

Merry Christmas!

Sounds to me like your son may be bored with the work he is doing. Think about it, if you were bored with something wouldn't you find it pointless to do? You said he is very capable...maybe you should have him tested to see if he is gifted.

Another suggstion is that maybe he would benefit froma different learning style. He may not fully understand the way the information is being presented, and therefore gives up.

Hope this helps.

my son has adhd. he was tested when he was in the last part of first grade. before he got on medince he was very busy in school. talking getting out of his seat. he also has a reading problem. but since being on the medince he is doing much better. but i sometimes think it something he can control
its like your motor skills. you have to learn to use them.
hope this helps you in some ways.
A. w

Hi my name is A. S. and i had the same problem when i was in school about the same grade i would just sit there and do nothing. The reason for that was it was a new place with new people and i trusted no one. Maybe it the same with your child. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

My daughter is having similar problems in second grade. It turns out that she is just not challenged. She is in the process of being tested for the gifted program and the gifted teacher is working with her teacher on finding things that challenge her. You can take him to a psychologist to have him tested for many things including intelligence tests and add. Someone in this field may also be able to find out what is really happening in class.

I agree with the gifted responses. I have child who is in the Gifted program. When he was that age and the teacher went over everything on Monday, he knew it. He didn't have to go over and over and over with the work until tests on Friday. They called me and said Camron would just get up and run across the room to pick up a book or do something else and he would tell them, "I know this already." LOL