Aggrevated!

Yes, I think it is normal. At least it is for me anyway. I get really frustrated with my hubby a lot. Usually when he makes me late for something, or when he is supposed to take the garbage out before work, then doesnt and I have to do it. The younger the kids are the more of an effect it had on me. Partly because just having young kids is stressful, then you add something trivial like that on top of it - it's like the straw that broke the camels back. Then what makes it worse is when he says "I don't understand why you get so upset over the little stuff, just calm down" He is very laid back and go with the flow while I am very anxious about stuff. It just kills me sometimes.

Sit your 7 mo old in the passenger front seat belted in while you put the car seat in....I have done it. It works out OK :) Take a deep breath. Men just do things half-assed sometimes and don't think! It happens to all of us...(my kids are now 3.5 and 2 but are 17 mos apart...been there, done that -- have a 3rd on the way).

Best wishes!

We all have these moments! Take a deep breath and relax! Try again in a few moments and as Allison F said strap the kids in the car with the seatbelt temporarily while you adjust the car seats. Then go have fun. When your hubby comes home. Hand over the kids take a bath and sip some nice wine LOL!

Its okay, we all have those moments. Your husband wasn't thinking when he did that. He just thought to himself, "Oh well, I can't do it. She's better at it anyway"
Set your baby in the front seat while you get the carseat in, it will work out. Plus you really need to go on this outing, otherwise your resentment will build until your husband gets home and then look out! You will scream at him like he's cheating on you when all he did was not put in a carseat.
So go out and have fun.

I'd have lost it too. And I used to lose it A LOT when my kids were younger. It's like Amanda said, little kids are so stressful anyway and then these little things push us over the edge. Just know lots of us have been there and it really really gets better as the kids get older. As my sister used to tell me, there's just less to fight about and she was right.

if that were an isolated incident, it seems you wouldn't be *as* angry.

but since you mentioned you and your husband have been arguing a lot lately, that might be the underlying driver to your real frustration.

you should have a talk with him about how you're feeling and not point the finger in an accusatory way, but more "lately I've been feeling _____ and maybe this is why we are arguing more" or "lately we've been fighting a lot and I think we should talk about it. For me, I feel like you disregard my needs as second to yours and don't respect me very much and I end up really frustrated and I get short with you. It makes me feel helpless and like I can't count on you like I used to"

as opposed to "you never do ____ anymore, you're acting so lazy when ___" etc. kwim?

it will encourage him to open up to you as well and lay the groundwork for a more positive conversation.

No advice, but just know you are not alone!! It is very frustrating. My husband ALWAYS takes the trash out but forgets to put a new trash bag in the can. So when I have a handful of dirty trash and find no new bag, I want to scream!!!!!If the trash is clean (i.e. no food etc. on it) I will throw it in the unlined can so he has to take care of it eventually.

It's ok honey, we've all been there. Be proactive next time and remind him to secure both car seats before he leaves or while he is doing it, because it is too frustrating for you when you are ready to go only to have the kids and find out they are not done.

I would be furious, too...and couldn't wait for my husband to come home to have a little talk !!!!!!!!

I would like to know how JoAnn C. knows that your husband thinks that you can do it better and that you will scream at him like he's cheating when he gets home. Seriously, let's stick to the facts, and not deal in fiction.

K., I know exactly how you feel. My husband said he put the car seats in and left my daughter's unlatched. I found out after I turned a corner and her seat tipped over. I called and asked him to let me know the next time so I could be prepared in case we were in an accident.

Next time ask him to put both car seats in. I have learned to never assume anything, and so has my hubby! :) No one is perfect. Your husband isn't perfect, and that's okay. Your reaction isn't perfect, but that's okay.
I hope you have a wonderful day in spite of it all!

Why didn't you just ask him if he did it instead assuming he did then finding out he didn't. Would save you A LOT of frustration!

I feel your pain! I don't know how many times I have gotten out to the car, already behind schedule, only to realize that my husband forgot to put the car seat back into my car! Since putting a carseat into the car is not a quick process, this is usually not time I figured into my schedule, especially since as I said, I am usually behind schedule as it is! It is so frustrating! I have been close to tears at the same situation! If he had let me know that he didn't do it, I could have figured that into my getting ready schedule!

So now you are angry, frustrated, sweating from trying to do the whole job with one hand, and you won't be able to do something that you looked forward to! Totally reasonable to be upset! Since men typically don't deal well with hysterical phone calls letting them know that you are unhappy with something they did wrong! I'm sure he'll feel badly that it happened but I would call him after you are more calm or wait for him to come home and calmly discuss what happened and why it was so frustrating for you. He might be more understanding or reasonable to talk to that way. He will feel bad that he made you upset and if you talk to him calmly about it, he may be more willing to discuss how to avoid this scenario or something similar in the future. Good Luck!

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I feel your pain! I don't know how many times I have gotten out to the car, already behind schedule, only to realize that my husband forgot to put the car seat back into my car! Since putting a carseat into the car is not a quick process, this is usually not time I figured into my schedule, especially since as I said, I am usually behind schedule as it is! It is so frustrating! I have been close to tears at the same situation! If he had let me know that he didn't do it, I could have figured that into my getting ready schedule!

So now you are angry, frustrated, sweating from trying to do the whole job with one hand, and you won't be able to do something that you looked forward to! Totally reasonable to be upset! Since men typically don't deal well with hysterical phone calls letting them know that you are unhappy with something they did wrong! I'm sure he'll feel badly that it happened but I would call him after you are more calm or wait for him to come home and calmly discuss what happened and why it was so frustrating for you. He might be more understanding or reasonable to talk to that way. He will feel bad that he made you upset and if you talk to him calmly about it, he may be more willing to discuss how to avoid this scenario or something similar in the future. Good Luck!

it's very hard to react *correctly* when you're already frustrated and dealing with two tinies. my heart goes out to you. i'd probably have cried too.
but it's not really about carseats, there's something more prompting the fights and your hair-trigger responses.
canceling your outing is not a great idea. you are only going to be madder and resentful over it, and build up more of a head of steam. belt a kid or two in the regular seat while you wrestle with the wretched car seat, then go have fun.
talk to your dh about THIS incident when you are calm. you will not get him to see your point while you're still fuming and/or crying. and the point is to get him to help more and be more efficient, not to guilt-trip him.
but that won't address what's really going on. the two of you need to get to the cause of the cycle of stupid arguments.
good luck!
khairete
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YES I have! tears are healthy.... better than screaming and swearing in front of your children.
I would seriously tell my DH how disappointed (that;s being nice) I am with him for not completing this Simply task for me ( I assume he didnt have the 2 kids in tow when he did this) GUYS just dont get it!!!!!!!!!!
I'm sorry your aggravated ! I hope your day gets better :-) xoxox

I've got no advise but wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
I find myself getting more and more frustrated with my husand because he does nothing but a little cleaning around the house. And he only does that little cleaning because I often go on cleaning strikes and he's a little OCD about somethings.
It makes me sad to see the relationship he's forming with our daughter who's 4. All she wants is her daddy when he gets home from work but all he wants to do is eat dinner and catch up on his emails. I feel so bad for our daughter. Last night I even had her go to bed early so they would stop fighting. (Her and I had some extra reading time) They are both pig headed and argue already. The teen years are going to be a nightmare!
He also has such a different parenting style than me I wonder how life is going to be as the kids get older. I also have a 15 year old son (not my husbands but lives full time with us) He get's very frustrated as he sees how "lazy" my husband can be. He's always barking demands at my son for things that he should be helping with as well. Thankfully my son will do most things because he knows it's helping my!
So good luck to you!! And hugs as well!