Advice?

I am exactly the same way and have the same problem. I still feel like a 20 year old and have a hard time talking like a mom when I go to play groups. Some of those moms seem so old and serious. Believe me I know how you feel.

Hi E.
I too feel as you do. I had many friends proir to marriage and baby, but we have grown apart. I am 27 with a 20month little girl in Dacula/Grayson and I feel as though my husband is my only friend. It would be nice to have girfriends again but I too feel silly striking conversations with other mothers at parks and playdates. I would feel ackward asking another mom if they want to get together sometime, like I am hitting on them or something!!! Sorry if that sounds strange, but it is just I have been use to making friends in school or through other friends. Not just total strangers. good luck!

I'm in the same situation , 30 yrs old, and 5 yr old and a 2 yr old and no real girlfriends in the area

what it about being 30 and having kids that does this ??

What you wrote hits the nail on the head for so many of us. My baby was in pre-school this year so I got really with involved with the school so I have a few friends now. I've made a few over the years but its not friends I would like go out with or anything. I would trust them to babysit and we have done lunch a few times but I want really close friends who understand.I have 3 kids most of them only have 1 or there kids are lots younger with them just have 1 near one of my kids ages. I can't just do things on the spur of the moment I have to plan things out I have to budget out the money to do things. Don't feel silly just start talking. It never hurts to be your self if they don't like you for you than so what.

I don't mean to waist your time, because I really don't have any advice for you. Until now I thought I was the only other person to feel like you do, now I know that I'm not alone when it comes to this. If I find any advice that works for me, I'll be sure to pass it along to you!

I think that this website could be a great place to meet people! Esp with sinilar interests. I have a 2 yr old boy, where do you live?

I'm in the same situation and lately it has started to get to me I guess since my fiance is 6 years younger than I and he still has a ton of friends and goes out all the time. meanwhile I'm home with the kids and don't know anyone anymore my own age with similar interests. it's hard as you get older and start a family or move away from the people you know.

I'm afraid I have the same thing to echo from the other ladies. I'm also 30yo, but my Little is a 3yo girl. And I work full time. I'm quite shy until I get to know you and I have a hard time finding people I really connect with. Also, my husband and I are terribly geeks with the WoWing and the scifi/fantasy reading, movies, and tv and such. :-D

So, if you're into any of that and/or you're close (I'm in Canton), drop me a line. Maybe we'll have stuff in common.

I find myself in your situation, too. I went to playgroups, but always feel so awkward, since I am generally quiet when I first meet someone. I know that my 17 month old son loves playing with other babies, and I make an effort to find other moms, but sometimes it seems as if I have nothing in common with them, or that we have vastly different schedules. The "mom friends" I do have keep in touch primarily through email, which is fun, but not the same as actually taking a break and talking, or watching our kids play together.

I don't know that this was so much advice as it was agreeing with you.

I can relate to your situation. I have felt the same way. I have a 14 month old son and another on the way. It seems so much harder to make friends when your not working. If your interested in contacting me feel free to write me back. I have tried to meet other women at playgrounds and make friends but I feel intimidated. What area do you live in. I am in Lawrenceville.

I totally understand what you are saying. I am 32 with a little 2, almost 3 year old and because I work in a tiny office and partially from home I have no friends to speak of...today I went to the mall with my daughter and was SO happy when my daughter found a friend from school and I got to meet her mom. I am hoing we will become friends.

Anyway, I live in Savannah and could use a friend or two!

I found myself pregnant with my third and not really having any friends that could understand what being a mommy is like. I ran across a great group of ladies online. They are at www.momsofga.com. By chatting with them online before I met them at playdates, I was able to get used to talking to them. By the time we went to the first playdate, we had a lot to talk about, and it really helped with that awkwardness and the not having anything to talk to. These ladies fast became my friends. Hopefully it will help you out, too!

You should not feel silly at all. I am in the same situation as I believe many other women are. I now consider my husband my "main" friend as I no longer have REAL girlfriends either. It is hard to find other work full time and meet other Moms with a similar schedule. In my opinion, the next time you find yourself at a play group with other Moms I would simply find someone you are interested in meeting and srike up a conversation asking things like: Is that your little boy?, Is your clild as tired after this play group as mine is?. It might be corney, but I guarantee that you are not the only one feeling like you do.
Good luck. There is hope for all of us looking for other Mom friends - I HOPE!

M.

Hi E., I am a SAHM, also just turned 30 with a two year old little boy. It has been hard for me to find people in my same situation that I can really connect with. I live in woodstock and would love to maybe get our boys together for a playdate. Hope to hear from you.
M.

Hello E.,

I have the same problem!! I have a 4 mos. old and have friends with kids that same age and older. However, I find that I do not have anything to talk about either. I am telling my husband that I have no real friends that live here. I too work a full-time job - their should be playgroups for those working moms- we might have other things in common to talk about!! Maybe we should start one??

Wow, I'm so glad to know this affects more people. I thought there was just something wrong with me. I too and in the exact same situation, but I don't have a husband. My closest "friends" are my sister and mother. My sister is currently undergoing infertility treatments, so it's rather uncomfortable to discuss some aspects of parenting with her right now. My twins don't go to daycare right now, but they will hopefully be starting pre-k this fall, but even then I don't get to meet many of the other parents, because I work full time - my mother takes them and picks them up for me. I live in Madison County, so there aren't many (if any at all) organizations for parents to get together.

Just a thought for the working moms...why not start a (free) group on MSN or Yahoo for working moms in your area. Get inexpensive business cards from vistaprint that have your group's name, email and website. Then pass them out to other working moms. Give them to the men in your office (for their wives), have your husband pass them out to women at his office (or men for their wives) and spread the word. Your message board can serve as a forum to discuss parenting, etc and you can plan lunch meetups/moms nights out, etc.

Also, maybe try to find a military wife who's husband is deployed. We have one in our SAHM group. She can't always go out with the group for moms nights out, so once a month everyone goes to her house at 8pm when the kids are in bed and we play games, bring snacks, and have girl talk. Even though we all have different parenting styles/education levels/incomes we've become really close friends because we all need one another.

There are lots of MOPS (Moms of Preschoolers) groups, or MOMS Clubs around the country, so thats a place to start looking if you're a SAHM or a "working mom" with flexible hours. When you inquire about a group, ask if they have a new member coordinator/sponsor. Maybe that person can find out what your interests are and lead you to others who have those things in common.

I don't know what I'd do without my moms group, so I encourage you guys to keep trying to find some support because you're not the only one looking for it!!!

I find myself in that same situation/problem. I find girls my age and with kids but their family, like mine are on totally different schedules with their men and children and I find it hard to find time to hang out with them. I recently met a mother on here..hey gwen if ur reading this. But she is the first sane person I've come across. We've already found ourself struggling with one anothers family schedules but I think we are gonna work through it and unlike when we were young girls we can't dedicate all of our time to our friends but you can talk alot and set days u CAN go out. Try finding someone close to ur age...it helps.