Hi L.,
I know starting your child on medication can be a very scary thing, but if he is truly ADHD you will see an immediate benefit (assuming his dosage is correct)! I teach 6 and 7 year olds and it is amazing the difference the appropriate medication can make in these little peoples lives. I have had kids look up from their work in amazement and say, "look at me everybody, I am doing my work!!"...."my brain doesn't feel itchy"..."the channel isn't changing!"...."Thank God! my hands and feet are listening to me when I tell them to 'sit still!'. These are just a few of the better quotes that I have heard over my 26 years in the classroom. They have all made me smile and some of them have made me cry.
Kids who truly have ADHD are miserable in their own bodies and their self esteem can suffer SO much. I know there is a huge debate about whether or not we start these little ones on medication too early. From my experience, if the child is truly ADHD, the medication makes a huge difference in his ability to learn and in his feelings about himself as a student. If the child truly needs the meds., and doesn't get them, then we take a chance that he will miss important and fundamental academic education because of his inability to pay attention and, because the "foundation concepts" were not learned, he will often struggle with future concepts. But an even bigger concern is that his self esteem will suffer, he will think of himself as "dumb" because learning seems more difficult for him and this will impact his future.
Often kids who are denied medication when they truly need it end up thinking of themselves as "losers", because of their lack of impulse control, they often do things that get them labeled as "trouble makers" by their peers and adults, some of these kids will become involved in illicit drugs because of their inability to see the consequences of their behavior...others will become involved with illicit drugs because they find them "calming"---in other words, they try to self-medicate their ADHD.
I would be sure that your son has been evaluated by a team. That you and his primary teachers have filled out several behavioral surveys which have been analized by a psychologist. And, that whomever is prescribing for your child is very familiar with the different classes of ADHD medications, dosages, and their effects.
I would also ask that your teacher keep a very brief log of you child's daily behavior and make notations on any differences she/he notes from his behavior prior to med.s.
If I were you, I would also keep a log of the time of day the medication was given and any notaeable behavior you witness at home.
In this way, you can see if dosages are appropriate and if the medication is truly effective.
If a child is truly ADHD and is given the appropriate medication at the appropriate dosage, you will see a much calmer affect, but your child will still be very animated, his eyes will still 'light up' when he is excited etc etc.
In other words, he will still be himself...just a bit calmer! If he looks groggy or "like a zombie" the medication is either inappropiate or he has been given too much!
I have actually had former students come back to me and thank me for having helped their parents see that they needed medication. They have described feeling as if they were going to "fly apart" and feeling as if they had "ants crawling under their skin" prior to medication. One of my returnees said that he used to want to hit things and jump up and down just because it was the only way his body didn't "feel achy".
Watch your child carefully, I'll bet he actually seems happier and more content if the medication is appropriate for him!
Good luck!