Addicted to His Pacifier

what we did was one of us had to be the strong one which was not me. Dad told her all the time big girls dont have binkys and would take it from her and put it on her pillow. it got to where she was only having it at naptie and bed. Then after that was good for about a month or so. Dad would get it when he left for work and when it came naptme i would tell her daddy has it. at bed time she would ask for it and i would tell her to ask daddy. she got to where she would just go to bed after asking me cause she knew daddy would not give it to her.

I have also heard of cutting it but I did not want to do that just me

good luck I know this is going to be a battle but be strong
K.

You are probably in for a good fight for a while and a lot crying and it will be time for tough love. Once you take it away don't give it back or you will have to start all over again.

My son had several at age 2. One by one they broke and were not replaced. One day he was in his crib crying and I came in and he was pointing down on the floor to where the nipple part of Binky was. I said to him, "Oh my, Binky all gone." I said it in a very sympathetic tone as if I were crying. He cried a bit for several nights but it eventually ceased and he never wanted another.

Some children are ready earlier than others. I just made my mind up that I didn't want to have a child older with one as I had seen that they made the larger one.

When my son turned three we talked about being a "big boy" and how his big sister mailed all her pacis to grandma when she got "big". So, with his hesitant approval, we got a big envelope and found all the pacis and mailed them off to grandma. He asked for them 2 nights in a row. We just reminded him that he mailed them off to grandma so he could be a big boy. He seemed to be ok with that explanation. He hasn't asked since. I dreaded the day, and it just turned out to be no big deal with either of my kids. I wish I had heard of the paci fairy, though. That sounds fun.

I tried cutting them with my daughter she didn't care still tried to hold it in her mouth. The main problem was that when she would go to sleep it would fall out and then she would wake up all over again. Finally we went cold turkey, just told her that the paci fairy came and took them to the little babies, (she has a new cousin so this worked well) My brother trashed them of course but she thought she was helping. she asked for them the next night and then less the next night but now we are good. We do have to watch every once in a while she will sneak her little sisters and suck as fast as she can before I catch her. lol.

We cut a little tiny bit of the nipple off every 4-5 days. It took about a month and 1/2 before nothing was left and ds would just hold the handle part up to his mouth, but there was nothing to suck. He would ask me to fix it and I would just say it could not be fixed. This worked better than when we tried to take it away all at once...I was not prepared for that battle, but every child is different and your little man may suprise you.

Bless your heart we know what you are going through. Good Luck!! I have a friend that says as long as her dd gives it up before kindergarten who cares!! For us ds needed to learn to soothe himself without the paci, he had no self-control.Either way let us know how it works out.

My daughter LOVED her pacie & had it until she was about 4; she would not go to sleep without it. My husband got her off of it by making a special chart. She loved Scooby Doo at that time so he took on e of her older Scooby calendar pictures & glued it to a big piece of construction paper. Over that he glued another piece of construction paper on which he'd cut little windows. Each time she went to sleep without her pacie she was able to open a window, like an advent calendar. When the whole picture was revealed she got a prize.

There was never any crying, fighting or trauma over the process & she was completely off the pacie long before all the windows were opened.

We are currently getting rid of my daughters and we are cutting it. Just cut a little off every other night. My daughter says, "paci broken", then she just holds it rather than sucking on it. It seems to be working so far. I hear that they will eventually throw them away because they are broken, we are just not there yet personally.

Search your house, car, etc for every paci and throw them in the trash...go cold turkey. Tell him that he is a big boy now and doesn't need his paci anymore and the the paci fairy came and took them to give to babies who need them.

With our 2 1/2 yr old, we told him if he left all of his binkies in his Easter basket, the Easter bunny would take them to all the babies that needed them and leave him a special present. He just finished potty-training so he really doesn't like things that "babies" need so this worked for us. He asked for it one time the first night and I just reminded him that the Easter Bunny took them to the little babies. I was shocked that it was so easy. Good luck.

My little boy was also ADDICTED to his binky....when he turned 2 I told him that it was time to leave it for the "binky fairy" He set it on his window sill and in the morning it was gone with a little something special left for him (kind of like the tooth fairy) ....We did a teddy bear....but he was soooo excited and NEVER asked for it again...I was shocked because he was soooo attached to it....That is what worked for us....he's now 4 1/2 and still talks about the "binky fairy" Good luck to you.

We told our son for about a week how he needed to be a big boy & let go of his passy. He just basically argued with us. So then we cut the nipple off. He was upset, but he dealt with it pretty well.

I worried so much about taking them from my daughter when she was 2 1/2, but it was not as hard for us as I thought. We tried cutting them, but she would fiind another one that I had not found etc. It was getting annoying, so finally we gathered all that we could find, and we took them to build a bear, and she traded it for a cat that she could also sleep with. I have heard of people leaving them out for the paci fairy and then she leaves a present for him in its place. Either way, he may need to get used to only having it for bed time, but sometimes that fight takes longer than just doing it right away. He is for sure old enough to understand and be reasoned with. Good luck ~A.~

my daughter will be 4 in august and is stil soooooo addicted to it!!! i need advice too!!! (LOL)

My friend has been in a similar situation. She threw all of them away but one. The one she kept was traded in for a new toy that her child picked out at the toy store; and her child has been ok with this...

Her reasoning to throw the others away was so she wouldn't cave in and give it back to him.

My girls loved their pacifiers and so did I! I think it was probably a harder transition for me than for them. I began by only allowing it at naptime and at night. Then just at night. And then just cut it out all together. With my second daughter I subsituted a "lovey" in its place. It is basically just a small square silky blanket. She uses it for comfort instead of a pacifier now. When you do decide to do away with it I would recommend putting them somewhere that is hard for you to get to, maybe even throwing them away. I found with my first I "caved" and didn't have the will power. Once I threw them out or packed them away I realized there was no going back! Good luck with whatever method you choose!

My 17 mnth old son was very addicted to his pacy. After lots of advice from several moms to take it away now before he gets any older & it gets harder to take away. I have started trying. I didn't want to cut it away i was afraid of him choking on it. He has several hidin all over the house like hidden treasures. so everytime he found one, I would say Yucko! that goes in the trash, I would walk with him to the trash can and told him to throw it in the trash. We would clap and sing and dance and just make a huge thing about it going in the trash, and each time we found one. We would do it all over again. Nights are still hard sometimes when he feels he needs it but I distract him by reading a book or us singing a song after a while he gets tired and falls to sleep. But HURRAY!!! it is working. No more pacys left.