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Many men don't have any symptoms from this, so maybe he had it before and you didn't contract it until a later date. I have conducted STD education classes in the past, and I do remember that about this particular disease. You both should have been treated with antibiotics.

well i know from experience if you honestly have not been with anyone else than he has. It will not lay dormant for that long. That is how my first marriage ended. I was 24 and never had anything and then boom and i as always faithful. I confronted my ex and he lied. Well when we separated and i filed for divorce he told me the truth. His family members also told me he had been messing around. If you have it he is cheating. Ask him if he will go take a lie detector test. That is what i did

I know this isn't the answer you want, but I also agree with everyone. Chlamydia is an STD. Period. End of story. If you have been faithful, then he hasn't. I would make him go to the dr with you so the dr can explain this, maybe he will come clean when faced with irrefutable evidence. If not, or even if so, get yourself some counseling immediately.

Hi A.,

My name is L. and I'm a mother of 3. Ta'Niya-March 2005, TyJuan- April 2006, and Trinity- May 2007. I do know from research that it could take up to a couple of years to detect whether or not you have this STD that because most of the people who have it don't have any sickness with it.If you go to the doctors they will give you some medicine (it's nasty), but it works. It will clear it up in 7 days. And also it is very possible that your husband didn't cheat you caught it from someone before him. Well I hope this information helps you.

I am sorry for your current situation.

I had Chlamydia when I was 17yrs. old. My boyfriend had gotten it from his previous girlfriend. We were together about 4 months before either of us found out about the STD. there were a few small signs, but nothing very aggrivating, so I thought nothing of it. But over all, I do not believe there is a real dormant period. Symptoms in the beginning can be so mild you have no clue. But with devestating results if left untreated, which can leave you sterile.
I hope you find the answers that you need.

i'm very sorry but i would get a second opinon because just this past weekend i had a stupid er dr tell me i had an std which i dont because he actually lied to me the way i know this is i went to the local std clinic which called the hopital for my results and come to find out it was negative so i say get an second opinion

A.,
I am so sorry. I agree with everyone else as well. Since you know that you have not been with anyone else then he has. I will keep you all in prayer. My advice would be to get some couseling from a therapist ASAP. I know that he was/is unfaithful but he is the father of your two children. Maybe he would be willing to get some help. GOod Luck!

Sorry but the only way you can get it is through sexual intercourse. What does your Doctor say? Your husband needs to be tested as well, or you'll be going back and forth. Check with your Doctor, they might know something we don't. Good luck, and congrats on the 2 boys.

I have to agree, it sounds like he's not being honest. Have you asked your doctor if there are any other possbile ways it can be transmitted (toilet seats or whatever)? I hope for you that its explainable. You may want to have a serious conversation with your husband. I'm so sorry and hope it all works out okay for you.

Hey A.,

I know all about how you are feeling. My son is now 5 and my daughter is almost 3. I was told I had Clamydia just this past spring...how?? I know I have been with no one but my husand and I know he has been with no one but me(who has that kind of time with 2 kids...ha ha) None the less I had it and we have been married for 5 years. Long story short my DR who told me I had it was convinced I got it in the last 2 years (I thought no way) I spoke to several other DR who deal with STD's and they said it could lay dormant for more than 5 years. They really don't know how long it can stay dormant and when it is dormant you will test negative for it. That explains why with both my pregnacies I showed no signs.

I am just thankful that my husband and I have a very strong christian marriage so there was never a doubt in my mind we were both faithful to each other. If your husband said he's been faithful---believe him. Your husband has now been exposed to it from you so he needs to take a round of antibiotics too so you two don't keep passing it back to each other. Have him call his Dr ASAP before you guys have sex again.

Best of luck to you. D. R

I read an article about this subject in a parenting mag. The lady already had 3 0r 4 kids + was preg. again. She found out at a checkup that she had it. The doc. told her it could lie dormant for years before showing up, so she could have got it from an old flame or he could have passed it on from an old flame. That's not to say he didn't cheat. Go w/ your heart. Your heart usually knows wheather we want to admit it or not. Before I made a decision about my marriage I'd go back to a doc. ( maybe take your husband as the other ladies have sug.). Let him tell you both what the deal is, you both can get treated, + if he says it doesn't lie dormant then you'll have a better idea on what to do. Good luck, I wish the best for you.

A.,
I am responding ONLY with the advice I found out when I went through with this. I didn't get this when I was pregnant but it did show up about a year after my first. Did you have symptoms? Or did they just find it? OK From talking with my doctor AND from my own research this can lie dormat for a while and then suddenly appear. However, IF you are going to show symptoms it is typical to show with in a specific time period. I believe within a week of exposure.Most women do not know they have this. I was the "lucky/unlucky??" on that showed symptoms. I guess I was lucky b/c I was able to jump right on treatment, but unlucky in that it only really meant one thing. My husband HAD in fact given it to me within the 7 day time period and YES we were married. Like I said in the beginning I am ONLY sharing MY experience, not accusing ANYONE. But the pH does change when you become pregnant, this could be the reason for it suddly showing up. it couls also have nothing to do w/ pregnancy, just a coencidence. It could have been dormat and just appearing. Not related to your pregnancy at all. I hope this helps.

I agree with everyone else. I'm sorry. :(

I'm sorry you're having to deal w/this issue at such a delicate time. The only way you can get it is through sex...so if you haven't cheated...he has. It's hard to hear and accept, but that's the reality of it. I went through something similar when I was 19 and I just couldn't believe what I was being told, only to find out years later (when I took the blinders off) that that is what had happened. I'm so sorry.

I am pretty sure you've gotten many responses from this already, but if not, chlamydia cannot lie dormant. The two of the only STDs that I know lie dormant are HPV and maybe syphlis. I know you are newly married and want to believe your husband, but chlamydia goes without saying. Also, ask your doctor, they will tell you all you need to know. Don't feel embarrassed, unfortunately these things happen, but love yourself enough to deal with the truth and do something about it. Had you not found out about this you could have miscarried or just messed yourself up to the point where you became sterile or needed a hysterectomy. I have a friend who that happened to. Hope this helps.

Two years is a long dormancy time. It does seem like he's not being honest. Has he tested positive?

A.,
I know this sounds weird, but ask the physician about the accuracy of the test. My girlfriend gets tested for things frequently because she is military and once they told her she had something and she freaked, same as anyone would. But then later found out test was only 50% accurate. Maybe ask to be tested again. I don't know about the dormant part. I'm guessing probably not.
Hang in there.
P.

Yeah, I'm with the rest of the ladies on this one. Confront him about it, but maybe do it in a counseling session or at the doctor's office, so the doctor can explain how someone gets chlamydia. Then he won't be able to try to convince you otherwise. Good luck.

Hey A.,

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I'm sorry to say, but I agree with the other ladies...I think he is to blame. On the website for the Dept. of Health and Human Services, it states that "If symptoms do occur, they usually appear within 1 to 3 weeks after exposure". It doesn't sound like it can be dormant as you have asked. Also it says that "Chlamydia can be transmitted during vaginal, anal, or oral sex." Doesn't sound like there is any other way of getting it.

It does sound like it is very easy to treat though. "Chlamydia can be easily treated and cured with antibiotics. A single dose of azithromycin or a week of doxycycline (twice daily) are the most commonly used treatments."

I would seriously speak with your husband and have him tested and treated. I hope everything works out for you. My thoughts are with you and your family if he is the cause!

STD's can lay dormant, but not for that long. And when tested, you would find out with or without symptoms. My guess is that he is being dishonest. I hate to say that, but been there before, so not cool, especially because it's unfair to the unborn child. What if you hadn't gotten checked or tested. That would be really bad. It's one thing to be unfaithful, but can we get a little respect by you wearing a condom. That's the least they should do. Is that too much to ask? It could have been worse and been HIV, just cause he can't keep it in his pants. I'm sorry, I got a little carried away. I have studied STD's a lot (I'm very intrigued by medicine because I used to want to be a OB/GYN).

I am sorry, but I think that doctors say that it can lie dormant so that it doesn't cause any problems inspired by their advice. The truth is that yes it can go without syptoms for a year or two, but during pregnancy, they test you for those things and if you had it at your first pregnancy, it would have shown up. Your husband is not being honest, and unfortunately, b/c he is denying it, the choice to leave him, seperate, etc. is only up to you.

I am sorry to have to tell you this, but if you say you have not been with anyone then he is doing something behind your back because it does not come from anything else... please feel free to email me I have dealt with these kins of situations alot. you are going to have to find out what he has been doing because he is not going to just tell you..

By what I have been told is that you can get it from a toliet seat. It isn't just sexually transmitted disease.