A Question of What to Do??

there is no way I would agree to a hysterectomy. I don't know how old you are. I have had one and I'm fairly young but I knew I was done having kids. I wouldn't agree to it unless absolutely necessary. And then I would get a second opinion.

I understand the emotion behind not wanting to get a hysterectomy. I would definately do research and ask you doc ALOT more questions. If you need to get a second opinion. In the end you need to make the best decision for yourself, your son and any potential child(ren) you may have. Will not having the hysterectomy risk leaving your son motherless? Will another pregnancy mean risking leaving two children motherless? Does a man who won't be with you because you had a life-saving procedure really love you?(Of course this is a question you may need to answer down the road). Good Luck

did your doctor even figure out what was causing the heavy bleeding in the first place? it sounds to me like your doctor is just using the hysterectomy as a cure all for your female problems. the bleeding may have been caused by something not so serious. for now, i would say "no organ removal please". if it happens again soon, possibly consider after doing a ton of research. who knows, you may never bleed this heavy again.

A.,

When it comes to your health and the possibility of life and death, you have to ask yourself if you would want to be with a man that did not understand your decision for the surgery. Your health has got to come first, as well as your ability to be there for your 4 year old. If you meet a man that wants more children, there are a ton of other options. If there are other reasons you do not want to have the surgery, then that is different. Don't let the possibility of some future relationship strain keep you from taking precautions to be healthy.

A.

I'm so sorry that you are faced with such a difficult decision like this. My advice to you would be to ask your dr. more questions about your condition. And it never hurts to get a 2nd or even 3rd opinion...especially since you ARE so hesitant (and rightly so).
IF the other dr's feel the same as your current dr., then I would go ahead with the hysterectomy. Should the right man come along for you, he will be understanding and know that you are lucky to be alive.
You do have a child to think about. You don't want your son growing up with his momma, if it can be avoided. And should you really want more children in the future, there's always adoption. There are so many deserving children out there, that need wonderful, loving homes.
Good luck with everything!

A.,

Sorry to hear of your difficulties. Before going to the extreme of a hysterectomy, I would definitely get a second opinion--no matter how much you trust your doctor.

Don't worry so much about the future man in your life. Maybe he will already have a child or two, maybe he won't want any more. If he is the right person, it won't matter whether or not you can have more kids.

Finally, with the cervical cancer, I would say count your many blessing on already having a child and still being here to be the mother.

I wish you all the best, and try to do something relaxing today to take your mind off your health.

K.

its better to be safe then sorry! if you find someone who loves you then he should understand. your not being selfish. you are helping yourself before some bad happens. ok think of it this way, do you want to be in pain all the time or get that fixed a live a normal life? you have one child, how many do you want? are you happy with the one?

A hysterectomy is not something to consider lightly. Having one is a huge ordeal for your body to adjust to and you are never the same. If I were in your position I would research as much as possible on what is involved in a hysterectomy post-op (how your body changes etc) as well as seriously consider getting a second opinion. I am not suggesting that your Dr. isnt correct to recommend one-its just wise to always do your own research whenever faced with such a huge decision and second opinions are never a bad thing. Its your body-you sound like you have reservations-its worth considering ALL your options before agreeing to a procedure you arent sure about. I hope you find an answer thats right for you and your situation.

First, there are many options to having a blood transfusion. It is extremely dangerous and goes directly against the direction of the Bible.
Second, many surgeries can be avoided by allowing some time and getting a second and third opinion.
See the doctors at Fairview Hospital. Fairview not only completes wonderful bloodless surgeries, but they also have an outstanding OB/GYN board. Saint Vincent's Hospital in downtown Cleveland spearheads bloodless surgery in the area.
Surely you want your child to have his mother around for years to come!
If you want names please contact me.
~R. B

Personally I think you should wait and see how things go on your next cycle. If the bleeding is continuous....then do it. If it slows down...keep an eye on it,and if it worsens call your Dr. immediately.

That bleeding pattern is definitely not normal.

Hi A.,
You are faced with difficult decisions and have already made difficult ones.
God created our bodies to be healthy and my experience has shown that with proper nutrition, they are able to heal themselves to amazing degrees. Even your emotion ups and downs can be nutrition related.
I was faced with similar surgery but looked for a way to allow my body to heal rather than just remove the symptom.
Please feel free to contact me if I can help you find other answers.
S.

Please get a second opinion. I don't understand why it is in medicine that if something is not working right, the answer is to cut it out. I would talk to some other doctors as well as some naturopaths. There may be another way to help you.

Hi A.. I went through something very similar when I was 25 years old. I had uteran/cervical cancer. I was a single mom of two children at the time. I opted for the hysterectomy because the tests the doctors ran showed the cancer coming back. Have your doctors told you the reason why you had the bleeding? If it is cancer related, being that you have a history, I would check into your options for hysterectomy or what the doctors called "roller ball" therapy. Roller ball, the way it was explained to me, is a heated ablasion (sp) ball that is used on the lining of the uterus to burn the top layer. It has to be done every so many months and can sometimes stop the growth of cancers. I decided against it because the cure rate wasn't nearly as high as it was with the hysterectomy. I looked at it like this... my children need a mother more than they need another sibling, I will keep my ovaries giving me the option of a suragate mother in the future and there is always adoption... nothing was worth taking the risk of my life when I looked at all of the options. Now I am with a wonderful man, the most wonderful man I've ever met. He does not have children but does want them. He is a wonderful father to my children and he and I have talked at length about what he wants in the future. We've decided to check into the options for a suragate mother for a child of ours and if that isn't an option we will adopt. A man who truly loves you and your child will understand that your life was the most important. Ultimately this decision isn't one to make over night and nothing anyone tells you will make it any easier. I know its a hard decision to make, take your time and think about it, weigh your options, check into new research and technology, get second and even third opinions. Be completely sure of your decision. I wish there was a simple way to decide, I really do. My thoughts are with you. If you ever want to talk, feel free to get in touch.

I think you should ask more questions to your doctor, and i think that if he feels that your life is at risk, and it is a nessaccery surgery, that it should be done. You already have one child, and the most important thing is to always be here and healthy for him. The most important thing in a childs life is their mommy. I dont think that you should be concerned about what a man thinks. Your health is way more important. , and if you find a man that isnt comfortable with a woman that had to have an emergency hestor. and cant have any children, then that man aint right for you. You will find a man that is glad you did it, to save your life, and isnt worried about the fact that you cant have any more children. The right man for you, will be glad that you are still alive, instead of sick and possible worse in order to have a child. Its up to you, but I think that if there isnt any way around it, then you should have it done. Your child needs his mommy, and thats is the most important.

Obviously you need to talk to your doctor and ask more questions. My own opinion is that if it's that serious and the doctor is concerned about it happening again, i would think about your current child. Having one child and being able to be here to see them grow up is more important than waiting for a child you may never decide to have.