A Question...

Hi T.,

I am not sure where you live, but I teach a martial arts class in Meridian Ranch (about 15 minutes east of Powers). If you have a negative reaction to martial arts, I promise you that our class is different. It is a mix of men, women, children and many families. We are very supportive of each other and the class is very reasonably priced. If child care is an issue, there is childcare for I think $1 an hour per child right in the same gym -- my kids loved going to childwatch until they got too old (6 is the cut off age).
If you would like to try it out, please give me a call --

L.
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It sounds to me like you have a very rewarding and fulfilling life. As for what they are saying, aren't you doing something for yourself by enjoying being a mommy and teaching your son to care for others? They learn that first by caring for animals. On the second one, don't get too worried. When I finally decided I didn't care if it would happen or not, it happened. I'm four months along with #3 and the doctors all told me that couldn't happen without their help. (I only had help on one.) Maybe you could treat yourself to a massage or a pedicure, and that would satisfy your family. Sounds good to me! :)

if you are happy that is all that matters. I'm sorry but I think your family should jsut butt out. if you should feel the need to take a class try a community college they have non credit courses that are cheap and fun. and it could be a way for you to meet people with your intersets too

Too bad you dont live near me...i'd get you into scrapbooking. I love it.

But, find a mommy group near by. The ones around here do play dates, and mommy nights out!

But don't let others get to you.

go back to college and take one of their small classes that dont expect much in demand. like art class...OR go on to your city or state official website page and look up events or free classes you would like to look into. OR...go to one of the websites for kids like www.kidspages.org and look up events. "FREE EVENTS" yay!...www.about.com ROCKS!!!! you can get free spanish classes online and tons more of stuff. keep in touch.

One thing that I learned a long time ago is what other people think is not important. You have full plate as it is.
If you are content, then nothing is broken and doesn't need fixing. Enjoy your son and husband, dogs and your daycare children.

Good luck!

K.

I would have to say that is the most difficult aspect of having kids... no more 'me' time for mom! :( I am part of a Bunco group (I know... such an old lady thing) that I love because it gets me out of the house once a month for an evening to have adult conversation. I also try to keep in touch with friends in similar situations and even if we just get our kids together to play, at least we get to chat it up for a couple hours, ya know? But, ultimately, only you can determine if you need more 'me' time.

It sounds like you like you have a hobby that you enjoy in the rescue. I assume you would not do it otherwise....? I am sure that the rescues also take up a good amount of your time every day. Plus there is something to be said for down-time - not every minute of every day has to be filled with frantic activity.

However, should you feel like doing a class on something once in a while, an easy and inexpensive way is through your local City Parks & Recreation Department. They usually have classes that last just a few weeks, so you would not need to commit a long time. The class topics here at least are on all kinds of sports, crafts, dancing, languages, well-being and personal development. Ours have websites, so I am sure you can have a look at your city's catalogue online for a quick look.

Have fun!
D.

T., if you feel happy and fulfilled don't fall into the trap of someone else making you believe your life ISN'T all those things! also, some people don't know how to relax, are workaholics and don't understand when others have boundaries and don't work work work every waking moment of their lives.
i've been a SAHM mom for 20 years and when my 3 children were younger and i was so extremely busy running them around to private school in different locations, volunteering at church whenever they were open as well as making homemade food every day and running the house/daily cleaning! once they got older and all were at school all day others would ask me: "so, what are you going to do now?". well, let's see...after 15 years of no sleep and too busy to scratch an itch on my nose i am going to dedicate myself to running the house and perfecting my cooking and indoor gardening skills!i've also become a fitness enthusiast. LOL you know what? don't let people make you feel guilty for your decisions. when/if the time is right to make a change, trust me~you'll be the first to know! good luck to you! :)