I and BF figured our budget, time, daycare, extra expenses and almost to the extreme of everything I can think of. Financially we can TTC and still be fairly well off. We will have to cut down the lunch outings and our every other weekend with our friends but we are fine with that. They can come over once in awhile and hang out. Maybe friends and bf can sit around the fire and have a few beers (I haven't drank a beer in quite a while! so no big for me)
. Anyways he told me that we wouldn't try until August / our 1 year. However I have been on BC for 5 (dropped beginning of July) months and I don't feel it will be out of my system by then. So I decided to wait one more month. We are fine with this. Plus we both are getting the feeling someone is missing in the house. Yes we have factored in the new puppy! As much as we will love him he is not a child and that is what we are missing in our family. Plus DS has been asking for a baby brother now. So we know he is ready as well. There are just some things that I have questions about.
Because I was on birth control for a short time, how long should I wait? I know some birth controls can cause health issues if you conceive to early. I was on Apex birth control pills if that makes a difference.
Also I have been off of my antidepressants now for 2 1/2 months is that long enough to wait. Or should I give it more time.
Also nobody really knows we are going to try to conceive. Other then my sister who is my moral support right now. He would like to keep this between us until we are at 20 weeks due to my last pregnancy. I am so excited though. I understand his reasoning, and I respect him for this decision, however I am really going to want someone to talk milestones with. Can someone on here be my go to gal/ guy just because I need to blurt information?
We have talked about this, A LOT! We have also had several conversations about this with my councilor and she is for it all the way so please don't take judgment there!
Make a preconception appointment with a doctor and ask him/her. It really depends on what medications you were taking.
You need to talk with a pharmacist about how long to be off medications.
I've not heard of needing to be off any specific length of time but the only way to get an accurate answer is to talk with a pharmacist.
I think you should talk to your doctor re your BC/anti depressant questions, as we have NO idea what your personal health situation is like. We moms have a lot of great advice to give but anything that may or may not affect the health and development of an unborn child should be discussed with your doctor FIRST.
Also, since you are not married, make sure your boyfriend has a living trust/will in place NOW so you and your children will be protected if, God forbid, anything should happen to him. As a girlfriend you're not entitled to any assets and have no power to make medical decisions, that automatically goes to his (adult) next of kin. If you're going to continue to have kids together without getting married you need to do this. This is not a judgement this is for your own protection, and your kids, take care of it now!
You need to talk with your OB/GYN about both medication questions. Even if we had your chart right in front of us, we can't tell you what's medically right for you.
Preconception appt. your OB may or may not be familiar with your antidepressant. So make sure when booking the appt to mention the specif med and dosage so they can look it up.
Well for me I got off BC and tried right away. Ovulated about 2 weeks later and was pregnant. I don't think you have to wait at all after you get off BC, it's just that sometimes they say you might not get pregnant right after coming off the pill due to those hormones hanging around in your system. As for someone to lean on, I'm here all the time! :)
How long you need to be off your BC depends on what kind you were using. Best of luck!
I agree with talking to the pharmacist or even your doctor. I personally got off bc and within two months I was pregnant with no harm to the baby. Good luck!
I stopped taking birth control, got pregnant the NEXT WEEK, and my son is a perfectly healthy 7 year old.
Absolutely no judgement here, but is there a reason that you are trying to get pregnant with a boyfriend instead of waiting to get pregnant with a husband? (said the former single mother)
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I don't know about your meds or how long you need to be off them, but while you are waiting you should be taking prenatal vitamins to make sure your folate levels and other nutrients are where they need to be for conception and support of your pregnancy when you achieve it.
I applaud you for actually thinking this through and discussing with your BF before taking any action. I would strongly advise you to take the discussions one step further and discuss this with an OB/GYN before going forward. If you don't have an OB/GYN, this is the time to find one. You will need one anyway, so the cost of one extra appointment shouldn't be a determining factor. I got PG with both my children after being off the pill for 2 months. I think the biggest scare factor is the other medication - why you were on it to begin with, how that reason can be affected by the hormones of pregnancy, and if enough time has passed to conceive. Finally, if there was any depression issues the OB should be aware as they'll want to be on the lookout for symptoms after the baby is born. Good luck!
My doctor told me you do NOT need to wait for BC to get out of your system. He said you are actually more fertile right when you go off and that it declines over time. So go off the pill and start trying whenever you are ready. Don't feel like you have to get it out of your system.
You can be on some antidepressants while pregnant. I think 2.5 months is more than enough time for any to be out of your system, especially since you can take many while pregnant. Consult with your doctor, as they may actually want you on the medication during pregnancy to help avoid (or reduce) symptoms of postpartum depression.
To be honest most of these are questions for a doctor. No one can tell you besides a doctor if or when you should TTC after stopping birth control and especially psych meds. Psych meds can cause major birth defects in babies and a doctor is the only person that can really give you that information. Sure you'll find person A that got pregnant the month after stopping 18 pills and her baby was fine but then you'll also find person B who got pregnant 6 months after stopping these two pills and had a baby with a heart defect. I'd ask a doctor not a bunch of strangers online who aren't doctors and certainly don't know your medical history. They are the only ones that know the half lives and such of medicines. Not to mention you shouldn't stop any meds without consulting a doctor.
But I don't know why anyone would judge you if you are fiscally and emotionally ready to have a baby after I had those small details verified go for it! Best of luck to you guys.
If it were me, I would discuss the TTC with your gyn or doctor, just to be sure you are chemically clear for growing a healthy baby.
Have fun and good luck... sounds like you've done all the other things you should be doing, and it's great that you have the support of a counselor through all this. I hope things work out for you.:)
Even though I respect your decision to keep your trying or getting pregnant a secret I think it's going to be very hard to keep it a secret. You will be seeing your friends and can't drink or you will have a really expanded middle. At 20 weeks you will be showing and it will be impossible to keep it a secret as long as he/you would like to. I think you should be able to talk to people about your excitement or worries. I may wait until after the first trimester to say something or say somethinng when it becomes obvious.
