8-Year Old Daughter Sleeps in My Bed!!

I had one of my children do this (the first actually). It is very difficult to have a good night sleep with an older child kicking and thrashing like they do. Ultimately I did not find a solution, I actually had several of my friends tell me to just wait it out and he would stop at around 9. They were right, within a month or two of his 9th birthday, he went to his room and stayed there.

I wish I had a better solution for you, but thought this info might help at least.

Good luck!

Get a king size bed. I'm not being funny. I sleep in the same bed with my soon to be 10 year old. I feel comforted with her even though she steals my covers, elbows me etc. They are only young once. In our case, we don't have a choice. Husband sleeps upstairs and I have to be downstairs to run my 24 hour daycare. Grandma occupies one bedroom and 20 year old daughter and grandson occupies another. Until my mother passes or my daughter moves out, nothing changes. I don't want my mother to pass and I'll be empty nesting and grieving when my grandson goes! :)

It's not the end of the world. Tell her that the first few hours of the night are for you and your husband to cuddle and enjoy your private time. After that, she's welcome in the bed.

The minute she goes to get into your bed, you need to walk her back to hers. EVERY SINGLE TIME. If you let her get away with it, even once, you'll have to start all over.
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As long as you are not taking her back to her bed, why should she stay in her bed?

Walk her back EVERYTIME. You and your husband may need to take nights. You do Monday night , him Tuesday.. until it stops.

During the day tell her, she needs to sleep in her own bed from now on.
10 year old's need to have enough confidence to know they can sleep in their own beds in their own rooms.. 4th graders usually are beginning to be very independent. If there is some sort of problem, she needs to help figure out how to solve this problem.. Make her in charge of it..

Does she need a CD player that she can turn on and listen to a book on CD? Is she getting up to go potty and then coming to your bed? Ask her why and how is SHE going to solve this.

I am sending you strength..

Explain to your daughter, and lock your door. Set up a dog bed or something in the hallway. When she gets up, and pounds on your door, check on her, offer to tuck her back in to her bed, or offer the hallway floor. If she crawls in to your bed while you are sleeping, keep her out of your room.

She's 8 years old. She won't be permanently traumatized by not being able to sleep in your bed. Good luck.

You need to take her back to bed every single time she comes in. it's going to be rough at first but so worth it in the end. Maybe tell her if she can go a whole month sleeping in her own bed, you'll get her new bedding for her room. Good luck!

Don't let her stay in your bed. If she comes in there take her right back to her own bed. And make sure to punish her the following day. Maybe not let her participate in a family project, take a favorite toy away, etc...But first set down and talk to her to see why she keeps getting into your bed. Maybe she is afraid or has nightmares causing this behavior. Once you rule out any problems and it is just for attention then you can handle the situation. Good Luck!

This might be a silly question, but have you asked her why she keeps coming into your bed? Have you explained to her that mommy and daddy need rest in order to do a good job at work, or have energy to play with the kids, and so they are not grumpy? Ever see supernanny? She teaches parents to stand their ground and keep trotting the child right back to the bed and hopefully the child will give up----make sure YOU don't!! Remember, YOU are the parent, the one in charge .Take control and good luck!