I was wondering if anyone else experienced spotting and mild cramps and back pain while 5 weeks pregnant. 4 days ago i started spoting 11/05. It is dark brown in color and i have mild cramps too. I saw my OB and he said that there is nothing I can do except to stop lifting anything. I have been taking the fertility drug Clomid for the last 2 months. I have been trying to get pregnant since December. I just was wondering what others expereinced. I dont know if I am miscarrying or this is just simple spotting.
Follow-up:
Okay so I had an ultrasound on Friday 11/16 and rushed into surgery that night. I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy that had already started to bleed and was close to rupturing my fallopian tube. They were able to save the tube. I had laprascopic surgery as well as a d&c. Thanks to all that wrote me. Right now I am just trying to heal both physically and emotionally.Knowing that they heard a heartbeat is what has been the hardest part of all.
Big hugs to you.... I'm glad that you got treated in the nick of time. Although this is a difficult situation... take comfort in knowing that many are thinking about you, me included. I was wondering how you were doing. My heart goes out to you... take good care of yourself, and pamper yourself. All my best,
~Susan
Hi N..
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how difficult it can be as I went through a miscarriage several years ago. Take the time to grieve for your baby and take good care of yourself. Surround yourself with people you love and that can be of comfort to you. One thing that helped me to heal was to name my baby and to do something special in his/her memory. And I remember her on what would have been her birthday. And when the time is right to try again you will know it in your heart.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take care, K.
Hi N.,
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage several years ago and it took me a long time to get over it (some days I still think about the baby I lost). I know I got a lot of dumb advice and things that people would say to me, so... I just want to say I will pray for you and hope that your healing physically and emotionally is quick. Some days will be better than others.
God bless,
J.
I am very sorry for your loss. ((hugs))
I am so very sorry that this was the way it turned out for you. My heart breaks for what you must be going through. At least they caught it before it was too late, and hopefully in time you can try again. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
~S. R
I'm so, so sorry. I've never been in your position so can't know what you are going through, but your follow-up made me cry. I'm sending warm thoughts your way. Perhaps keeping close to your 19 month old daughter and being grateful for her will help you to heal. Take care!!!
I am sorry about your lose. I am glad you are ok and I will pray for you.
I know you! I just signed up for this forum based on recommendations from a friend. I saw your story. I hope you're feeling better! xo C.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish there was some way they could implant an ectopic pregnancy into the womb, but there just isn't a way. It's good news they were able to save your tube. The fact you were pregnant proves you will most likely get pregnant again. You'll probably be followed very closely in the beginning next time around. Time will heal both your physical and mental wounds. Be thankful they caught it in time, ectopic pregnancy can kill you. Be thankful this holiday season that your daughter still has her mother. It doesn't take away from the pain you're experiencing, but it does help put things in perspective.
Dear N.,
I know, you will think about that baby for a long time. I miscarried 5 times, and finally adopted two wonderful babies. Life is just plain hard and sad sometimes. We just have to look forward and pray for peace and guidance about when to try to get pregnant again.
My grandmother had 8 pregnancies and only had 3 babies survive to adulthood. When she was in her eighties she still talked about Hazel, the fourth baby that lived the longest. She was two years old when she died. So you see, welcome to motherhood, it is the heighth of happiness and bliss to the depths of sorrow. So it goes.
C. N.
Oh honey, my heart breaks for you. (((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
A very similar thing happened to me a few years ago, and on my birthday no less. It was devastating for me, but it also connected me with so many wonderful people I would never have met otherwise.
Take it slow and be gentle with yourself. It may help to get support, I know it did me. I reached out all sorts of places, but the most helpful was this yahoo group:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ectopicpregnancy/
What was the most helpful was that I was able to give support to others as well as receive it, and that helped me to feel some good could come out of my sadness.
Take care, more (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
A.
Sending good thoughts your way...your Mamasource Moms support you!
My sister, after trying for years to get pregnant, finally got pregnant. She started bleeding thinking she was miscarrying she went into her doctor right away. They diagnosed her with an ectopic pregnancy and had her take abortion drugs to try to abort the fetus. After going in a second time and them having her take more drugs, they thought she was doing ok. While she was at a friends house she passed out in the bathroom and her husband rushed in to find her and they took her to the ambulance. She lost the tube and told them before they went in that if she was going to lose the tube to take th ovary too because she didn't want it to happen again.
To help her get through it they gave the baby a gender neutral name and had a little memorial for the baby. Her and her husband took a day to go to the sea and talk about what could have been, what would have been and to just be together in their difficult time. I hope this can help you and your family.
