5 Yr Old Still Pottying Her Pants

I would have her help you by getting the diaper and wipes for the baby when its time to change the baby. Also, maybe put the bottles somewhere close so she can get it out for you and the burp rags somewhere close as well. So when it is time to feed the baby, you can have your daughter get the bottle and the burp rag for you. Let her feel like a big girl by doing things that she can help out with. Anything that you think she can handle, let her do. Good luck

Sounds like you are doing all the right stuff! I found buying favorite underware- You don't want to get Dora dirty ya know! Also, when the 6 month old needs his diaper changed clearly say to your 5 year old "I am so glad you don't poop in your pants any more". I always made diaper changing a very interactive time for the babies and maybe you do too-maybe just change the diaper and not make it as big of a deal for a while it maybe a little bit of jealousy. But it sounds like you are doing all the right things. And as someone had wrote earlier it may not be that at all but a need for a diet change-maybe she just can't make it to the potty on time!
S.

I went through nighttime peeing with my daughter until she was 7. After testing her for everything, including diabetes, I finally went to see a Naturepath. What she told me worked immediately to stop the problem, which is physiological rather than emotional...

The Problem: The bladder releases when blood sugar drops so keeping blood sugar levels up is the key to kids sleeping through the night and having more awareness around needing to pee during the day.

The Solution: Making sure your child is eating a high fat, high protein diet, low sugar diet throughout the day and giving a large high fat/low sugar snack before bed. Water should be given liberally throughout the day and before bed also because dehydration releases the bladder as well (the brain thinks it is starving and blood sugar drops when dehydration sets in).

Bedtime snacks: Cheese with bread or crackers (or just cheese), peanut butter or nut butter with bread or crackers, bean and cheese burrito, fish ~ tuna on toast... what ever you child will eat that is high in fat/protein and low in sugar (make sure your peanut butter is not sweetened).

Water, water, water ~ the more water your child can drink the better.

You won't believe how well this works. Start today and he will be all over the bed-wetting and daytime accidents by next week.

About the pooping in her pants, your five year old is old enough to tell you why she isn't getting to the bathroom. Ask her. If she says, "I don't know," you should continue the conversation, leading her down some paths of discovery:

Is she afraid to poop on the toilet? Is she afraid she will be flushed down? Is she afraid that if she poops in the toilet she won't be your little baby anymore and you won't love her?

Little girls are easy to communicate with. The more you lead her down her own self-discovery path, the better you will both communicate.

Try a chriopractor. Has worked great for my 4yr old. Don't know about the pooping in her pants, agree with making her clean up the mess. That should be enough motivation to make it to the toilet in time.

I wouldn't worry about her still wetting at night. Lots of kids that age still go at night--she can't control it.

When she goes in her pants, have her rinse them out and "wash" them in the sink. She will get sick of the extra work.

It sounds like a phase. I doubt she'll be going in her pants at Kindergarten.

For now I wouldnt stress about it. With so many little ones, it could be that she thinks its ok to do the same things. She will out grow it. My 20 month old, every once in a while, needs to have a pacifer and a blanket and to be put into the swing. She never has used one before the baby was born, and never really uses it now, just when she needs a moment. My three year old had a hard time with the training part, but is now accident free during the day. She still has night problems though.

I dont know how long she has been doing this, however, it could be a medical problem. If she has always done this, even before the babies were born, then talk to your doctor.

Good Luck!

All very normal, M.:) Do not worry. I would congratulate her on her dry mess free days, and not even say anything if she has an accident. Just change her and go about the day as if nothing happened. Positive reinforcement always works best. She is developing just fine. My oldest still had accidents at that age. He was in preschool, kindergarten with once in a while needing to go change, but teachers totally understand and do not make a big deal of it. They descretely take the child to the nurse or bathroom to have them change their pants and on with the day. As long as she gets the concept and most of the time does just fine then there is really nothing you need to do:) Congrats on your new baby and engagement!